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Criticism Is Futile Because It Puts A Person On The Defensive And Usually Makes Them Strive To Justify Themselves. Criticism Is Dangerous, Because It Wounds A Person's Precious Pride, Hurts Their Sense Of Importance, And Arouses Resentment.

-Dale Carnegie

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Criticism Is Futile Because

Dale Carnegie

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Criticism Is Futile Because It Puts A Person On The Defensive And Usually Makes Them Strive To Justify Themselves. Criticism Is Dangerous, Because It Wounds A Person's Precious Pride, Hurts Their Sense Of Importance, And Arouses Resentment.

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