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Live An Active Life Among People Who Are Doing Worthwhile Things, Keep Eyes And Ears And Mind And Heart Open To Absorb Truth, And Then Tell Of The Things You Know, As If You Know Them. The World Will Listen, For The World Loves Nothing So Much As Real Life.

-Dale Carnegie

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Live An Active Life

Dale Carnegie

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Live An Active Life Among People Who Are Doing Worthwhile Things, Keep Eyes And Ears And Mind And Heart Open To Absorb Truth, And Then Tell Of The Things You Know, As If You Know Them. The World Will Listen, For The World Loves Nothing So Much As Real Life.

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Remember That Unjust Critisism Is Often A Disquised Compliment.

Three-fourths Of The People You Will Ever Meet Are Hungering And Thirsting For Sympathy. Give It To Them, And They Will Love You.

When Dealing With People, Let Us Remember That We Are Not Dealing With Creatures Of Logic. We Are Dealing With Creatures Of Emotion, Creatures Bristling With Prejudices And Motivated By Pride And Vanity. ...any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn, And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self-control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

If We Merely Try To Impress People And Get People Interested In Us, We Will Never Have Many True, Sincere Friends. Friends, Real Friends, Are Not Made That Way.

If You Can't Sleep, Then Get Up And Do Something Instead Of Lying There Worrying. It's The Worry That Gets You, Not The Lack Of Sleep.

Encouragement Makes A Fault Easy To Correct, And A Challenge Easy To Take On.

Praise Is Like Sunlight To The Warm Human Spirit; We Cannot Flower And Grow Without It. And Yet, While Most Of Us Are Only Too Ready To Apply To Others The Cold Wind Of Criticism, We Are Somehow Reluctant To Give Our Fellow The Warm Sunshine Of Praise.

Pay Less Attention To What Men Say. Just Watch What They Do.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Our Mental Attitude Is The X Factor That Determines Our Fate.

If You Want To Gather Honey, Don't Kick Over The Beehive.

Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders.

You Must Have A Good Time Meeting People If You Expect Them To Have A Good Time Meeting You.

Having A Good Time

Let Us Not Get So Busy Or Live So Fast That We Can't Listen To The Music Of The Meadow Or The Symphony That Glorifies The Forest. Some Things In The World Are Far More Important Than Wealth; One Of Them Is The Ability To Enjoy Simple Things.

Neither You Nor I Nor Einstein Nor The Supreme Court Of The United States Is Brilliant Enough To Reach An Intelligent Decision On Any Problem Without First Getting The Facts

Actions Speak Louder Than Words, And A Smile Says, 'i Like You. You Make Me Happy. I Am Glad To See You.' That Is Why Dogs Make Such A Hit. They Are So Glad To See Us That They Almost Jump Out Of Their Skins. So, Naturally, We Are Glad To See Them.

You Make Me Happy

You Have It Easily In Your Power To Increase The Sum Total Of This World's Happiness Now. How? By Giving A Few Words Of Sincere Appreciation To Someone Who Is Lonely Or Discouraged. Perhaps You Will Forget Tomorrow The Kind Words You Say Today, But The Recipient May Cherish Them Over A Lifetime.

Happiness Doesn't Depend On Any External Conditions, It Is Governed By Our Mental Attitude.

Most Of The Important Things In The World Have Been Accomplished By People Who Have Kept On Trying When There Seemed To Be No Hope At All.

Fear Is The Result Of A Lack Of Confidence. A Lack Of Confidence Is The Result Of Not Knowing What You Can Do. A Lack Of Knowing What You Can Do Is Caused By A Lack Of Experience. A Lack Of Experience Is Caused By A Lack Of Doing Something New.

The Value Of A Smile... It Costs Nothing, But Creates Much. It Enriches Those Who Receive, Without Impoverishing Those Who Give. It Happens In A Flash And The Memory Of It Sometimes Lasts Forever. None Are So Rich They Can Get Along Without It, And None So Poor But Are Richer For Its Benefits. It Creates Happiness In The Home, Fosters Good Will In A Business, And Is The Countersign Of Friends.

He Who Treads Softly Goes Far.

When We Have Accepted The Worst, We Have Nothing More To Lose. And That Automatically Means We Have Everything To Gain.

If You Tell Me How You Get Your Feeling Of Importance, I'll Tell You What You Are.

