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I Am Senting Many Books For Endorsement Purposes, Which Enables Me To Stay Relevant In My Own Field, And I Have People That Help Me Decide Which Ones I Should Read And Endorse.

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Stephen Covey

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I Am Senting Many Books For Endorsement Purposes, Which Enables Me To Stay Relevant In My Own Field, And I Have People That Help Me Decide Which Ones I Should Read And Endorse.

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"if I Make Deposits Into An Emotional Bank Account With You Through Courtesy, Kindness, Honesty, And Keeping My Commitments To You, I Build Up A Reserve. Your Trust Toward Me Becomes Higher, And I Can Call Upon That Trust Many Times If I Need To. I Can Even Make Mistakes And That Trust Level, That Emotional Reserve, Will Compensate For It. My Communication May Not Be Clear, But You'll Get My Meaning Anyway. You Won't Make Me "an Offender For A Word." When The Trust Account Is High, Communication Is Easy, Instant, And Effective."

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What We Are Communicates Far More Eloquently Than Anything We Say Or Do. There Are People We Trust Because We Know Their Character. Whether They're Eloquent Or Not, Whether They Have Human-relations Techniques Or Not, We Trust Them And Work With Them.

You Don't See The World As It Is, You See It According To Who You Are.

We Can't Live Without Eating, But We Don't Live To Eat.

The Enemy Of The "best" Is Often The "good."

Priorities In Life

Inspire (from The Latin Inspirare) Means To Breathe Life Into Another.

We're Responsible For Our Own Lives.

We Are Not Animals. We Are Not A Product Of What Has Happened To Us In Our Past. We Have The Power Of Choice.

Nothing Tastes As Good As Thin Feels.

They [nazi Captors]had More Liberty, More Options To Choose From In Their Environment; But He [viktor Frankl] Had More Freedom, More Internal Power To Exercise His Options.

To Focus On Technique Is Like Cramming Your Way Through School. You Sometimes Get By, Perhaps Even Get Good Grades, But If You Don't Pay The Price Day In And Day Out, You'll Never Achieve True Mastery Of The Subjects You Study Or Develop An Educated Mind.

We Are Free To Choose Our Response In Any Situation, But In Doing So We Chose The Attendant Consequence. If We Pick Up One End Of The Stick, We Pick Up The Other.

It Is In The Ordinary Events Of Every Day That We Develop The Proactive Capacity To Handle The Extraordinary Pressures Of Life. It's How We Make And Keep Commitments, How We Handle A Traffic Jam, How We Respond To An Irate Customer Or A Disobedient Child. It's How We View Our Problems And Where We Focus Our Energies. It's The Language We Use.

Our Behavior Is Governed By Principles. Living In Harmony With Them Brings Positive Consequences; Violating Them Brings Negative Consequences.

Accountability Breeds Response-ability.

This Is The Single Most Powerful Investment We Can Ever Make In Life—investment In Ourselves, In The Only Instrument We Have With Which To Deal With Life And To Contribute.

Link Yourself To Your Potential, Not To Your Past.

The 8th Habit, Then, Is Not About Adding One More Habit To The 7 - One That Somehow Got Forgotten. It's About Seeing And Harnessing The Power Of A Third Dimension To The 7 Habits That Meets The Central Challenge Of The New Knowledge Worker Age. The 8th Habit Is To Find Your Voice And Inspire Others To Find Theirs.

Sometimes Poor Behavior Is Simply Bad Execution Of Good Intent.

Each Of Us Guard A Gate Of Change That Can Only Be Opened From The Inside.

Emotional Appeal

'in Empathic Listening You Listen With Your Ears, But You Also, And More Importantly, Listen With You Eyes And With Your Heart. You Listen For Feeling, For Meaning. You Listen For Behaviour. You Use Your Right Brain As Well As Your Left. You Sense, You Intuit, You Feel.' ... 'you Have To Open Yourself Up To Be Influenced'.

The Key To The Many Is Often The One; It Is How You Regard And Talk About The One In That One's Absence Or Presence That Communicates To The Many How You Would Regard And Talk About Them In Their Presence Or Absence.

When Your Happiness Comes Primarily From The Happiness Of Others, You Know You Have Moved From A 'me' Experience To A 'we' Experience. And The Whole Problem-solving And Opportunity-seizing Process Changes.

How You Treat The One Reveals How You Regard The Many, Because Everyone Is Ultimately A One.

