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I Can Look Back At My Own Life And See Where A Few Words Of Praise Have Sharply Changed My Entire Future. Can't You Say The Same Thing About Your Life?

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I Can Look Back At My Own Life And See Where A Few Words Of Praise Have Sharply Changed My Entire Future. Can't You Say The Same Thing About Your Life?

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Let's Find And Remedy All Our Weaknesses Before Our Enemies Get A Chance To Say A Word. That Is What Charles Darwin Did. ...when Darwin Completed The Manuscript Of His Immortal Book "the Origin Of Species" He Realized That The Publication Of His Revolutionary Concept Of Creation Would Rock The Intellectual And Religious Worlds. So He Became His Own Critic And Spent Another 15 Years Checking His Data, Challenging His Reasoning, And Criticizing His Conclusions.

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Criticism Is Dangerous, Because It Wounds A Person's Precious Pride, Hurt His Sense Of Importace And Arouse Resentment.

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If You Disagree With Them You May Be Tempted To Interrupt. But Don't. It Is Dangerous. They Won't Pay Attention To You While They Still Have A Lot Of Ideas Of Their Own Crying For Expression. So Listen Patiently And With An Open Mind.

Most People Don't Remember Names, For The Simple Reason That They Don't Take The Time And Energy Necessary To Concentrate And Repeat And Fix Names Indelibly In Their Minds. They Make Excuses For Themselves; They Are Too Busy.

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If Your Own Mind Is Muddled, Much More Will The Minds Of Your Hearers Be Confused.

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When We Hate Our Enemies, We Are Giving Them Power Over Us: Power Over Our Sleep, Our Appetites, Our Blood Pressure, Our Health, And Our Happiness.

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Knowledge Isn’t Power Until It Is Applied.

When We Have A Brilliant Idea, Instead Of Making Others Think It Is Ours, Why Not Let Them Cook And Stir The Idea Themselves.

Do The Very Best You Can.

When I Asked Him -mr.henry Ford- If He Ever Worried, He Replied: "no. I Believe God Is Managing Affairs And That He Doesn't Need Any Advice From Me. With God In Charge, I Believe That Every-thing Will Work Out For The Best In The End. So What Is There To Worry About?

Obviously, Circumstances Alone Do Not Make Us Happy Or Unhappy. It Is The Way We React To Circumstances That Determines Our Feelings. Jesus Said That The Kingdom Of Heaven Is Within You. That Is Where The Kingdom Of Hell Is, Too.

Names Are The Sweetest And Most Important Sound In Any Language.

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People Rarely Succeed Unless They Have Fun In What They Are Doing.

Avoid Arguments Like Rattlesnakes And Earthquakes

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A Barber Lathers A Man Before He Shaves Him.

I Want You To Think Of Your Life As An Hourglass. You Know There Are Thousands Of Grains Of Sand In The Top Of The Hourglass; And They All Pass Slowly And Evenly Through The Narrow Neck In The Middle. Nothing You Or I Could Do Would Make More Than One Grain Of Sand Pass Through This Narrow Neck Without Impairing The Hourglass. You And I And Everyone Else Are Like This Hourglass.

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Enthusiasm Is That Ingredient Of Vitality Mixed With A Firm Belief In What You Are Doing That Ensures The Success Of Any Project You Undertake.

George Bernard Shaw Was Right. He Summed It All Up When He Said: "the Secret Of Being Miserable Is To Have The Leisure To Bother About Whether You Are Happy Or Not." So Don't Bother To Think About It! Spit On Your Hands And Get Busy. Your Blood Will Start Circulating; Your Mind Will Start Ticking-and Pretty Soon This Whole Positive Upsurge Of Life In Your Body Will Drive Worry From Your Mind. Get Busy. Keep Busy. It's The Cheapest Kind Of Medicine There Is On This Earth-and One Of The Best.

Fear Is The Result Of A Lack Of Confidence. A Lack Of Confidence Is The Result Of Not Knowing What You Can Do. A Lack Of Knowing What You Can Do Is Caused By A Lack Of Experience. A Lack Of Experience Is Caused By A Lack Of Doing Something New.

Create Accomplishment From Disappointments. Demoralization And Disappointment Are Two Of The Surest Going Stones To Achievement.

Always Have Something To Say. The Man Who Has Something To Say And Who Is Known Never To Speak Unless He Has, Is Sure To Be Listened To.�

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

If You Got It, Ask Yourself Why And Try To Repeat The Action. If You Failed, Ask Yourself Why And Try To Learn From The Experience.

If You Act Enthusiastic, You'll Be Enthusiastic!

