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A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

-Dale Carnegie

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A Good Deed, "said

Dale Carnegie

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A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

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...the Best Possible Way To Prepare For Tomorrow Is To Concentrate With All Your Intelligence, All Your Enthusiasm, On Doing Today's Work Superbly Today. That Is The Only Possible Way You Can Prepare For The Future.

The Resentment That Criticism Engenders Can Demoralize Employees, Family Members And Friends, And Still Not Correct The Situation That Has Been Condemned.

The Difference Between A Grave And A Rut Are The Dimensions.

Our Thoughts Make Us What We Are.

The Most Important Thing In Life Is Not Simply To Capitalize On Your Gains. Any Fool Can Do That. The Important Thing Is To Profit From Your Losses. That Requires Intelligence, And Makes The Difference Between A Man Of Sense And A Fool.

Are You Bored With Life? Then Throw Yourself Into Some Work You Believe In With All Your Heart, Live For It, Die For It, And You Will Find Happiness That You Had Thought Could Never Be Yours.

If You Want To Know How To Make People Shun You And Laugh At You Behind Your Back And Even Despise You, Here Is The Recipe: Never Listen To Anyone For Long. Talk Incessantly About Yourself. If You Have An Idea While The Other Person Is Talking, Don't Wait For Him Or Her To Finish: Bust Right In And Interrupt In The Middle Of A Sentence.

Develop Success From Failures.

We All Have Possibilities We Don't Know About. We Can Do Things We Don't Even Dream We Can Do. It's Only When Necessity Faces Us That We Rise To The Occasion And Actually Do The Things That Hitherto Have Seemed Impossible.

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