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To Me, The Essence Of Keeping The Soul Nourished Is Obedience To One's Conscience. I Don't Think That The Soul Can Be Nourished Unless People Have A Strong Sense Of Conscience That They Have Educated And Developed And Soaked In The Universal And Timeless Principles Of Integrity And Service. This Way, The Individual's Soul Becomes Part Of The Universal Soul Of Service, Contribution, And Making A Difference.

-Stephen Covey

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To Me, The Essence

Stephen Covey

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To Me, The Essence Of Keeping The Soul Nourished Is Obedience To One's Conscience. I Don't Think That The Soul Can Be Nourished Unless People Have A Strong Sense Of Conscience That They Have Educated And Developed And Soaked In The Universal And Timeless Principles Of Integrity And Service. This Way, The Individual's Soul Becomes Part Of The Universal Soul Of Service, Contribution, And Making A Difference.

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We Not Not Our Feelings. We Are Not Our Moods. We Not Even Our Thoughts.

Management Is Efficiency In Climbing The Ladder Of Success; Leadership Determines Whether The Ladder Is Leaning Against The Right Wall.

At Some Time In Your Life, You Probably Had Someone Believe In You When You Didn't Believe In Yourself.

Personal Development

But Borrowing Strength Builds Weakness.

Personal Development

Actually I Did Not Invent The Seven Habits, They Are Universal Principles And Most Of What I Wrote About Is Just Common Sense. I Am Embarrassed When People Talk About The Covey Habits, And Dislike The Idea Of Being Some Sort Of Guru.

It Doesn't Really Matter How Fast You're Going If You're Heading In The Wrong Direction.

Inspirational Life

Effective Communication Is Built On The Cement Of Trust. And Trust Is Based On Trustworthiness, Not Politics.

Trustworthiness

Ineffective People Live Day After Day With Unused Potential.

Too Many Vacations That Last Too Long, Too Many Movies, Too Much Tv, Too Much Video Game Playing - Too Much Undisciplined Leisure Time In Which A Person Continually Takes The Course Of Least Resistance Gradually Wastes A Life. It Ensures That A Person's Capacities Stay Dormant, That Talents Remain Undeveloped, That The Mind And Spirit Become Lethargic And That The Heart Remains Unfulfilled.

Without Exception, Empathy Is Always Appropriate.

If I Really Want To Improve My Situation, I Can Work On The One Thing Over Which I Have Control-myself. I Can Stop Trying To Shape Up My Wife And Can Work On My Own Weaknesses. I Can Focus An Being A Great Marriage Partner, A Source Of Unconditional Love And Support. Hopefully, My Wife Will Feel The Power Of Proactive Example And Respond In Kind. But, Whether She Does Or Doesn't, The Most Positive Way I Can Influence My Situation Is To Work On Myself, On My Being.

Unconditional Love

Effective People Are Not Problem-minded; They're Opportunity Minded. They Feed Opportunities And Starve Problems.

When You Show Deep Empathy Toward Others, Their Defensive Energy Goes Down, And Positive Energy Replaces It. That's When You Can Get More Creative In Solving Problems.

Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

Good Relationship

The Environment You Fashion Out Of Your Thoughts, Your Beliefs, Your Ideals, Your Philosophy Is The Only Climate You Will Ever Live In. The Key Is In Not Spending Time, But In Investing It.

Quality Relationships Are Built On Principles, Especially The Principle Of Trust.

Interdependence Is A Higher Value Than Independence

The Worldly Fountain Does Not Breed Spiritual Depth.

Over Time, I Have Come To This Simple Definition Of Leadership: Leadership Is Getting Results In A Way That Inspires Trust.

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