Interpersonal Skills

Through It All I Have Learned That Parenting Is Basically A Life Of Self Sacrifice.

Be Patient With Yourself. Self-growth Is Tender; It's Holy Ground. There's No Greater Investment.

Make Specific Appointments With Yourself To Work On Goals, And Treat An Appointment With Yourself As You'd Treat An Appointment With Anybody Else.

At Some Time In Your Life, You Probably Had Someone Believe In You When You Didn't Believe In Yourself.

Personal Development

The Only Way We Can Handle Change Around Us Is To Know What Is Changeless About Ourselves

Empathic Listening Is So Powerful Because It Gives You Accurate Data To Work With. Instead Of Projecting Your Own Autobiography And Assuming Thoughts, Feelings, Motives And Interpretation, You're Dealing With The Reality Inside Another Person's Head And Heart. You're Listening To Understand. You're Focused On Receiving The Deep Communication Of Another Human Soul.

Retire From Your Job But Never From Meaningful Projects. If You Want To Live A Long Life, You Need Eustress, That Is, A Deep Sense Of Meaning And Of Contribution To Worthy Projects And Causes, Particularly, Your Intergenerational Family.

Difference Is The Beginning Of Synergy.

We Are Free To Choose Our Actions, . . . But We Are Not Free To Choose The Consequences Of These Actions.

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity. A Person Must Possess Himself And Have A Deep Sense Of Security In Fundamental Principles And Values In Order To Genuinely Apologize.

Most People Are Basically A Victim Of The Circumstances Of Their Life. They Have Things Like 9/11, They Have Terrorism Threats, They Have New War Threats, They Have Economy Problems, And They Think, 'what Can I Do? I'm Basically A Victim.'

A Personal Mission Statement Becomes The Dna For Every Other Decision We Make.

Decisions We Make

But Until A Person Can Say Deeply And Honestly, "i Am What I Am Today Because Of The Choices I Made Yesterday," That Person Cannot Say, "i Choose Otherwise.

Satisfied Needs Do Not Motivate. It's Only The Unsatisfied Need That Motivates. Next To Physical Survival, The Greatest Need Of A Human Being Is Psychological Survival - To Be Understood, To Be Affirmed, To Be Validated, To Be Appreciated.

I Am Convinced That If We As A Society Work Diligently In Every Other Area Of Life And Neglect The Family, It Would Be Analogous To Straightening Deck Chairs On The Titanic.

While We Cannot Always Choose What Happens To Us, We Can Choose Our Responses.

Private Victories Precede Public Victories.

Keeping Promises

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Develop All Four Intelligences. Pq (physical Intelligence) Which Represents 70 Trillion Cells That Fight Disease And Digest Your Breakfast. Iq (intellectual Intelligence) Eq (emotional Intelligence) The Sensing And Wisdom Of The Heart - - And Sq (spiritual Intelligence) Having To Do With Meaning, Purpose And Integrity Around Your Selected Value System And Your Believed Source. When Combined, They Change The World For Good.

It Doesn't Really Matter How Fast You're Going If You're Heading In The Wrong Direction.

Inspirational Life

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To Be Successful We Must Live From Our Imaginations, Not From Our Memories.

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Trust Is The Glue That Holds Everything Together.

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Life Is Not Accumulation, It Is About Contribution.

The Only Person Over Whom You Have Direct And Immediate Control Is Yourself. The Most Important Assets To Develop, Preserve And Enhance, Therefore, Are Your Own Capabilities. And No One Can Do It For You. You Must Cultivate The Habit Of Leadership Effectiveness For Yourself - And Doing So Will Be The Single Best Investment You Will Ever Make.

In My Own Experience, Both Personally And Professionally, I've Learned That You Don't Wait To Confront Reality. It Doesn't Get Easier. It Doesn't Get Better. And, In Some Cases, If You Don't Get The Relevant Information From People And Act Quickly, You Start Losing Options. You're Into Damage Control.

My Behavior Is A Product Of My Own Conscious Choices Based On Principles, Rather Than A Product Of My Conditions, Based On Feelings.

Every Time I See High-trust Cultures, I See A Lessening Of Adversarialism.

It Takes Humility To Seek Feedback. It Takes Wisdom To Understand It, Analyze It And Appropriately Act On It.