The Difference Between Appreciation And Flattery? That Is Simple. One Is Sincere And The Other Insincere. One Comes From The Heart Out; The Other From The Teeth Out. One Is Unselfish; The Other Selfish. One Is Universally Admired; The Other Universally Condemned.

...the Best Possible Way To Prepare For Tomorrow Is To Concentrate With All Your Intelligence, All Your Enthusiasm, On Doing Today's Work Superbly Today. That Is The Only Possible Way You Can Prepare For The Future.

The Best Argument Is That Which Seems Merely An Explanation.

The Person Who Seeks All Their Applause From Outside Has Their Happiness In Another's Keeping .

Each Party Should Gain From The Negotiation.

If You Do Something For Someone Else, Never Remember. If Someone Does Something For You, Never Forget.

Let's Not Allow Ourselves To Be Upset By Small Things We Should Despise And Forget. Remember "life Is Too Short To Be Little".

Life Is Too Short

Stop Worrying And Start Living.

Always Avoid The Acute Angle.

The Successful Man Will Profit From His Mistakes And Try Again In A Different Way.

By Fighting You Never Get Enough, But By Yielding You Get More Than You Expected.

Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation.

Listen First. Give Your Opponents A Chance To Talk. Let Them Finish. Do Not Resist, Defend Or Debate. This Only Raises Barriers. Try To Build Bridges Of Understanding.

Once I Did Bad And That I Heard Ever. Twice I Did Good, But That I Heard Never.

This Is The Only Chance You Will Ever Have On Earth With This Exciting Adventure Called Life. So Why Not Plan It, And Try To Live It As Richly, As Happily As Possible?

Talk In Terms Of The Other Person's Interests.

If We Think Happy Thoughts, We Will Be Happy. If We Think Miserable Thoughts, We Will Be Miserable.

Patience And Perserverance Will Accomplish More In This World Than A Brilliant Dash. Remember That When Something Goes Wrong.

Close Your Eyes. You Might Try Saying. . . Something Like This: "the Sun Is Shining Overhead. The Sky Is Blue And Sparkling. Nature Is Calm And In Control Of The World-and I, As Nature's Child, Am In Tune With The Universe." Or-better Still-pray!

The Difference Between A Grave And A Rut Are The Dimensions.

Success In Dealing With People Depends On Sympathetic Grasp Of The Other Person's Viewpoint.

I Tend To Think Shorts Are Too Casual That's Just Not Businesslike.

Get The Facts. Let's Not Even Attempt To Solve Our Problems Without First Collecting All The Facts In An Impartial Manner.

Appreciation Is The Legal Tender That All Souls Enjoy.

Act As If You Were Already Happy And That Will Tend To Make You Happy.

Millions Of People Have Wrecked Their Lives In Angry Turmoil, Because They Refused To Accept The Worst; Refused To Try To Improve Upon It; Refused To Salvage What They Could From The Wreck. Instead Of Trying To Reconstruct Their Fortunes, They Engaged In A Bitter And "violent Contest With Experience"- And Ended Up Victims Of That Brooding Fixation Known As Melancholia.

If We Want To Find Happiness, Let's Stop Thinking About Gratitude Or Ingratitude And Give For The Inner Joy Of Giving.

Criticisms Are Like Homing Pigeons. They Always Return Home.

Check Up Each Week On The Progress You Are Making. Ask Yourself What Mistakes You Have Made, What Improvement, What Lessons You Have Learned For The Future.

The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It.

Most People Don't Remember Names, For The Simple Reason That They Don't Take The Time And Energy Necessary To Concentrate And Repeat And Fix Names Indelibly In Their Minds. They Make Excuses For Themselves; They Are Too Busy.

Remember My Name And You Add To My Feeling Of Importance.

Let The Other Person Save Face.

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Why Talk About What We Want? That Is Childish. Absurd. Of Course, You Are Interested In What You Want. You Are Eternally Interested In It. But No One Else Is. The Rest Of Us Are Just Like You: We Are Interested In What We Want.

Whenever Roosevelt (theodore) Expected A Visitor, He Sat Up Late The Night Before, Reading Up On The Subject In Which He Knew His Guest Was Particularly Interested. For Roosevelt Knew, All The Leaders Royal Road To A Person's Heart Is To Talk About The Things He Or She Treasures Most.