Live An Active Life Among People Who Are Doing Worthwhile Things, Keep Eyes And Ears And Mind And Heart Open To Absorb Truth, And Then Tell Of The Things You Know, As If You Know Them. The World Will Listen, For The World Loves Nothing So Much As Real Life.

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An Hour Of Planning Can Save You 10 Hours Of Doing.

I've Found That Worry And Irritation Vanish Into Thin Air The Moment I Open My Mind To The Many Blessings I Possess.

Today Is Our Most Precious Possession. It Is Our Only Sure Possession.

Cherish Every Moment

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It Isn’t What You Have Or Who You Are Or Where You Are Or What You’re Doing That Makes You Happy Or Unhappy. It’s What You Think Of It. Two People May In The Same Place Doing The Same Thing, And Yet One May Be Miserable And The Other Happy. Why? Because Of A Different Mental Attitude.

Talk To Anyone About Himself Positively And He'll Listen Without Interruption.

Appreciation Is The Legal Tender That All Souls Enjoy.

The Life Of Many A Person Could Probably Be Changed If Only Someone Would Make Him Feel Important.

Everyone Should Have A Deep-seated Interest Or Hobby To Enrich His Mind, Add Zest To Living, And Perhaps, Depending Upon What It Is, Result In A Service To His Country.

Be A Good Listener. Encourage Others To Talk About Themselves.

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Seventy Per Cent Of All Patients Who Come To Physicians Could Cure Themselves If They Got Rid Of Their Fears And Worries.

If You Are Wrong, Admit It Quickly And Emphatically.

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If We Are So Contemptibly Selfish That We Can’t Radiate A Little Happiness And Pass On A Bit Of Honest Appreciation Without Trying To Screw Something Out Of The Other Person In Return—if Our Souls Are No Bigger Than Sour Crab Apples, We Shall Meet With The Failure We So Richly Deserve.

We Nourish The Bodies Of Our Children And Friends And Employees, But How Seldom Do We Nourish Their Selfesteem? We Provide Them With Roast Beef And Potatoes To Build Energy, But We Neglect To Give Them Kind Words Of Appreciation That Would Sing In Their Memories For Years Like The Music Of The Morning Stars.

Face The Thing That Seems Overwhelming And You Will Be Surprised How Your Fear Will Melt Away.

To Be Interesting, Be Interested.

You Have It Easily In Your Power To Increase The Sum Total Of This World's Happiness Now. How? By Giving A Few Words Of Sincere Appreciation To Someone Who Is Lonely Or Discouraged. Perhaps You Will Forget Tomorrow The Kind Words You Say Today, But The Recipient May Cherish Them Over A Lifetime.

Instead Of Worrying About What People Say Of You, Why Not Spend Time Trying To Accomplish Something They Will Admire.

There Is Only One Way Under High Heaven To Get Anybody To Do Anything. Did You Ever Stop To Think Of That? Yes, Just One Way. And That Is By Making The Other Person Want To Do It.

The Expression A Woman Wears On Her Face Is Far More Important Than The Clothes She Wears On Her Back.

Those Convinced Against Their Will Are Of The Same Opinion Still.

Stop Worrying And Start Living.

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Remember That No One Ever Kicks A Dead Dog.

Tell Me What Gives A Man Or Woman Their Greatest Pleasure And I'll Tell You Their Philosophy Of Life.

The World Is So Full Of People Who Are Grabbing And Self-seeking. So The Rare Individual Who Unselfishly Tries To Serve Others Has An Enormous Advantage. He Has Little Competition.

(a Smile) Costs Nothing, But Creates Much.

The Difference Between Appreciation And Flattery? That Is Simple. One Is Sincere And The Other Insincere. One Comes From The Heart Out; The Other From The Teeth Out. One Is Unselfish; The Other Selfish. One Is Universally Admired; The Other Universally Condemned.

Instead Of Condemning People, Let's Try To Understand Them. Let's Try To Figure Out Why They Do What They Do. That's A Lot More Profitable And Intriguing Than Criticism; And It Breeds Sympathy, Tolerance And Kindness.

Be Honest, Look For Areas Where You Can Admit Error And Say So. Apologize For Your Mistakes. It Will Help Disarm Your Opponents And Reduce Defensiveness.

Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

Listen First. Give Your Opponents A Chance To Talk. Let Them Finish. Do Not Resist, Defend Or Debate. This Only Raises Barriers. Try To Build Bridges Of Understanding.

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An Effective Speaker Knows That The Success Or Failure Of His Talk Is Not For Him To Decide - It Will Be Decided In The Minds And Hearts Of His Hearers.

