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If You Want To Be Happy, Set Yourself A Goal That Commands Your Thoughts, Liberates Your Energy And Inspires Your Hopes. Happiness Is Within You. It Comes From Doing Some Certain Thing Into Which You Can Put All Your Thought And Energy. If You Want To Be Happy, Get Enthusiastic About Something.

-Dale Carnegie

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If You Want To Be Happy, Set Yourself A Goal That Commands Your Thoughts, Liberates Your Energy And Inspires Your Hopes. Happiness Is Within You. It Comes From Doing Some Certain Thing Into Which You Can Put All Your Thought And Energy. If You Want To Be Happy, Get Enthusiastic About Something.

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To Be Interesting, Be Interested.

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Most Of The Important Things In The World Have Been Accomplished By People Who Have Kept On Trying When There Seemed To Be No Hope At All.

Get The Facts. Let's Not Even Attempt To Solve Our Problems Without First Collecting All The Facts In An Impartial Manner.

Millions Of People Have Wrecked Their Lives In Angry Turmoil, Because They Refused To Accept The Worst; Refused To Try To Improve Upon It; Refused To Salvage What They Could From The Wreck. Instead Of Trying To Reconstruct Their Fortunes, They Engaged In A Bitter And "violent Contest With Experience"- And Ended Up Victims Of That Brooding Fixation Known As Melancholia.

Be Honest, Look For Areas Where You Can Admit Error And Say So. Apologize For Your Mistakes. It Will Help Disarm Your Opponents And Reduce Defensiveness.

Today Is Life-the Only Life You Are Sure Of. Make The Most Of Today.

Live In The Moment

Check Up Each Week On The Progress You Are Making. Ask Yourself What Mistakes You Have Made, What Improvement, What Lessons You Have Learned For The Future.

Mix Judgement With Ambition And Season It With Energy. It Makes A Splendid Recipe For Success.

Flattery Is From The Teeth Out. Sincere Appreciation Is From The Heart Out.

The Biggest Lesson I Have Learned Is The Stupendous Importance Of What We Think. If I Knew What You Think, I Would Know What You Are, For Your Thoughts Make You What You Are; By Changing Our Thoughts, We Can Change Our Lives.

First Ask Yourself: What Is The Worst That Can Happen? Then Prepare To Accept It. Then Proceed To Improve On The Worst.

Your Smile Is A Messenger Of Your Goodwill.

Give Your Problem All The Thought You Possibly Can Before A Solution Is Reached. But When The Matter Is Settled And Over With, Worry Not At All.

If You Are Not In The Process Of Becoming The Person You Want To Be, You Are Automatically Engaged In Becoming The Person You Don't Want To Be.

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Create Happiness For Others.

Why Talk About What We Want? That Is Childish. Absurd. Of Course, You Are Interested In What You Want. You Are Eternally Interested In It. But No One Else Is. The Rest Of Us Are Just Like You: We Are Interested In What We Want.

Talk To Anyone About Himself Positively And He'll Listen Without Interruption.

If We Want To Find Happiness, Let's Stop Thinking About Gratitude Or Ingratitude And Give For The Inner Joy Of Giving.

Any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self Control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

So, To Prevent Fatigue And Worry, The First Rule Is: Rest Often. Rest Before You Get Tired.

History Has Repeatedly Been Changed By People Who Had The Desire And The Ability To Transfer Their Convictions And Emotions To Their Listeners.

Thousands Of Salespeople Are Pounding The Pavements Today, Tired, Discouraged And Underpaid. Why? Because They Are Always Thinking Only Of What They Want. They Don't Realize That Neither You Nor I Want To Buy Anything. If We Did, We Would Go Out And Buy It. But Both Of Us Are Eternally Interested In Solving Our Problems. And If Salespeople Can Show Us How Their Services Or Merchandise Will Help Us Solve Our Problems, They Won't Need To Sell Us. We'll Buy. And Customers Like To Feel That They Are Buying - Not Being Sold.

Don't Criticize, Condemn Or Complain. Constantly Criticizing, Condemning And Complaining Is What Breaks Most Relationships. Instead Of Criticizing And Condemning, Figure Out How You Can Solve The Problem Together. Instead Of Focusing On Blaming The Other Person For What They Did Wrong, Focus On How You Can Avoid The Problem Next Time.

Be Sympathetic With The Other Person's Ideas And Desires.

Most Of Us Have Far More Courage Than We Ever Dreamed We Possessed.