You Are Something New In This World. Never Before, Since The Beginning Of Time, Has There Ever Been Anybody Exactly Like You; And Never Again Throughout All The Ages To Come Will There Ever Be Anybody Exactly Like You Again.

Let's Find And Remedy All Our Weaknesses Before Our Enemies Get A Chance To Say A Word. That Is What Charles Darwin Did. ...when Darwin Completed The Manuscript Of His Immortal Book "the Origin Of Species" He Realized That The Publication Of His Revolutionary Concept Of Creation Would Rock The Intellectual And Religious Worlds. So He Became His Own Critic And Spent Another 15 Years Checking His Data, Challenging His Reasoning, And Criticizing His Conclusions.

If You Do The Little Jobs Well, The Big Ones Will Tend To Take Care Of Themselves.

If You Have Some Idea You Believe In, Don't Listen To The Croaking Chorus. Listen Only To What Your Own Inner Voice Tells You.

You Can't Get Anywhere In This World Without Wanting To Do Something.

Most Of Us Have Far More Courage Than We Ever Dreamed We Possessed.

The Only Way On Earth To Influence Other People Is To Talk About What They Want And Show Them How To Get It.

Life Truly Is A Boomerang. What You Give, You Get.

Don't Be Afraid To Give Your Best To What Seemingly Are Small Jobs.

Forget Yourself By Becoming Interested In Others. Do Every Day A Good Deed That Will Put A Smile Of Joy On Someone's Face.

Your Thoughts Make You What You Are; By Changing Our #‎ Thoughts We Can Change Our Lives.

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The Sure-thing Boat Never Gets Far From Shore.

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Excitement Radiates Through Your Eyes, Your Face, Your Voice, Your Soul, And Your Whole Personality.

Flattery Is From The Teeth Out. Sincere Appreciation Is From The Heart Out.

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I Know Men And Women Can Banish Worry, Fear And Various Kinds Of Illnesses, And Can Transform Their Lives By Changing Their Thoughts. I Know! I Know! I Know! I Have Seen Such Incredible Transformations Performed Hundreds Of Times. I Have Seen Them So Often That I No Longer Wonder At Them.

When We Hate Our Enemies, We Are Giving Them Power Over Us: Power Over Our Sleep, Our Appetites, Our Blood Pressure, Our Health, And Our Happiness.

Psychiatrists Declare That Most Of Our Fatigue Derives From Our Mental And Emotional Attitudes... What Kinds Of Emotional Factors Tire The Sedentary (or Sitting) Worker? Joy? Contentment? No! Never! Boredom, Resentment, A Feeling Of Not Being Appreciated, A Feeling Of Futility, Hurry, Anxiety, Worry-those Are The Emotional Factors That Exhaust The Sitting Worker, Make Him Susceptible To Colds, Reduce His Output, And Send Him Home With A Nervous Headache. Yes, We Get Tired Because Our Emotions Produce Nervous Tensions In The Body.

Success Is Getting What You Want. Happiness Is Wanting What You Get.

Did You Ever See An Unhappy Horse? Did You Ever See Bird That Had The Blues? One Reason Why Birds And Horses Are Not Unhappy Is Because They Are Not Trying To Impress Other Birds And Horses.

It Was This Desire For A Feeling Of Importance That Led An Uneducated, Poverty-stricken Grocery Clerk To Study Some Law Books He Found In The Bottom Of A Barrel Of Household Plunder That He Had Bought For Fifty Cents. You Have Probably Heard Of This Grocery Clerk. His Name Was Lincoln.

Develop Success From Failures. Discouragement And Failure Are Two Of The Surest Stepping Stones To Success.

Any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self Control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

The World Is Filled With Interesting Things To Do. Don't Lead A Dull Life In Such A Thrilling World.

If You Believe In What You Are Doing, Then Let Nothing Hold You Up In Your Work.

The Man Who Starts Out Going Nowhere, Generally Gets There.

Feeling Sorry For Yourself, And Your Present Condition, Is Not Only A Waste Of Energy But The Worst Habit You Could Possibly Have.

Avoid Arguments Like Rattlesnakes And Earthquakes

There Is A Certain Degree Of Satisfaction In Having The Courage To Admit One's Errors.

People Like People Who Help Them Like Themselves.

