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When People Seriously Undertake To Identify What Really Matters Most To Them In Their Lives, What They Really Want To Be And Do, They Become Very Reverent. They Start To Think In Larger Terms Than Today And Tomorrow.

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When People Seriously Undertake

Stephen Covey

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When People Seriously Undertake To Identify What Really Matters Most To Them In Their Lives, What They Really Want To Be And Do, They Become Very Reverent. They Start To Think In Larger Terms Than Today And Tomorrow.

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Every Time I See High-trust Cultures, I See A Lessening Of Adversarialism.

Improve Relationships With Others By Assuming That They Can Hear Everything You Say About Them

Relationships With Others

Character Grows In The Soil Of Experience With The Fertilization Of Example, The Moisture Of Ambition, And The Sunshine Of Satisfaction. Character Cannot Be Purchased, Bargained For, Inherited, Rented Or Imported From Afar. It Must Be Home-grown. Purely Intellectual Development Without Commensurate Internal Character Development Makes As Much Sense As Putting A High-powered Sports Car In The Hands Of A Teenager Who Is High On Drugs. Yet All Too Often In The Academic World, That's Exactly What We Do By Not Focusing On The Character Development Of Young People.

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It Is Possible To Be Busy-very Busy-without Being Very Effective.

Climbing The Ladder

Ladder Of Success

In The Long Run, You Can Never Accomplish A Worthy End With An Unworthy Means.

If You Organize Your Family Life To Spend Even Ten Or Fifteen Minutes A Morning Reading Something That Connects You With These Timeless Principles, Its Almost Guaranteed That You Will Make Better Choices During The Day--in The Family, On The Job, In Every Dimension Of Life. Your Thoughts Will Be Higher. Your Interactions Will Be More Satisfying. You Will Have A Greater Perspective. You Will Increase That Space Between What Happens To You And Your Response To It. You Will Be More Connected To What Really Matters Most.

When A Person Has Access To Both The Intuitive, Creative And Visual Right Brain, And The Analytical, Logical, Verbal Left Brain, Then The Whole Brain Is Working...and This Tool Is Best Suited To The Reality Of What Life Is, Because Life Is Not Just Logical-it Is Also Emotional.

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It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity.

We Judge Ourselves By Our Intentions. And Others By Their Actions.

To Me, The Essence Of Keeping The Soul Nourished Is Obedience To One's Conscience. I Don't Think That The Soul Can Be Nourished Unless People Have A Strong Sense Of Conscience That They Have Educated And Developed And Soaked In The Universal And Timeless Principles Of Integrity And Service. This Way, The Individual's Soul Becomes Part Of The Universal Soul Of Service, Contribution, And Making A Difference.

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Many People Seem To Think That Success In One Area Can Compensate For Failure In Other Areas. But Can It Really?... True Effectiveness Requires Balance.

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Time Management

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Intrinsic Security Doesn't Come From What Other People Think Of Us Or How They Treat Us. It Doesn't Come From Our Circumstance Or Out Position. It Comes From Within. It Comes From Accurate Paradigms And Correct Principles Deep In Our Own Mind And Heart. It Comes From Inside-out Congruence, From Living A Life Of Integrity In Which Our Daily Habits Reflect Our Deepest Values.

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I Am Personally Convinced That One Person Can Be A Change Catalyst, A 'transformer' In Any Situation, Any Organization. Such An Individual Is Yeast That Can Leaven An Entire Loaf. It Requires Vision, Initiative, Patience, Respect, Persistence, Courage, And Faith To Be A Transforming Leader.

Once We Are Self-aware, We Must Choose Purposes And Principles To Live By; Otherwise The Vacuum Will Be Filled, And We Will Lose Our Self-awareness And Become Like Groveling Animals Who Live Primarily For Survival And Propagation. People Who Exist On That Level Aren't Living; They Are "being Lived".

Security Represents Your Sense Of Worth, Your Identity, Your Emotional Anchorage, Your Self-esteem, Your Basic Personal Strength Or Lack Of It.

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To Begin With The End In Mind Means To Start With A Clear Understanding Of Your Destination. It Means To Know Where You're Going So That You Better Understand Where You Are Now And So That The Steps You Take Are Always In The Right Direction.

More Essential Than Working On Attitudes And Behaviors Is Examining The Paradigms Out Of Which Those Attitudes And Behaviors Flow.

Empathy Takes Time, And Efficiency Is For Things, Not People.

Every Exaggeration Of The Truth Once Detected By Others Destroys Our Credibility And Makes All That We Do And Say Suspect.

It Is Futile To Put Personality Ahead Of Character, To Try To Improve Relationships With Others Before Improving Ourselves.

Keeping Promises

Consequences Are Governed By Principles, And Behavior Is Governed By Values; Therefore, Value Principles!

Be Sure That, As You Scramble Up The Ladder Of Success, It Is Leaning Against The Right Building.

People Can't Live With Change If There's Not A Changeless Core Inside Them.

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