When We Are Not Engaged In Thinking About Some Definite Problem, We Usually Spend About 95 Percent Of Our Time Thinking About Ourselves. Now, If We Stop Thinking About Ourselves For A While And Begin To Think Of The Other Person's Good Points, We Won't Have To Resort To Flattery So Cheap And False That It Can Be Spotted Almost Before It Is Out Of The Mouth.

Be A Balanced Optimist. Nobody Is Suggesting That You Become An Oblivious Pollyanna, Pretending That Nothing Bad Can Or Ever Will Happen. Doing So Can Lead To Poor Decisions And Invites People To Take Advantage Of You. Instead, Be A Rational Optimist Who Takes The Good With The Bad, In Hopes Of The Good Ultimately Outweighing The Bad, And With The Understanding That Being Pessimistic About Everything Accomplishes Nothing. Prepare For The Worst But Hope For The Best - The Former Makes You Sensible, And The Latter Makes You An Optimist.

Accomplish Nothing

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want.

If Only The People Who Worry About Their Liabilities Would Think About The Riches They Do Possess, They Would Stop Worrying.

If We Merely Try To Impress People And Get People Interested In Us, We Will Never Have Many True, Sincere Friends. Friends, Real Friends, Are Not Made That Way.

Do The Thing You Fear To Do And Keep On Doing It... That Is The Quickest And Surest Way Ever Yet Discovered To Conquer Fear.

A Boil On A Man's Neck Is More Important To Him Than 40 Floods In India

Remember That Unjust Critisism Is Often A Disquised Compliment.

When Dealing With People, Let Us Remember That We Are Not Dealing With Creatures Of Logic. We Are Dealing With Creatures Of Emotion, Creatures Bristling With Prejudices And Motivated By Pride And Vanity. ...any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn, And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self-control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

George Bernard Shaw Was Right. He Summed It All Up When He Said: "the Secret Of Being Miserable Is To Have The Leisure To Bother About Whether You Are Happy Or Not." So Don't Bother To Think About It! Spit On Your Hands And Get Busy. Your Blood Will Start Circulating; Your Mind Will Start Ticking-and Pretty Soon This Whole Positive Upsurge Of Life In Your Body Will Drive Worry From Your Mind. Get Busy. Keep Busy. It's The Cheapest Kind Of Medicine There Is On This Earth-and One Of The Best.

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By Fighting You Never Get Enough, But By Yielding You Get More Than You Expected.

If You Have Worries, There Is No Better Way To Eliminate Them Than By Walking Them Off. Just Take Them Out For A Walk. They May Take Wings And Fly Away!

Improving Yourself Is A Lot More Profitable Than Trying To Improve Others.

Improving Yourself

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Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders.

The Ideas I Stand For Are Not Mine. I Borrowed Them From Socrates. I Swiped Them From Chesterfield. I Stole Them From Jesus. And I Put Them In A Book.

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Confusion Is The Main Cause Of Worry

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Remember My Name And You Add To My Feeling Of Importance.

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(a Smile) Costs Nothing, But Creates Much.

The Difference Between A Grave And A Rut Are The Dimensions.

Self-expression Is The Dominant Necessity Of Human Nature.

My Popularity, My Happiness And Sense Of Worth Depend To No Small Extent Upon My Skill In Dealing With People.

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Good Leaders Are Scarce; So I'm Following Myself.

Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

The Life Of Many A Person Could Probably Be Changed If Only Someone Would Make Him Feel Important.

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I've Found That Worry And Irritation Vanish Into Thin Air The Moment I Open My Mind To The Many Blessings I Possess.

Once I Did Bad And That I Heard Ever. Twice I Did Good, But That I Heard Never.

When The Friendly Jailer Gave Socrates The Poison Cup To Drink, The Jailer Said: "try To Bear Lightly What Needs Must Be." Socrates Did. He Faced Death With A Calmness And Resignation That Touched The Hem Of Divinity.

Remember That Other People May Be Totally Wrong. But They Don't Think So. Don't Condemn Them. Any Fool Can Do That. Try To Understand Them. Only Wise, Tolerant, Exceptional People Even Try To Do That.

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We Nourish The Bodies Of Our Children And Friends And Employees, But How Seldom Do We Nourish Their Selfesteem? We Provide Them With Roast Beef And Potatoes To Build Energy, But We Neglect To Give Them Kind Words Of Appreciation That Would Sing In Their Memories For Years Like The Music Of The Morning Stars.