The Most Important Thing In Life Is Not Simply To Capitalize On Your Gains. Any Fool Can Do That. The Important Thing Is To Profit From Your Losses. That Requires Intelligence, And Makes The Difference Between A Man Of Sense And A Fool.

If You Got It, Ask Yourself Why And Try To Repeat The Action. If You Failed, Ask Yourself Why And Try To Learn From The Experience.

Instead Of Worrying About What People Say Of You, Why Not Spend Time Trying To Accomplish Something They Will Admire.

We Can All Endure Disaster And Tragedy, And Triumph Over Them-if We Have To. We May Not Think We Can, But We Have Surprisingly Strong Inner Resources That Will See Us Through If We Will Only Make Use Of Them. We Are Stronger Than We Think.

Be Honest, Look For Areas Where You Can Admit Error And Say So. Apologize For Your Mistakes. It Will Help Disarm Your Opponents And Reduce Defensiveness.

If Only The People Who Worry About Their Liabilities Would Think About The Riches They Do Possess, They Would Stop Worrying.

You Can Dramatize Your Ideas In Business Or In Any Other Aspect Of Your Life. It’s Easy

When Two Partners Always Agree, One Of Them Is Not Necessary." If There Is Some Point You Haven't Thought About, Be Thankful If It Is Brought To Your Attention.

You Can Get Ahead In The World. But You Will Have To Work, You Will Have To Want Tremendously To Accomplish Something, And Then Be Willing To Pay The Price. Are You Willing?

Everybody In The World Is Seeking Happiness - And There Is One Sure Way To Find It. That Is By Controlling Your Thoughts. Happiness Doesn't Depend On Outward Conditions. It Depends On Inner Conditions.

One Of The Most Tragic Things I Know About Human Nature Is That All Of Us Tend To Put Off Living.

Procrastination

A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

Let's Cease Thinking Of Our Accomplishments, Our Wants. Let's Try To Figure Out The Other Man's Good Points. Then Forget Flattery. Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation. Be Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise, And People Will Cherish Your Words And Treasure Them And Repeat Them Over A Lifetime - Repeat Them Years After You Have Forgotten Them.

So If You Aspire To Be A Good Conversationali St, Be An Attentive Listener.

Good Conversation

Remember, Happiness Doesn't Depend Upon Who You Are Or What You Have; It Depends Solely Upon What You Think. So Start Each Day By Thinking Of All The Things You Have To Be Thankful For. Your Future Will Depend Very Largely On The Thoughts You Think Today. So Think Thoughts Of Hope And Confidence And Love And Success.

The Words "think And Thank" Are Inscribed In Many Of The Cromwellian Churches Of England. These Words Ought To Be Inscribed In Our Hearts, Too: "think And Thank". Think Of All We Have To Be Grateful For, And Thank God For All Our Boons And Bounties.

I Honestly Believe That This Is One Of The Greatest Secrets To True Peace Of Mind -- A Decent Sense Of Values. We Could Annihilate 50 Percent Of All Our Worries At Once If We Would Develop A Sort Of Private Gold Standard -- A Gold Standard Of What Things Are Worth To Us In Terms Of Our Lives.

Don't Criticize, Condemn, Or Complain.

Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation. Call Attention To People's Mistakes Indirectly. Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person. Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders. Make The Fault Easy To Correct. Make The Other Person Happy About Doing What You Suggest.

Mix Judgement With Ambition And Season It With Energy. It Makes A Splendid Recipe For Success.

People Who Talk Only Of Themselves Think Only Of Themselves.

Learning Is An Active Process. We Learn By Doing.. Only Knowledge That Is Used Sticks In Your Mind.

Don't Be Afraid Of Enemies Who Attack You. Be Afraid Of The Friends Who Flatter You.

I Really Like Reading Books

Life Is Bigger Than Processes And Overflows And Dwarfs Them.

So, To Prevent Fatigue And Worry, The First Rule Is: Rest Often. Rest Before You Get Tired.

By Criticizing, We Do Not Make Lasting Changes And Often Incur Resentment.

If You Are Wrong, Admit It Quickly And Emphatically.

Influencing People

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You Are Going To Survive. And Good Things Are Going To Start To Happen Again. And One Day You Are Going To Look Back And This Will Not Even Be Such A Bad Thing

Praise The Slightest Improvement And Praise Every Improvement. Be Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise.

