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Innocent Pleasures In Moderation Can Provide Relaxation For The Body And Mind And Can Foster Family And Other Relationships. But Pleasure, Per Se, Offers No Deep, Lasting Satisfaction Or Sense Of Fulfillment. The Pleasure-centered Person, Too Soon Bored With Each Succeeding Level Of "fun," Constantly Cries For More And More. So The Next New Pleasure Has To Be Bigger And Better, More Exciting, With A Bigger "high." A Person In This State Becomes Almost Entirely Narcissistic, Interpreting All Of Life In Terms Of The Pleasure It Provides To The Self Here And Now.

-Stephen Covey

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Innocent Pleasures In Moderation

Stephen Covey

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Innocent Pleasures In Moderation Can Provide Relaxation For The Body And Mind And Can Foster Family And Other Relationships. But Pleasure, Per Se, Offers No Deep, Lasting Satisfaction Or Sense Of Fulfillment. The Pleasure-centered Person, Too Soon Bored With Each Succeeding Level Of "fun," Constantly Cries For More And More. So The Next New Pleasure Has To Be Bigger And Better, More Exciting, With A Bigger "high." A Person In This State Becomes Almost Entirely Narcissistic, Interpreting All Of Life In Terms Of The Pleasure It Provides To The Self Here And Now.

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While We Cannot Always Choose What Happens To Us, We Can Choose Our Responses.

Many People Think In Terms Of Either/or: Either You're Nice Or You're Tough. Win-win Requires That You Be Both. It Is A Balancing Act Between Courage And Consideration. To Go For Win-win, You Not Only Have To Be Empathic, But You Also Have To Be Confident. You Not Only Have To Be Considerate And Sensitive, You Also Have To Be Brave. To Do That-to Achieve That Balance Between Courage And Consideration-is The Essence Of Real Maturity And Is Fundamental To Win-win.

Reactive People... Are Often Affected By Their Physical Environment. They Find External Sources To Blame For Their Behavior.

Results Matter! They Matter To Your Credibility.

If You Organize Your Family Life To Spend Even Ten Or Fifteen Minutes A Morning Reading Something That Connects You With These Timeless Principles, Its Almost Guaranteed That You Will Make Better Choices During The Day--in The Family, On The Job, In Every Dimension Of Life. Your Thoughts Will Be Higher. Your Interactions Will Be More Satisfying. You Will Have A Greater Perspective. You Will Increase That Space Between What Happens To You And Your Response To It. You Will Be More Connected To What Really Matters Most.

When You Have Too Many Top Priorities, You Effectively Have No Top Priorities.

The Ability To Manage Well Doesn't Make Much Difference If You're Not Even In The Right Jungle.

I Find Most Meetings Are A Waste Of Time, Because They Are So Ill-prepared And There's Little Opportunity For True Synergy In Producing Better Solutions Than What Anyone Originally Thought Of. So I Work Hard To Only Attend Those Meetings That Have Strategic Importance And Miss All Kinds Of Other Seemingly Urgent Meetings.

Just As The Education Of Nerve And Sinew Is Vital To The Excellent Athlete And Education Of The Mind Is Vital To The Scholar, Education Of The Conscience Is Vital To The Truly Proactive, Highly Effective Person. Training And Educating The Conscience, However, Requires Even Greater Concentration, More Balanced Discipline, More Consistently Honest Living. It Requires Regular Feasting On Inspiring Literature, Thinking Noble Thoughts And, Above All, Living In Harmony With Its Still Small Voice.

If I Try To Use Human Influence Strategies And Tactics Of How To Get Other People To Do What I Want, To Work Better, To Be More Motivated, To Like Me And Each Other-while My Character Is Fundamentally Flawed, Marked By Duplicity And Insincerity-then, In The Long Run, I Cannot Be Successful. My Duplicity Will Breed Distrust, And Everything I Do-even Using So-called Good Human Relations Techniques-will Be Perceived As Manipulative.

When You Really Listen To Another Person From Their Point Of View, And Reflect Back To Them That Understanding, It's Like Giving Them Emotional Oxygen.

Vision Is Seeing A Future State With The Mind's Eye. Vision Is Applied Imagination.

When You Engage In A Work That Taps Your Talent And Fuels Your Passion-that Rises Out Of A Great Need In The World That You Feel Drawn By Conscience To Meet-therein Lies Your Voice, Your Calling, Your Soul's Code.

Synergy Is Everywhere In Nature. If You Plant Two Plants Close Together, The Roots Commingle And Improve The Quality Of The Soil So That Both Plants Will Grow Better Than If They Were Separated. If You Put Two Pieces Of Wood Together, They Will Hold Much More Than The Total Weight Held By Each Separately. The Whole Is Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts. One Plus One Equals Three Or More.

Love - The Feeling - Is A Fruit Of Love, The Verb.

Historically, The Family Has Played The Primary Role In Educating Children For Life, With The School Providing Supplemental Scaffolding To The Family.

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