If You Want To Be A Good Conversationalist, Be A Good Listener. To Be Interesting, Be Interested.

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Nothing Else So Inspires And Heartens People As Words Of Appreciation. You And I May Soon Forger The Words Of Encouragement And Appreciation That We Utter Now, But The Person To Whom We Have Spoken Them May Treasure Them And Repeat Them To Themselves Over A Lifetime

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Do The Hard Jobs First. The Easy Jobs Will Take Care Of Themselves.

If You Want Others To Like You, If You Want To Develop Real Friendships, If You Want To Help Others At The Same Time As You Help Yourself, Keep This Principle In Mind: Become Genuinely Interested In Other People.

The Ability To Speak Well Is The Shortcut To Distinction.

Suppose You Had Inherited The Same Body And Temperament And Mind That Al Capone Had. Suppose You Had Had His Environment And Experiences. You Would Then Be Precisely What He Was. . . . For It Is Those Things - And Only Those Things - That Made Him What He Was. . . . You Deserve Very Little Credit For Being What You Are - And Remember, The People Who Come To You Irritated, Bigoted, Unreasoning, Deserve Very Little Discredit For Being What They Are.

Names Are The Sweetest And Most Important Sound In Any Language.

If You Must Make A Mistake, Make A New One Each Time.

Why Prove To A Man He Is Wrong? Is That Going To Make Him Like You? Why Not Let Him Save Face? He Didn't Ask For Your Opinion. He Didn't Want It. Why Argue With Him? You Can't Win An Argument, Because If You Lose, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It. Why? You Will Feel Fine. But What About Him? You Have Made Him Feel Inferior, You Hurt His Pride, Insult His Intelligence, His Judgment, And His Self-respect, And He'll Resent Your Triumph. That Will Make Him Strike Back, But It Will Never Make Him Want To Change His Mind. A Man Convinced Against His Will Is Of The Same Opinion Still.

Advertising. The Movies Do It. Tv Does It. Why Don't You Do It?

Face The Thing That Seems Overwhelming And You Will Be Surprised How Your Fear Will Melt Away.

Flattery Is Telling The Other Person Precisely What He Thinks About Himself.

An Argument Would Have Begun To Steam And Boil And Sputter - And You Know How Arguments End. Even If I Had Convinced Him That He Was Wrong, His Pride Would Have Made It Difficult For Him To Back Down And Give In.

There Is A Certain Degree Of Satisfaction In Having The Courage To Admit One's Errors.

When Fate Hands You A Lemon, Make Lemonade.

There Are Always Three Speeches, For Every One You Actually Gave. The One You Practiced, The One You Gave, And The One You Wish You Gave.

If You Want To Win Friends, Make It A Point To Remember Them. If You Remember My Name, You Pay Me A Subtle Compliment; You Indicate That I Have Made An Impression On You. Remember My Name And You Add To My Feeling Of Importance.

If You Want To Be Happy, Set Yourself A Goal That Commands Your Thoughts, Liberates Your Energy And Inspires Your Hopes. Happiness Is Within You. It Comes From Doing Some Certain Thing Into Which You Can Put All Your Thought And Energy. If You Want To Be Happy, Get Enthusiastic About Something.

If We Think Happy Thoughts, We Will Be Happy. If We Think Miserable Thoughts, We Will Be Miserable.

Five Hundred Years Before Christ Was Born, The Greek Philosopher Heraclitus Told His Students That "everything Changes Except The Law Of Change". He Said: "you Cannot Step In The Same River Twice." The River Changes Every Second; And So Does The Man Who Stepped In It. Life Is A Ceaseless Change. The Only Certainty Is Today. Why Mar The Beauty Of Living Today By Trying To Solve The Problems Of A Future That Is Shrouded In Ceaseless Change And Uncertainty-a Future That No One Can Possibly Foretell?

I Realize Now That People Are Not Thinking About You And Me Or Caring What Is Said About Us. They Are Thinking About Themselves-before Breakfast, After Breakfast, And Right On Until Ten Minutes Past Midnight. They Would Be A Thousand Times More Concerned About A Slight Headache Of Their Own Than They Would About The News Of Your Death Or Mine.