Whatever Your Present Situation, I Assure You That You Are Not Your Habits. You Can Replace Old Patterns Of Self-defeating Behavior With New Patterns, New Habits Of The Effectiveness, Happiness And Trust-based Relationships.

Trust Is The Glue In Relationships And Organizations

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The Human Will Is An Amazing Thing. Time After Time, It Has Triumphed Against Unbelievable Odds.

The 'inside-out' Approach To Personal And Interpersonal Effectiveness Means To Start First With Self; Even More Fundamentally, To Start With The Most Inside Part Of Self, With Your Paradigms, Your Character, And Your Motives. The Inside-out Approach Says That Private Victories Precede Public Victories, That Making And Keeping Promises To Ourselves Recedes Making And Keeping Promises To Others. It Says It Is Futile To Put Personality Ahead Of Character, To Try To Improve Relationships With Others Before Improving Ourselves.

People Who End Up With The Good Jobs Are The Proactive Ones Who Are Solutions To Problems, Not Problems Themselves, Who Seize The Initiative To Do Whatever Is Necessary To Get The Job Done.

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity.

Our Character Is Basically A Composite Of Our Habits.

Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

Good Relationship

If You Don't Set Your Goals Based Upon Your Mission Statement, You May Be Climbing The Ladder Of Success Only To Realize, When You Get To The Top, You're On The Wrong Building.

Taking Initiative Is A Form Of Self-empowerment.

Nevertheless, The Only Way We Can Move From Where We Are Now To Where We Would Like To Be Is To Accept Where We Are Now.

The Key To The Ability To Change Is A Changeless Sense Of Who You Are, What You Are About And What You Value.

Remember That Our Reactions Are A Product Of Our Perceptions, And Our Perceptions Are A Result Of What Is At The Center Of Our Life.

Before You Wonder "am I Doing Things Right?" Wonder "am I Doing The Right Things?"

Doing The Right Thing

Fundamentally, We Are A Product Of Choice, Not Nature (genes) Or Nurture (upbringing, Environment).

While Values Drive Behaviors, Principles Govern Consequences.

The More Aware We Are Of Our Basic Paradigms, Maps, Or Assumptions, And The Extent To Which We Have Been Influenced By Our Experience, The More We Can Take Responsibility For Those Paradigms, Examine Them, Test Them Against Reality, Listen To Others And Be Open To Their Perceptions, Thereby Getting A Larger Picture And A Far More Objective View.

Live Simply And Appreciate What You Have. Give More. Expect Less.

Appreciate What You Have

It's Better To Be Trusted Than To Be Liked.

If You Organize Your Family Life To Spend Even Ten Or Fifteen Minutes A Morning Reading Something That Connects You With These Timeless Principles, Its Almost Guaranteed That You Will Make Better Choices During The Day--in The Family, On The Job, In Every Dimension Of Life. Your Thoughts Will Be Higher. Your Interactions Will Be More Satisfying. You Will Have A Greater Perspective. You Will Increase That Space Between What Happens To You And Your Response To It. You Will Be More Connected To What Really Matters Most.

We're Often So Busy Cutting Through The Undergrowth We Don't Even Realise We're In The Wrong Jungle.

When Parents See Their Children's Problems As Opportunities To Build The Relationship Instead Of As Negative, Burdensome Irritations, It Totally Changes The Nature Of Parent-child Interaction. Parents Become More Willing, Even Excited, About Deeply Understanding And Helping Their Children. . . . This Paradigm Is Powerful In Business As Well.

I Believe That Correct Principles Are Natural Laws, And That God, The Creator And Father Of Us All, Is The Source Of Them, And Also The Source Of Our Conscience. I Believe That To The Degree People Live By This Inspired Conscience, They Will Grow To Fulfill Their Natures; To The Degree That They Do Not, They Will Not Rise Above The Animal Plane.

Brands Need To Reinvent Themselves From Time To Time To Stay Relevant.

You May Be Good, But What Are You Good For? You've Got To Be Good For Something. You've Got To Be About Some Project, Some Task That Requires You To Be Humble And Obedient To The Universal Principles Of Service. You've Got To Live A Life Of Complete And Total Integrity In Order To Give This Kind Of Service. This Integrity Enables You To Love Other People Unconditionally, To Be Courageous And Kind At The Same Time, Because You Have Integratedness Inside Your Own Soul.

Principles Are Natural Laws That Are External To Us And That Ultimately Control The Consequences Of Our Actions. Values Are Internal And Subjective And Represent That Which We Feel Strongest About In Guiding Our Behavior.