Much Of The Best Work Of The World Has Been Done Against Seeming Impossibilities.

A Smile Is Nature's Best Antidote For Discouragement. It Brings Rest To The Weary, Sunshine To Those Who Are Frowning, And Hope To Those Who Are Hopeless And Defeated. A Smile Is So Valuable That It Can't Be Bought, Begged, Borrowed, Or Taken Away Against Your Will. You Have To Be Willing To Give A Smile Away Before It Can Do Anyone Else Any Good. So If Someone Is Too Tired Or Grumpy To Flash You A Smile, Let Him Have One Of Yours Anyway. Nobody Needs A Smile As Much As The Person Who Has None To Give.

If You Are Not In The Process Of Becoming The Person You Want To Be, You Are Automatically Engaged In Becoming The Person You Don't Want To Be.

Finding Yourself

Instead Of Condemning People, Let's Try To Understand Them. Let's Try To Figure Out Why They Do What They Do. That's A Lot More Profitable And Intriguing Than Criticism; And It Breeds Sympathy, Tolerance And Kindness.

Nobody Is More Persuasive Than A Good Listener

We Talk A Lot About The Importance Of Physical Exercise To Wake Us Up Out Of The Half Sleep In Which So Many Of Us Walk Around. But We Need, Even More, Some Spiritual And Mental Exercises Every Morning To Stir Us Into Action. Give Yourself A Pep Talk Every Day.

An Argument Would Have Begun To Steam And Boil And Sputter - And You Know How Arguments End. Even If I Had Convinced Him That He Was Wrong, His Pride Would Have Made It Difficult For Him To Back Down And Give In.

No Matter What Happens, Always Be Yourself.

Always Be Yourself

It Isn't Work That Makes You Tired, It's Your Mental Attitude.

Mental Attitude

Self-expression Is The Dominant Necessity Of Human Nature.

A Barber Lathers A Man Before He Shaves Him.

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want.

It Isn't What You Have, Or Who You Are, Or Where You Are, Or What You Are Doing That Makes You Happy Or Unhappy. It Is What You Think About.

In Fact, Merely Writing The Facts On A Piece Of Paper And Stating Our Problem Clearly Goes A Long Way Toward Helping Us To Reach A Sensible Decision.

Develop Success From Failures. Discouragement And Failure Are Two Of The Surest Stepping Stones To Success. The Successful Man Will Profit From His Mistakes And Try Again In A Different Way. When You're Afraid, Keep Your Mind On What You Have To Do...if You Have Been Thoroughly Prepared, You Will Not Be Afraid. We All Have Possibilities We Don't Know About. We Can Do Things We Don't Even Dream We Can Do.

If Some People Are So Hungry For A Feeling Of Importance That They Actually Go Insane To Get It, Imagine What Miracle You And I Can Achieve By Giving People Honest Appreciation This Side Of Insanity.

George Bernard Shaw Was Right. He Summed It All Up When He Said: "the Secret Of Being Miserable Is To Have The Leisure To Bother About Whether You Are Happy Or Not." So Don't Bother To Think About It! Spit On Your Hands And Get Busy. Your Blood Will Start Circulating; Your Mind Will Start Ticking-and Pretty Soon This Whole Positive Upsurge Of Life In Your Body Will Drive Worry From Your Mind. Get Busy. Keep Busy. It's The Cheapest Kind Of Medicine There Is On This Earth-and One Of The Best.

All The King's Horses And All The King's Men Can't Put The Past Together Again. So Let's Remember: Don't Try To Saw Sawdust.

People Aren't Interested In You. They're Interested In Themselves

Take Charge Of Your Attitude. Don't Let Someone Else Choose It For You.

There Is A Reason Why The Other Man Thinks And Acts As He Does. Ferret Out That Reason — And You Have The Key To His Actions, Perhaps To His Personality. Try Honestly To Put Yourself In His Place.

You Can Conquer Almost Any Fear If You Will Only Make Up Your Mind To Do So. For Remember, Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

When I Asked Him -mr.henry Ford- If He Ever Worried, He Replied: "no. I Believe God Is Managing Affairs And That He Doesn't Need Any Advice From Me. With God In Charge, I Believe That Every-thing Will Work Out For The Best In The End. So What Is There To Worry About?

Remember, Today Is The Tomorrow You Worried About Yesterday.

