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If The Only Vision We Have Of Ourselves Comes From The Social Mirror - From The Current Social Paradigm And From The Opinions, Perceptions, And Paradigms Of The People Around Us - Our View Of Ourselves Is Like The Reflection In A Crazy Mirror Room At The Carnival.

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Stephen Covey

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If The Only Vision We Have Of Ourselves Comes From The Social Mirror - From The Current Social Paradigm And From The Opinions, Perceptions, And Paradigms Of The People Around Us - Our View Of Ourselves Is Like The Reflection In A Crazy Mirror Room At The Carnival.

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All Things Are Created Twice, But Not All First Creations Are By Conscious Design. In Our Personal Lives, If We Do Not Develop Our Own Self-awareness And Become Responsible For First Creations, We Empower Other People And Circumstances Outside Our Circle Of Influence To Shape Much Of Our Lives By Default. We Reactively Live The Scripts Handed To Us By Family, Associates, Other People's Agendas, The Pressures Of Circumstance - Scripts From Our Earlier Years, From Our Training, Our Conditioning.

Win-win Is A Belief In The Third Alternative. It's Not Your Way Or My Way; It's A Better Way, A Higher Way.

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The Key To The Ability To Change Is A Changeless Sense Of Who You Are, What You Are About And What You Value.

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As Long As You Think The Problem Is Out There, That Very Thought Is The Problem

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