The Greatest Risk Is The Risk Of Riskless Living.

Those Who Get The Most Out Of Life And Those Who Give The Most Are Those Who Make The Choice To Act.

I Don't Read Blogs But Occasionally People Tell Me About What They Contain, And I Do Take Questions That Come From Blogs.

When It Comes To Developing Character Strength, Inner Security And Unique Personal And Interpersonal Talents And Skills In A Child, No Institution Can Or Ever Will Compare With, Or Effectively Substitute For, The Home's Potential For Positive Influence.

The Most Important Ingredient We Put Into Any Relationship Is Not What We Say Or What We Do, But What We Are. And If Our Words And Our Actions Come From Superficial Human Relations Techniques (the Personality Ethic) Rather Than From Our Own Inner Core (the Character Ethic), Others Will Sense That Duplicity. We Simply Won't Be Able To Create And Sustain The Foundation Necessary For Effective Interdependence.

The Power Of Transcendent Vision Is Greater Than The Power Of The Scripting Deep Inside The Human Personality And It Subordinates It [the Scripting], Submerges It, Until The Whole Personality Is Reorganized In The Accomplishment Of That Vision.

Trust Is The One Thing That Affects Everything Else You're Doing. It's A Performance Multiplier Which Takes Your Trajectory Upwards, For Every Activity You Engage In, From Strategy To Execution.

If You Were To Fault Yourself In One Of Three Areas, Which Would It Be: (1) The Inability To Prioritize; (2) The Inability Or Desire To Organize Around Those Priorities; Or (3) The Lack Of Discipline To Execute Around Them? ... Most People Say Their Main Fault Is A Lack Of Discipline. On Deeper Thought, I Believe That Is Not The Case. The Basic Problem Is That Their Priorities Have Not Become Deeply Planted In Their Hearts And Minds. They Haven't Really Internalized Habit 2 [begin With The End In Mind].

Suppose You Were To Come Upon Someone In The Woods Working Feverishly To Saw Down A Tree. "what Are You Doing?" You Ask. "can't You See?" Comes The Impatient Reply. "i'm Sawing Down This Tree." "you Look Exhausted!" You Exclaim. "how Long Have You Been At It?" "over Five Hours," He Returns, "and I'm Beat! This Is Hard Work." 'well, Why Don't You Take A Break For A Few Minutes And Sharpen That Saw?" You Inquire. "i'm Sure It Would Go A Lot Faster." "i Don't Have Time To Sharpen The Saw," The Man Says Emphatically. "i'm Too Busy Sawing!"

The Only Thing That Endures Over Time Is The 'law Of The Farm.' You Must Prepare The Ground, Plant The Seed, Cultivate, And Water If You Expect To Reap The Harvest.

We Are Limited But We Can Push Back The Borders Of Our Limitations

It Is Futile To Put Personality Ahead Of Character, To Try To Improve Relationships With Others Before Improving Ourselves.

Keeping Promises

You Can Say You Love Someone - But Unless You Demonstrate That Love Through Your Actions, Your Words Become Meaningless.

When We Succumb To Believing That We Are Victims Of Our Circumstances And Yield To The Plight Of Determinism, We Lose Hope, We Lose Drive, And We Settle Into Resignation And Stagnation.

Innocent Pleasures In Moderation Can Provide Relaxation For The Body And Mind And Can Foster Family And Other Relationships. But Pleasure, Per Se, Offers No Deep, Lasting Satisfaction Or Sense Of Fulfillment. The Pleasure-centered Person, Too Soon Bored With Each Succeeding Level Of "fun," Constantly Cries For More And More. So The Next New Pleasure Has To Be Bigger And Better, More Exciting, With A Bigger "high." A Person In This State Becomes Almost Entirely Narcissistic, Interpreting All Of Life In Terms Of The Pleasure It Provides To The Self Here And Now.

Pursuit Of Happiness

When Air Is Charged With Emotions, An Attempt To Teach Is Often Perceived As A Form Of Judgment And Rejection.

Will We Act Upon Life, Or Will We Merely Be Acted Upon?

Executives Need To Understand The Economic Benefits Of Trust Dividend, Especially When The Behavior Is Real, Not Artificially Or Superficially Created As Pr To Manipulate Trust.

One Of The Most Important Ways To Manifest Integrity Is To Be Loyal To Those Who Are Not Present. In Doing So, We Build The Trust Of Those Who Are Present.

