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If You Want To Know How To Make People Shun You And Laugh At You Behind Your Back And Even Despise You, Here Is The Recipe: Never Listen To Anyone For Long. Talk Incessantly About Yourself. If You Have An Idea While The Other Person Is Talking, Don't Wait For Him Or Her To Finish: Bust Right In And Interrupt In The Middle Of A Sentence.

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If You Want To Know How To Make People Shun You And Laugh At You Behind Your Back And Even Despise You, Here Is The Recipe: Never Listen To Anyone For Long. Talk Incessantly About Yourself. If You Have An Idea While The Other Person Is Talking, Don't Wait For Him Or Her To Finish: Bust Right In And Interrupt In The Middle Of A Sentence.

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Obviously, Circumstances Alone Do Not Make Us Happy Or Unhappy. It Is The Way We React To Circumstances That Determines Our Feelings. Jesus Said That The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within You. That Is Where The Kingdom Of Hell Is, Too.

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Hurting A Man In His Dignity Is A Crime.

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Three-fourths Of The People You Will Ever Meet Are Hungering And Thirsting For Sympathy. Give It To Them, And They Will Love You.

Life Is Bigger Than Processes And Overflows And Dwarfs Them.

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The Best Argument Is That Which Seems Merely An Explanation.

You Are Merely Not Feeling Equal To The Tasks Before You.

John Wanamaker, Founder Of The Stores That Bear His Name, Once Confessed: "i Learned Thirty Years Ago That It Is Foolish To Scold. I Have Enough Trouble Overcoming My Own Limitations Without Fretting Over The Fact That God Has Not Seen Fit To Distribute Evenly The Gift Of Intelligence.

By Fighting You Never Get Enough, But By Yielding You Get More Than You Expected.

Remember, Happiness Doesn't Depend Upon Who You Are Or What You Have; It Depends Solely Upon What You Think. So Start Each Day By Thinking Of All The Things You Have To Be Thankful For. Your Future Will Depend Very Largely On The Thoughts You Think Today. So Think Thoughts Of Hope And Confidence And Love And Success.

Most Of Us Have Far More Courage Than We Ever Dreamed We Possessed.

When We Hate Our Enemies, We Are Giving Them Power Over Us: Power Over Our Sleep, Our Appetites, Our Blood Pressure, Our Health And Our Happiness. Our Enemies Would Dance With Joy If Only They Knew How They Were Worrying Us, Lacerating Us, And Getting Even With Us! Our Hate Is Not Hurting Them At Al, But Our Hate Is Turning Our Days And Nights Into A Hellish Turmoil.

Instead Of Condemning People, Let's Try To Understand Them. Let's Try To Figure Out Why They Do What They Do. That's A Lot More Profitable And Intriguing Than Criticism; And It Breeds Sympathy, Tolerance And Kindness.

A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

When Dealing With People, Remember You Are Not Dealing With Creatures Of Logic, But Creatures Of Emotion.

No Matter What Happens, Always Be Yourself.

Always Be Yourself

Today Is Life-the Only Life You Are Sure Of. Make The Most Of Today. Get Interested In Something. Shake Yourself Awake. Develop A Hobby. Let The Winds Of Enthusiasm Sweep Through You. Live Today With Gusto.

If We Speak Poorly About That Which We Do Well... People Will Assume We Perform Poorly!

Create Happiness For Others.

Monotony Reveals Our Limitations.

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want.

There Is A Reason Why The Other Man Thinks And Acts As He Does. Ferret Out That Reason — And You Have The Key To His Actions, Perhaps To His Personality. Try Honestly To Put Yourself In His Place.

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

The Difference Between A Grave And A Rut Are The Dimensions.

Life Truly Is A Boomerang. What You Give, You Get.

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So, To Prevent Fatigue And Worry, The First Rule Is: Rest Often. Rest Before You Get Tired.

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I Realize Now That People Are Not Thinking About You And Me Or Caring What Is Said About Us. They Are Thinking About Themselves-before Breakfast, After Breakfast, And Right On Until Ten Minutes Past Midnight. They Would Be A Thousand Times More Concerned About A Slight Headache Of Their Own Than They Would About The News Of Your Death Or Mine.

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Live An Active Life Among People Who Are Doing Worthwhile Things, Keep Eyes And Ears And Mind And Heart Open To Absorb Truth, And Then Tell Of The Things You Know, As If You Know Them. The World Will Listen, For The World Loves Nothing So Much As Real Life.

Good Leaders Are Scarce; So I'm Following Myself.

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How Often We All Have Heard Speakers Begin By Calling The Attention Of The Audience To Their Lack Of Preparation Or Lack Of Ability. If You Are Not Prepared, The Audience Will Probably Discover It Without Your Assistance.

Appreciation Is The Legal Tender That All Souls Enjoy.

Fear Is The Result Of A Lack Of Confidence. A Lack Of Confidence Is The Result Of Not Knowing What You Can Do. A Lack Of Knowing What You Can Do Is Caused By A Lack Of Experience. A Lack Of Experience Is Caused By A Lack Of Doing Something New.

Tell Me What Gives A Man Or Woman Their Greatest Pleasure And I'll Tell You Their Philosophy Of Life.

Everybody In The World Is Seeking Happiness - And There Is One Sure Way To Find It. That Is By Controlling Your Thoughts. Happiness Doesn't Depend On Outward Conditions. It Depends On Inner Conditions.

Let The Other Person Save Face.

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In Talking With People, Don't Begin By Discussing The Things On Which You Differ. Begin By Emphasizing - And Keep On Emphasizing - The Things On Which You Agree. Keep Emphasizing, If Possible, That You Are Both Striving For The Same End And That Your Only Difference Is One Of Method And Not Of Purpose.

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Most Of The Important Things In The World Have Been Accomplished By People Who Have Kept On Trying When There Seemed To Be No Hope At All.

Praise The Slightest Improvement And Praise Every Improvement. Be Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise.

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