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If We Rail And Kick Against It And Grow Bitter, We Won't Change The Inevitable; But We Will Change Ourselves. I Know. I Have Tried It. I Once Refused To Accept An Inevitable Situation With Which I Was Confronted. I Played The Fool And Railed Against It, And Rebelled. I Turned My Nights Into Hells Of Insomnia. I Brought Upon Myself Everything I Didn't Want. Finally, After A Year Of Self-torture, I Had To Accept What I Knew From The Outset I Couldn't Possible Alter.

-Dale Carnegie

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If We Rail And

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If We Rail And Kick Against It And Grow Bitter, We Won't Change The Inevitable; But We Will Change Ourselves. I Know. I Have Tried It. I Once Refused To Accept An Inevitable Situation With Which I Was Confronted. I Played The Fool And Railed Against It, And Rebelled. I Turned My Nights Into Hells Of Insomnia. I Brought Upon Myself Everything I Didn't Want. Finally, After A Year Of Self-torture, I Had To Accept What I Knew From The Outset I Couldn't Possible Alter.

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If You Have Worries, There Is No Better Way To Eliminate Them Than By Walking Them Off. Just Take Them Out For A Walk. They May Take Wings And Fly Away!

Forget Yourself By Becoming Interested In Others. Do Every Day A Good Deed That Will Put A Smile Of Joy On Someone's Face.

Do The Thing You Fear To Do And Keep On Doing It... That Is The Quickest And Surest Way Ever Yet Discovered To Conquer Fear.

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You Are Something New In This World. Never Before, Since The Beginning Of Time, Has There Ever Been Anybody Exactly Like You; And Never Again Throughout All The Ages To Come Will There Ever Be Anybody Exactly Like You Again.

To Be Interesting, Be Interested.

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I've Found That Worry And Irritation Vanish Into Thin Air The Moment I Open My Mind To The Many Blessings I Possess.

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If You And I Want To Stir Up A Resentment Tomorrow That May Rankle Across The Decades And Endure Until Death, Just Let Us Indulge In A Little Stinging Criticism - No Matter How Certain We Are That It Is Justified.

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It Was This Desire For A Feeling Of Importance That Led An Uneducated, Poverty-stricken Grocery Clerk To Study Some Law Books He Found In The Bottom Of A Barrel Of Household Plunder That He Had Bought For Fifty Cents. You Have Probably Heard Of This Grocery Clerk. His Name Was Lincoln.

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Good Leaders Are Scarce; So I'm Following Myself.

Do You Know The Most Important Trait A Man Can Have? It Is Not Executive Ability; It Is Not A Great Mentality; It Is Not Kindliness, Nor Courage, Nor A Sense Of Humor, Though Each Of These Is Of Tremendous Importance. In My Opinion, It Is The Ability To Make Friends, Which, Boiled Down, Means The Ability To See The Best In Man.

This Is The Only Chance You Will Ever Have On Earth With This Exciting Adventure Called Life. So Why Not Plan It, And Try To Live It As Richly, As Happily As Possible?

Almost All The Progress Ever Made In Human Thought Has Been Made By The Doubting Thomas's, The Questioners, The Challengers, The Show-me Crowd.

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

Names Are The Sweetest And Most Important Sound In Any Language.

Today Is The Only Time We Can Possibly Live.

Speakers Who Talk About What Life Has Taught Them Never Fail To Keep The Attention Of Their Listeners.

Encouragement Makes A Fault Easy To Correct, And A Challenge Easy To Take On.

A Good Deed, "said The Prophet Mohammed, "is One That Brings A Smile Of Joy To The Face Of Another." Why Will Doing A Good Deed Every Day Produce Such Astounding Efforts On The Doer? Because Trying To Please Others Will Cause Us To Stop Thinking Of Ourselves: The Very Thing That Produces Worry And Fear And Melancholia.

If We Want To Make Friends, Let's Greet People With Animation And Enthusiasm.

It Isn't Work That Makes You Tired, It's Your Mental Attitude.

Mental Attitude

I Realize Now That People Are Not Thinking About You And Me Or Caring What Is Said About Us. They Are Thinking About Themselves-before Breakfast, After Breakfast, And Right On Until Ten Minutes Past Midnight. They Would Be A Thousand Times More Concerned About A Slight Headache Of Their Own Than They Would About The News Of Your Death Or Mine.

Thinking About You

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