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The Difference Between Appreciation And Flattery? That Is Simple. One Is Sincere And The Other Insincere. One Comes From The Heart Out; The Other From The Teeth Out. One Is Unselfish; The Other Selfish. One Is Universally Admired; The Other Universally Condemned.

-Dale Carnegie

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The Difference Between Appreciation

Dale Carnegie

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The Difference Between Appreciation And Flattery? That Is Simple. One Is Sincere And The Other Insincere. One Comes From The Heart Out; The Other From The Teeth Out. One Is Unselfish; The Other Selfish. One Is Universally Admired; The Other Universally Condemned.

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You Can Make More Friends In Two Months By Becoming Interested In Other People Than You Can In Two Years By Trying To Get Other People Interested In You.

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Let's Cease Thinking Of Our Accomplishments, Our Wants. Let's Try To Figure Out The Other Man's Good Points. Then Forget Flattery. Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation. Be Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise, And People Will Cherish Your Words And Treasure Them And Repeat Them Over A Lifetime - Repeat Them Years After You Have Forgotten Them.

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Instead Of Condemning People, Let's Try To Understand Them. Let's Try To Figure Out Why They Do What They Do. That's A Lot More Profitable And Intriguing Than Criticism; And It Breeds Sympathy, Tolerance And Kindness.

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Will And Determination

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There Is One All-important Law Of Human Conduct. If We Obey That Law, We Shall Almost Never Get Into Trouble. In Fact, That Law, If Obeyed, Will Bring Us Countless Friends And Constant Happiness. But The Very Instant We Break The Law, We Shall Get Into Endless Trouble. The Law Is This: Always Make The Other Person Feel Important.

Bitter Criticism Caused The Sensitive Thomas Hardy, One Of The Finest Novelists Ever To Enrich English Literature, To Give Up Forever The Writing Of Fiction. Criticism Drove Thomas Chatterton, The English Poet, To Suicide. . . . Any Fool Can Criticize, Condemn And Complain - And Most Fools Do. But It Takes Character And Self-control To Be Understanding And Forgiving.

You Are Merely Not Feeling Equal To The Tasks Before You.

Remember, Happiness Doesn't Depend Upon Who You Are Or What You Have; It Depends Solely Upon What You Think. So Start Each Day By Thinking Of All The Things You Have To Be Thankful For. Your Future Will Depend Very Largely On The Thoughts You Think Today. So Think Thoughts Of Hope And Confidence And Love And Success.

Instead Of Worrying About What People Say Of You, Why Not Spend Time Trying To Accomplish Something They Will Admire.

Looking At The Other Person's Point Of View And Arousing In Him An Eager Want For Something Is Not To Be Construed As Manipulating That Person So That He Will Do Something That Is Only For Your Benefit And His Detriment. Each Party Should Gain From The Negotiation.

Let's Never Try To Get Even With Our Enemies, Because If We Do We Will Hurt Ourselves Far More Than We Hurt Them. Let's Do As General Eisenhower Does: Let's Never Waste A Minute Thinking About People We Don't Like.

Most Of Us Have Far More Courage Than We Ever Dreamed We Possessed.

Develop Success From Failures.

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Live An Active Life Among People Who Are Doing Worthwhile Things, Keep Eyes And Ears And Mind And Heart Open To Absorb Truth, And Then Tell Of The Things You Know, As If You Know Them. The World Will Listen, For The World Loves Nothing So Much As Real Life.

When You Face A Problem, Solve It Then And There If You Have The Facts Necessary To Make A Decision. Don't Keep Putting Off Decisions.

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Public Speaking

If You Want To Be Enthusiastic, Act Enthusiastic.

Our Fatigue Is Often Caused Not By Work, But By Worry, Frustration And Resentment.

Believe You Will Be Successful And You Will.

Being Successful

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It Isn't What You Have, Or Who You Are, Or Where You Are, Or What You Are Doing That Makes You Happy Or Unhappy. It Is What You Think About.

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Let Us Praise Even The Slightest Improvement. That Inspires The Other Person To Keep On Improving.

Remember That The People You Are Talking To Are A Hundred Times More Interested In Themselves And Their Wants And Problems Than They Are In You And Your Problems.

Why Prove To A Man He Is Wrong? Is That Going To Make Him Like You? Why Not Let Him Save Face? He Didn't Ask For Your Opinion. He Didn't Want It. Why Argue With Him? You Can't Win An Argument, Because If You Lose, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It. Why? You Will Feel Fine. But What About Him? You Have Made Him Feel Inferior, You Hurt His Pride, Insult His Intelligence, His Judgment, And His Self-respect, And He'll Resent Your Triumph. That Will Make Him Strike Back, But It Will Never Make Him Want To Change His Mind. A Man Convinced Against His Will Is Of The Same Opinion Still.

People Like People Who Help Them Like Themselves.

Life Is Bigger Than Processes And Overflows And Dwarfs Them.

Merely Stating A Truth Isn't Enough. The Truth Has To Be Made Vivid, Interesting, Dramatic. You Have To Use Showmanship.

Happiness Is Largely An Attitude Of Mind, Of Viewing Life From The Right Angle.

I Honestly Believe That This Is One Of The Greatest Secrets To True Peace Of Mind -- A Decent Sense Of Values. We Could Annihilate 50 Percent Of All Our Worries At Once If We Would Develop A Sort Of Private Gold Standard -- A Gold Standard Of What Things Are Worth To Us In Terms Of Our Lives.

When The Fierce, Burning Winds Blow Over Our Lives-and We Cannot Prevent Them-let Us, Too, Accept The Inevitable. And Then Get Busy And Pick Up The Pieces.

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