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Let Us Not Get So Busy Or Live So Fast That We Can't Listen To The Music Of The Meadow Or The Symphony That Glorifies The Forest. Some Things In The World Are Far More Important Than Wealth; One Of Them Is The Ability To Enjoy Simple Things.

Practice, Practice, Practice In Speaking Before An Audience Will Tend To Remove All Fear Of Audiences, Just As Practice In Swimming Will Lead To Confidence And Facility In The Water. You Must Learn To Speak By Speaking.

People Aren't Interested In You. They're Interested In Themselves

You Can Conquer Almost Any Fear If You Will Only Make Up Your Mind To Do So. For Remember, Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

I Really Like Reading Books

Millions Of People Have Wrecked Their Lives In Angry Turmoil, Because They Refused To Accept The Worst; Refused To Try To Improve Upon It; Refused To Salvage What They Could From The Wreck. Instead Of Trying To Reconstruct Their Fortunes, They Engaged In A Bitter And "violent Contest With Experience"- And Ended Up Victims Of That Brooding Fixation Known As Melancholia.

The Essence Of All Art Is To Have Pleasure In Giving Pleasure.

The Way To Defeat Fear: Decide On A Course Of Conduct And Follow It. Keep So Busy And Work So Hard That You Forget About Being Afraid.

Today Is The Only Time We Can Possibly Live.

Life Is Bigger Than Processes And Overflows And Dwarfs Them.

Let The Winds Of Enthusiasm Sweep Through You. Live Today With Gusto.

Live In The Moment

Develop Success From Failures. Discouragement And Failure Are Two Of The Surest Stepping Stones To Success. The Successful Man Will Profit From His Mistakes And Try Again In A Different Way. When You're Afraid, Keep Your Mind On What You Have To Do...if You Have Been Thoroughly Prepared, You Will Not Be Afraid. We All Have Possibilities We Don't Know About. We Can Do Things We Don't Even Dream We Can Do.

Tell The Audience What You're Going To Say, Say It; Then Tell Them What You've Said.

Public Speaking

Let's Cease Thinking Of Our Accomplishments, Our Wants. Let's Try To Figure Out The Other Man's Good Points. Then Forget Flattery. Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation. Be Hearty In Your Approbation And Lavish In Your Praise, And People Will Cherish Your Words And Treasure Them And Repeat Them Over A Lifetime - Repeat Them Years After You Have Forgotten Them.

Great Speakers Are Not Born, They're Trained.

You Are Something New In This World. Never Before, Since The Beginning Of Time, Has There Ever Been Anybody Exactly Like You; And Never Again Throughout All The Ages To Come Will There Ever Be Anybody Exactly Like You Again.

If You Can't Sleep, Then Get Up And Do Something Instead Of Lying There Worrying. It's The Worry That Gets You, Not The Lack Of Sleep.

Flattery Is Counterfeit, And Like Counterfeit Money, It Will Eventually Get You Into Trouble If You Pass It To Someone Else.

Counterfeit Money

Five Hundred Years Before Christ Was Born, The Greek Philosopher Heraclitus Told His Students That "everything Changes Except The Law Of Change". He Said: "you Cannot Step In The Same River Twice." The River Changes Every Second; And So Does The Man Who Stepped In It. Life Is A Ceaseless Change. The Only Certainty Is Today. Why Mar The Beauty Of Living Today By Trying To Solve The Problems Of A Future That Is Shrouded In Ceaseless Change And Uncertainty-a Future That No One Can Possibly Foretell?

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Your Purpose Is To Make Your Audience See What You Saw, Hear What You Heard, Feel What You Felt.

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Suppose You Had Inherited The Same Body And Temperament And Mind That Al Capone Had. Suppose You Had Had His Environment And Experiences. You Would Then Be Precisely What He Was. . . . For It Is Those Things - And Only Those Things - That Made Him What He Was. . . . You Deserve Very Little Credit For Being What You Are - And Remember, The People Who Come To You Irritated, Bigoted, Unreasoning, Deserve Very Little Discredit For Being What They Are.

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Stop And Look Out The Window And See How Beautiful The World Is. It Is There-enjoy It. Go Out Tonight And Look Up At The Stars. They Are The Wonders Of Nature

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Did You Ever See An Unhappy Horse? Did You Ever See Bird That Had The Blues? One Reason Why Birds And Horses Are Not Unhappy Is Because They Are Not Trying To Impress Other Birds And Horses.

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Much Of The Best Work Of The World Has Been Done Against Seeming Impossibilities.

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