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Be A Light, Not A Judge, Be A Model Not A Critic. Little By Little, Your Circle Of Influence Will Explode And You Will Avoid The Emotional Metastasizing Cancers Of Complaining, Criticizing, Competing, Comparing And Cynicism, All Which Reflect Victimization, All Of Which Are The Opposite Of Being Proactive.

-Stephen Covey

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Be A Light, Not

Stephen Covey

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Be A Light, Not A Judge, Be A Model Not A Critic. Little By Little, Your Circle Of Influence Will Explode And You Will Avoid The Emotional Metastasizing Cancers Of Complaining, Criticizing, Competing, Comparing And Cynicism, All Which Reflect Victimization, All Of Which Are The Opposite Of Being Proactive.

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When We Value Correct Principles, We Have Truth - A Knowledge Of Things As They Are.

I Try To Exercise Regularly Every Day, If I Can. It Renews You And It Gives You More Balance In Your Life. This Is A Key Leverage Point.

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You Will Never Be Able To Truly Step Inside Another Person, To See The World As He Sees It, Until You Develop The Pure Desire, The Strength Of Personal Character, And The Positive Emotional Bank Account, As Well As The Empathetic Listening Skills To Do It.

Live The Law Of Love. We Encourage Obedience To The Laws Of Life When We Live The Laws Of Love.

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The Enemy Of The "best" Is Often The "good."

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The Principle Of Fasting Is Taught In Almost All Major World Religions As A Means Of Developing A Higher Level Of Self-mastery And Self-control, And Also A Deeper Awareness Of How Really Dependent We Are.

If Our Feelings Control Our Actions, It Is Because We Have Abdicated Our Responsibility And Empowered Them To Do So.

Seek To Understand Rather Than Be Understood.

I Know It Is Possible Not Only To Restore Trust But To Actually Enhance It. The Difficult Things That We Got Through With The Important People In Our Lives Can Become Fertile Ground For The Growth Of Enduring Trust - Trust That Is Actually Stronger Because It's Been Tested And Proved Through Challenge.

I'm Convinced That We Can Write And Live Our Own Scripts More Than Most People Will Acknowledge. I Also Know The Price That Must Be Paid. It's A Real Struggle To Do It. It Requires Visualization And Affirmation. It Involves Living A Life Of Integrity, Starting With Making And Keeping Promises, Until The Whole Human Personality The Senses, The Thinking, The Feeling, And The Intuition Are Ultimately Integrated And Harmonized.

Be A Function Of Your Values Rather Than A Function Of The Impulse Or Desire Of Any Given Moment.

To Begin With The End In Mind Means To Start With A Clear Understanding Of Your Destination. It Means To Know Where You're Going So That You Better Understand Where You Are Now And So That The Steps You Take Are Always In The Right Direction.

The Deepest Hunger Of [a Child's] Human Heart Is To Be Understood, For Understanding Implicitly Affirms, Validates, Recognizes And Appreciates The Intrinsic Worth Of Another.

Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood.

The Role Of The Leader Is To Foster Mutual Respect And Build A Complementary Team Where Each Strength Is Made Productive And Each Weakness Irrelevant.

The More People Rationalize Cheating, The More It Becomes A Culture Of Dishonesty. And That Can Become A Vicious, Downward Cycle. Because Suddenly, If Everyone Else Is Cheating, You Feel A Need To Cheat, Too.

Strength Lies In Differences, Not In Similarities

You Can't Have The Fruits Without The Roots.

Independent Thinking Alone Is Not Suited To Interdependent Reality.

We Are Product Of Neither Nature Nor Nurture; We Are A Product Of Choice, Because There Is Always A Space Between Stimulus And Response. As We Wisely Exercise Our Power To Choose Based On Principles, The Space Will Become Larger.

During The First Few Minutes In Lift-off, The Astronauts Were Strictly Controlled And Were Powerfully Buffeted By The Forces Of Nature Struggling To Keep Them On Earth. This Is Somewhat Comparable To The Pull Of The Flesh When Our Alarm Goes Off Early In The Morning. Unless We Put "mind Over Mattress" And Carry Out The Resolves Made The Night Before, We Will Experience Our First Defeat That Day. Not Sufficient To Finish. Mission Aborted.

Happiness, Like Unhappiness, Is A Proactive Choice.

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