Looking At The Other Person's Point Of View And Arousing In Him An Eager Want For Something Is Not To Be Construed As Manipulating That Person So That He Will Do Something That Is Only For Your Benefit And His Detriment. Each Party Should Gain From The Negotiation.

It Is The Way We React To Circumstances That Determines Our Feelings.

The Best Things In Life Are Yours, If You Can Appreciate Yourself.

Criticism Of Others Is Futile And If You Indulge In It Often You Should Be Warned That It Can Be Fatal To Your Career.

There Are Four Ways, And Only Four Ways, In Which We Have Contact With The World. We Are Evaluated And Classified By These Four Contacts: What We Do, How We Look, What We Say, And How We Say It.

The Life Of Many A Person Could Probably Be Changed If Only Someone Would Make Him Feel Important.

Do You Know Someone You Would Like To Change And Regulate And Improve? Good! That Is Fine. I Am All In Favor Of It, But Why Not Begin On Yourself? From A Purely Selfish Standpoint, That Is A Lot More Profitable Than Trying To Improve Others - Yes, And A Lot Less Dangerous.

If You Increase Your Success By Even A Mere 10 Percent, You Have Become 10 Percent More Effective As A Leader Than You Were Before.

Believe You Will Be Successful And You Will.

Being Successful

A Boil On A Man's Neck Is More Important To Him Than 40 Floods In India

An Effective Speaker Knows That The Success Or Failure Of His Talk Is Not For Him To Decide - It Will Be Decided In The Minds And Hearts Of His Hearers.

Public Speaking

Flattery Is Counterfeit, And Like Counterfeit Money, It Will Eventually Get You Into Trouble If You Pass It To Someone Else.

Counterfeit Money

Confusion Is The Main Cause Of Worry

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want. He Who Can Do This Has The Whole World With Him. He Who Cannot Walks A Lonely Way.

People Are Not Interested In You. They Are Not Interested In Me. They Are Interested In Themselves - Morning, Noon And After Dinner.

I Realize Now That People Are Not Thinking About You And Me Or Caring What Is Said About Us. They Are Thinking About Themselves-before Breakfast, After Breakfast, And Right On Until Ten Minutes Past Midnight. They Would Be A Thousand Times More Concerned About A Slight Headache Of Their Own Than They Would About The News Of Your Death Or Mine.

Thinking About You

Be A Balanced Optimist. Nobody Is Suggesting That You Become An Oblivious Pollyanna, Pretending That Nothing Bad Can Or Ever Will Happen. Doing So Can Lead To Poor Decisions And Invites People To Take Advantage Of You. Instead, Be A Rational Optimist Who Takes The Good With The Bad, In Hopes Of The Good Ultimately Outweighing The Bad, And With The Understanding That Being Pessimistic About Everything Accomplishes Nothing. Prepare For The Worst But Hope For The Best - The Former Makes You Sensible, And The Latter Makes You An Optimist.

Accomplish Nothing

You Cannot Teach A Man Anything, You Can Only Help Him Find It Within Himself.

When Fate Hands You A Lemon, Make Lemonade.

Inaction Breeds Doubt And Fear. Action Breeds Confidence And Courage.

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

Remember Happiness Doesn't Depend Upon Who You Are Or What You Have; It Depends Solely On What You Think.

The Ability To Speak Well Is The Shortcut To Distinction.

A Ship In The Harbor Is Safe, But That Is Not What Ships Are Built For. Intelligence Is Like Underwear, Everyone Has It, But You Don't Have To Show It Off. The Expression A Woman Wears On Her Face Is More Important Than The Clothes She Wears On Her Back.

We Nourish The Bodies Of Our Children And Friends And Employees, But How Seldom Do We Nourish Their Selfesteem? We Provide Them With Roast Beef And Potatoes To Build Energy, But We Neglect To Give Them Kind Words Of Appreciation That Would Sing In Their Memories For Years Like The Music Of The Morning Stars.

If You Want To Be A Good Conversationalist, Be A Good Listener. To Be Interesting, Be Interested.

Good Conversation

There Is Only One Way Under High Heaven To Get Anybody To Do Anything. Did You Ever Stop To Think Of That? Yes, Just One Way. And That Is By Making The Other Person Want To Do It.