Thinking About You

Enthusiasm Is The Dynamics Of Your Personality. Without It, Whatever Abilities You May Possess Lie Dormant; And It Is Safe To Say That Nearly Every Man Has More Latent Power Than He Ever Learns To Use. You May Have Knowledge, Sound Judgment, Good Reasoning Faculties; But No One-not Even Yourself-will Know It Until You Discover How To Put Your Heart Into Thought And Action.

The Best Argument Is That Which Seems Merely An Explanation.

It Isn't What You Have, Or Who You Are, Or Where You Are, Or What You Are Doing That Makes You Happy Or Unhappy. It Is What You Think About.

Do You Know Someone You Would Like To Change And Regulate And Improve? Good! That Is Fine. I Am All In Favor Of It, But Why Not Begin On Yourself? From A Purely Selfish Standpoint, That Is A Lot More Profitable Than Trying To Improve Others - Yes, And A Lot Less Dangerous.

If You Can Be Sure Of Being Right Only 55 Percent Of The Time, You Can Go Down To Wall Street And Make A Million Dollars A Day. If You Can't Be Sure Of Being Right Even 55 Percent Of The Time, Why Should You Tell Other People They Are Wrong?

The Very Best Way In All The World To Overcome Self-consciousn Ess And Shyness Is To Get Interested In Other People And To Think Of Them And, Almost Miraculously, Your Timidity Will Pass. Do Something For Other People. Practice Deeds Of Kindness, Acts Of Friendliness, And You'll Be Surprised To See What Happens.

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

Even In Such Technical Lines As Engineering, About 15% Of One's Financial Success Is Due One's Technical Knowledge And About 85% Is Due To Skill In Human Engineering, To Personality And The Ability To Lead People.

By Criticizing, We Do Not Make Lasting Changes And Often Incur Resentment.

An Hour Of Planning Can Save You 10 Hours Of Doing.

Develop Success From Failures.

When I Asked Him -mr.henry Ford- If He Ever Worried, He Replied: "no. I Believe God Is Managing Affairs And That He Doesn't Need Any Advice From Me. With God In Charge, I Believe That Every-thing Will Work Out For The Best In The End. So What Is There To Worry About?

Did You Ever See An Unhappy Horse? Did You Ever See Bird That Had The Blues? One Reason Why Birds And Horses Are Not Unhappy Is Because They Are Not Trying To Impress Other Birds And Horses.

Patience And Perserverance Will Accomplish More In This World Than A Brilliant Dash. Remember That When Something Goes Wrong.

He Who Treads Softly Goes Far.

So If You Aspire To Be A Good Conversationali St, Be An Attentive Listener. To Be Interesting, Be Interested. Ask Questions That Other Persons Will Enjoy Answering. Encourage Them To Talk About Themselves And Their Accomplishments

Believe That You Will Succeed, And You Will.

If You Have Some Idea You Believe In, Don't Listen To The Croaking Chorus. Listen Only To What Your Own Inner Voice Tells You.

Inaction Breeds Doubt And Fear. Action Breeds Confidence And Courage.

Fear Is The Result Of A Lack Of Confidence. A Lack Of Confidence Is The Result Of Not Knowing What You Can Do. A Lack Of Knowing What You Can Do Is Caused By A Lack Of Experience. A Lack Of Experience Is Caused By A Lack Of Doing Something New.

The Only Way To Get The Best Of An Argument Is To Avoid It.

Let's Never Try To Get Even With Our Enemies, Because If We Do We Will Hurt Ourselves Far More Than We Hurt Them. Let's Do As General Eisenhower Does: Let's Never Waste A Minute Thinking About People We Don't Like.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words, And A Smile Says, 'i Like You. You Make Me Happy. I Am Glad To See You.' That Is Why Dogs Make Such A Hit. They Are So Glad To See Us That They Almost Jump Out Of Their Skins. So, Naturally, We Are Glad To See Them.

You Make Me Happy

The Person Who Seeks All Their Applause From Outside Has Their Happiness In Another's Keeping .

Everyday Is A New Life To A Wise Man.

When The Fierce, Burning Winds Blow Over Our Lives-and We Cannot Prevent Them-let Us, Too, Accept The Inevitable. And Then Get Busy And Pick Up The Pieces.

Let's Not Imitate Others.let's Find Ourselves And Be Ourselves.

No Matter What Happens, Always Be Yourself.

Always Be Yourself

...the Best Possible Way To Prepare For Tomorrow Is To Concentrate With All Your Intelligence, All Your Enthusiasm, On Doing Today's Work Superbly Today. That Is The Only Possible Way You Can Prepare For The Future.

