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The More Aware We Are Of Our Basic Paradigms, Maps, Or Assumptions, And The Extent To Which We Have Been Influenced By Our Experience, The More We Can Take Responsibility For Those Paradigms, Examine Them, Test Them Against Reality, Listen To Others And Be Open To Their Perceptions, Thereby Getting A Larger Picture And A Far More Objective View.

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The More Aware We

Stephen Covey

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The More Aware We Are Of Our Basic Paradigms, Maps, Or Assumptions, And The Extent To Which We Have Been Influenced By Our Experience, The More We Can Take Responsibility For Those Paradigms, Examine Them, Test Them Against Reality, Listen To Others And Be Open To Their Perceptions, Thereby Getting A Larger Picture And A Far More Objective View.

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