There Are Always Three Speeches, For Every One You Actually Gave. The One You Practiced, The One You Gave, And The One You Wish You Gave.

Happiness Is Largely An Attitude Of Mind, Of Viewing Life From The Right Angle.

Great Speakers Are Not Born, They're Trained.

History Has Repeatedly Been Changed By People Who Had The Desire And The Ability To Transfer Their Convictions And Emotions To Their Listeners.

An Old Man Was Asked What Had Robbed Him Of Joy In His Life. His Reply Was, "things That Never Happened."

Hurting A Man In His Dignity Is A Crime.

By All Means Take Thought For The Tomorrow, Yes, Careful Thought And Planning And Preparation. But Have No Anxiety.

Do Things For Others And You'll Find Your Self-consciousness Evaporating Like Morning Dew.

Improving Yourself Is A Lot More Profitable Than Trying To Improve Others.

Improving Yourself

Even In Such Technical Lines As Engineering, About 15% Of One's Financial Success Is Due One's Technical Knowledge And About 85% Is Due To Skill In Human Engineering, To Personality And The Ability To Lead People.

Our Trouble Is Not Ignorance, But Inaction.

People Do Things For "their" Reasons, Not Ours. So Find Their Reasons.

Learn To Love, Respect And Enjoy Other People.

Enthusiasm Is That Ingredient Of Vitality Mixed With A Firm Belief In What You Are Doing That Ensures The Success Of Any Project You Undertake.

If We Are So Contemptibly Selfish That We Can’t Radiate A Little Happiness And Pass On A Bit Of Honest Appreciation Without Trying To Screw Something Out Of The Other Person In Return—if Our Souls Are No Bigger Than Sour Crab Apples, We Shall Meet With The Failure We So Richly Deserve.

Don't Fuss About Trifles. Don't Permit Little Things-the Mere Termites Of Life-to Ruin Your Happiness.

One Of The Most Appalling Comments On Our Present Way Of Life Is That At One Time Half Of All The Beds In Our Hospitals Were Reserved For Patients With Nervous And Mental Troubles, Patients Who Had Collapsed Under The Crushing Burden Of Accumulated Yesterdays And Fearful Tomorrows. Yet A Vast Majority Of Those People Would Be Walking The Streets Today, Leading Happy, Useful Lives — If They Had Only Heeded The Words Of Jesus: “have No Anxiety About The Morrow”; Or The Words Of Sir William Osler: "live In Day-tight Compartments."

Make The Other Person Feel Important - And Do It Sincerely.

Applause Is A Receipt, Not A Bill.

We Are Gods In The Chrysalis.

Believe That You Will Succeed, And You Will.

Is Enthusiasm Important In Selling? Yes, Genuine, Heartfelt Enthusiasm Is One Of The Most Potent Factors Of Success In Almost Any Undertaking.

Good Leaders Are Scarce; So I'm Following Myself.

John Wanamaker, Founder Of The Stores That Bear His Name, Once Confessed: "i Learned Thirty Years Ago That It Is Foolish To Scold. I Have Enough Trouble Overcoming My Own Limitations Without Fretting Over The Fact That God Has Not Seen Fit To Distribute Evenly The Gift Of Intelligence.

If We Rail And Kick Against It And Grow Bitter, We Won't Change The Inevitable; But We Will Change Ourselves. I Know. I Have Tried It. I Once Refused To Accept An Inevitable Situation With Which I Was Confronted. I Played The Fool And Railed Against It, And Rebelled. I Turned My Nights Into Hells Of Insomnia. I Brought Upon Myself Everything I Didn't Want. Finally, After A Year Of Self-torture, I Had To Accept What I Knew From The Outset I Couldn't Possible Alter.

We Move Toward What We Picture In Our Minds.

Why Prove To A Man He Is Wrong? Is That Going To Make Him Like You? Why Not Let Him Save Face? He Didn't Ask For Your Opinion. He Didn't Want It. Why Argue With Him? You Can't Win An Argument, Because If You Lose, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It. Why? You Will Feel Fine. But What About Him? You Have Made Him Feel Inferior, You Hurt His Pride, Insult His Intelligence, His Judgment, And His Self-respect, And He'll Resent Your Triumph. That Will Make Him Strike Back, But It Will Never Make Him Want To Change His Mind. A Man Convinced Against His Will Is Of The Same Opinion Still.

Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

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