Bitter Criticism Caused The Sensitive Thomas Hardy, One Of The Finest Novelists Ever To Enrich English Literature, To Give Up Forever The Writing Of Fiction. Criticism Drove Thomas Chatterton, The English Poet, To Suicide. . . . Any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self-control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

Take Charge Of Your Attitude. Don't Let Someone Else Choose It For You.

I Know Men And Women Can Banish Worry, Fear And Various Kinds Of Illnesses, And Can Transform Their Lives By Changing Their Thoughts. I Know! I Know! I Know! I Have Seen Such Incredible Transformations Performed Hundreds Of Times. I Have Seen Them So Often That I No Longer Wonder At Them.

Looking At The Other Person's Point Of View And Arousing In Him An Eager Want For Something Is Not To Be Construed As Manipulating That Person So That He Will Do Something That Is Only For Your Benefit And His Detriment. Each Party Should Gain From The Negotiation.

Psychiatrists Declare That Most Of Our Fatigue Derives From Our Mental And Emotional Attitudes... What Kinds Of Emotional Factors Tire The Sedentary (or Sitting) Worker? Joy? Contentment? No! Never! Boredom, Resentment, A Feeling Of Not Being Appreciated, A Feeling Of Futility, Hurry, Anxiety, Worry-those Are The Emotional Factors That Exhaust The Sitting Worker, Make Him Susceptible To Colds, Reduce His Output, And Send Him Home With A Nervous Headache. Yes, We Get Tired Because Our Emotions Produce Nervous Tensions In The Body.

Those Convinced Against Their Will Are Of The Same Opinion Still.

In Talking With People, Don't Begin By Discussing The Things On Which You Differ. Begin By Emphasizing - And Keep On Emphasizing - The Things On Which You Agree. Keep Emphasizing, If Possible, That You Are Both Striving For The Same End And That Your Only Difference Is One Of Method And Not Of Purpose.

One Of The Surest Ways Of Making A Friend And Influencing The Opinion Of Another Is To Give Consideration To [his Or Her] Opinion, Let [him Or Her] Sustain A Feeling Of Importance.

You Can't Win An Argument. You Can't Because If You Lose It, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It.

One Of The Most Appalling Comments On Our Present Way Of Life Is That At One Time Half Of All The Beds In Our Hospitals Were Reserved For Patients With Nervous And Mental Troubles, Patients Who Had Collapsed Under The Crushing Burden Of Accumulated Yesterdays And Fearful Tomorrows. Yet A Vast Majority Of Those People Would Be Walking The Streets Today, Leading Happy, Useful Lives — If They Had Only Heeded The Words Of Jesus: “have No Anxiety About The Morrow”; Or The Words Of Sir William Osler: "live In Day-tight Compartments."

Merely Stating A Truth Isn't Enough. The Truth Has To Be Made Vivid, Interesting, Dramatic. You Have To Use Showmanship.

Any Fool Can Try To Defend His Or Her Mistakes- And Most Fools Do- But It Raises One Above The Herd And Gives One A Feeling Of Nobility And Exultation To Admit One's Mistakes.

Do You Know The Most Important Trait A Man Can Have? It Is Not Executive Ability; It Is Not A Great Mentality; It Is Not Kindliness, Nor Courage, Nor A Sense Of Humor, Though Each Of These Is Of Tremendous Importance. In My Opinion, It Is The Ability To Make Friends, Which, Boiled Down, Means The Ability To See The Best In Man.

When Dealing With People, Remember You Are Not Dealing With Creatures Of Logic, But Creatures Of Emotion.

Use Encouragement. Make The Fault Seem Easy To Correct.

Begin With Praise And Honest Appreciation. Call Attention To People's Mistakes Indirectly. Talk About Your Own Mistakes Before Criticizing The Other Person. Ask Questions Instead Of Giving Direct Orders. Make The Fault Easy To Correct. Make The Other Person Happy About Doing What You Suggest.

We Talk A Lot About The Importance Of Physical Exercise To Wake Us Up Out Of The Half Sleep In Which So Many Of Us Walk Around. But We Need, Even More, Some Spiritual And Mental Exercises Every Morning To Stir Us Into Action. Give Yourself A Pep Talk Every Day.

When Theodore Roosevelt Was In The White House, He Confessed That If He Could Be Right 75 Percent Of The Time, He Would Reach The Highest Measure Of His Expectation. . . . If That Was The Highest Rating That One Of The Most Distinguished Men Of The Twentieth Century Could Hope To Obtain, What About You And Me?

Stop Worrying And Start Living.

One Can Win The Attention And Time And Cooperation Of Even The Most Sought-after People By Becoming Genuinely Interested In Them.

Obviously, Circumstances Alone Do Not Make Us Happy Or Unhappy. It Is The Way We React To Circumstances That Determines Our Feelings. Jesus Said That The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within You. That Is Where The Kingdom Of Hell Is, Too.

Try Honest To See Things From The Other Person's Point Of View.

It Isn't Work That Makes You Tired, It's Your Mental Attitude.

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Flattery Is Counterfeit, And Like Counterfeit Money, It Will Eventually Get You Into Trouble If You Pass It To Someone Else.

Counterfeit Money

A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

If Your Own Mind Is Muddled, Much More Will The Minds Of Your Hearers Be Confused.

Public Speaking

Success In Dealing With People Depends On Sympathetic Grasp Of The Other Person's Viewpoint.

Remember, Happiness Doesn't Depend Upon Who You Are Or What You Have; It Depends Solely Upon What You Think. So Start Each Day By Thinking Of All The Things You Have To Be Thankful For. Your Future Will Depend Very Largely On The Thoughts You Think Today. So Think Thoughts Of Hope And Confidence And Love And Success.

People Who Talk Only Of Themselves Think Only Of Themselves.

I Honestly Believe That This Is One Of The Greatest Secrets To True Peace Of Mind -- A Decent Sense Of Values. We Could Annihilate 50 Percent Of All Our Worries At Once If We Would Develop A Sort Of Private Gold Standard -- A Gold Standard Of What Things Are Worth To Us In Terms Of Our Lives.

90% Of All Management Problems Are Caused By Miscommunication.

Miscommunication

Naturalness Is The Easiest Thing In The World To Acquire, If You Will Forget Yourself-forget About The Impression You Are Trying To Make.

You Cannot Teach A Man Anything, You Can Only Help Him Find It Within Himself.

No One Likes To Feel That He Or She Is Being Sold Some-thing Or Told To Do A Thing. We Much Prefer To Feel That We Are Buying Of Our Own Accord Or Acting On Our Own Ideas. We Like To Be Consulted About Our Wishes, Our Wants, Our Thoughts.

Listen First. Give Your Opponents A Chance To Talk. Let Them Finish. Do Not Resist, Defend Or Debate. This Only Raises Barriers. Try To Build Bridges Of Understanding.

If You Believe In What You Are Doing, Then Let Nothing Hold You Up In Your Work. Much Of The Best Work Of The World Has Been Done Against Seeming Impossibilities. The Thing Is To Get The Work Done.

Forget Yourself By Becoming Interested In Others. Do Every Day A Good Deed That Will Put A Smile Of Joy On Someone's Face.

You Can Measure The Size Of A Person By What Makes Him Or Her Angry

Self Improvement

Each Nation Feels Superior To Other Nations. That Breeds Patriotism - And Wars.

When We Hate Our Enemies, We Are Giving Them Power Over Us: Power Over Our Sleep, Our Appetites, Our Blood Pressure, Our Health, And Our Happiness.

Today Is The Only Time We Can Possibly Live.

If You Increase Your Success By Even A Mere 10 Percent, You Have Become 10 Percent More Effective As A Leader Than You Were Before.

Life Truly Is A Boomerang. What You Give, You Get.

Don't You Have Much More Faith In Ideas That You Discover For Yourself Than In Ideas That Are Handed To You On A Silver Platter?

Happiness Is Largely An Attitude Of Mind, Of Viewing Life From The Right Angle.

So If You Aspire To Be A Good Conversationali St, Be An Attentive Listener.

Good Conversation

Tell The Audience What You're Going To Say, Say It; Then Tell Them What You've Said.

Public Speaking

A Talk Is A Voyage. It Must Be Charted. The Speaker Who Starts Nowhere, Usually Gets There.

Public Speaking

You Are Something New In This World. Never Before, Since The Beginning Of Time, Has There Ever Been Anybody Exactly Like You; And Never Again Throughout All The Ages To Come Will There Ever Be Anybody Exactly Like You Again.

Seventy Per Cent Of All Patients Who Come To Physicians Could Cure Themselves If They Got Rid Of Their Fears And Worries.

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