Unless People Feel That They Are Accepted And That They Have A Right To Express Their Feelings Without Fear Of Embarrassment Or Ridicule, All They Will Do Is React And Rebel And Struggle For Their Identity.

There Are Certain Things That Are Fundamental To Human Fulfillment. The Essence Of These Needs Is Captured In The Phrase 'to Live, To Love, To Learn, To Leave A Legacy.' The Need To Leave A Legacy Is Our Spiritual Need To Have A Sense Of Meaning, Purpose, Personal Congruence, And Contribution.

Creating And Integrating An Empowering Personal Mission Statement Is One Of The Most Important Investments We Can Make.

We Not Not Our Feelings. We Are Not Our Moods. We Not Even Our Thoughts.

When The Trust Is High, You Get The Trust Dividend. Investors Invest In Brands People Trust. Consumers Buy More From Companies They Trust, They Spend More With Companies They Trust, They Recommend Companies They Trust, And They Give Companies They Trust The Benefit Of The Doubt When Things Go Wrong.

Affirm People. Affirm Your Children. Believe In Them, Not In What You See But In What You Don't See - Their Potential.

It Is One Thing To Make A Mistake, And Quite Another Thing Not To Admit It. People Will Forgive Mistakes, Because Mistakes Are Usually Of The Mind, Mistakes Of Judgment. But People Will Not Easily Forgive The Mistakes Of The Heart, The Ill Intention, The Bad Motives, The Prideful Justifying Cover-up Of The First Mistake.

You Can Learn Great Things From Your Mistakes When You Aren’t Busy Denying Them.

If You Are An Effective Manager Of Your Self, Your Discipline Comes From Within; It Is A Function Of Your Independent Will. You Are A Disciple, A Follower, Of Your Own Deep Values And Their Source. And You Have The Will, The Integrity, To Subordinate Your Feelings, Your Impulses, Your Moods To Those Values.

Trust Is The Glue That Holds Everything Together. It Creates The Environment In Which All Of The Other Elements Win-win Stewardship Agreements, Self-directing Individuals And Teams, Aligned Structures And Systems, And Accountability Can Flourish.

Leadership Is A Choice, Not A Position

Once You Have A Clear Picture Of Your Priorities - That Is Values, Goals, And High Leverage Activities - Organize Around Them.

Role Modeling Is The Most Basic Responsibility Of Parents. Parents Are Handing Life's Scripts To Their Children, Scripts That In All Likelihood Will Be Acted Out For The Rest Of The Children's Lives.

Effective People Do Two Things: They Strive To Do Excellent Work, And They Prioritize.

If You're Proactive, You Don't Have To Wait For Circumstances Or Other People To Create Perspective Expanding Experiences. You Can Consciously Create Your Own.

Consequences Are Governed By Principles, And Behavior Is Governed By Values; Therefore, Value Principles!

At The Core, There Is One Simple, Overarching Reason Why So Many People Remain Unsatisfied In Their Work And Why Most Organisations Fail To Draw Out The Greatest Talent, Ingenuity, And Creativity Of Their People And Never Become Truly Great, Enduring Organisations. It Stems From An Incomplete Paradigm Of Who We Are - Our Fundamental View Of Human Nature. The Fundamental Reality Is, Human Beings Are Not Things Needing To Be Motivated And Controlled; They Are Four-dimensional - Body, Mind, Heart, And Spirit.

If I Try To Use Human Influence Strategies And Tactics Of How To Get Other People To Do What I Want, To Work Better, To Be More Motivated, To Like Me And Each Other-while My Character Is Fundamentally Flawed, Marked By Duplicity And Insincerity-then, In The Long Run, I Cannot Be Successful. My Duplicity Will Breed Distrust, And Everything I Do-even Using So-called Good Human Relations Techniques-will Be Perceived As Manipulative.

The Best Way To Develop Courage Is To Set A Goal And Achieve It, Make A Promise And Keep It.

Character Grows In The Soil Of Experience With The Fertilization Of Example, The Moisture Of Ambition, And The Sunshine Of Satisfaction. Character Cannot Be Purchased, Bargained For, Inherited, Rented Or Imported From Afar. It Must Be Home-grown. Purely Intellectual Development Without Commensurate Internal Character Development Makes As Much Sense As Putting A High-powered Sports Car In The Hands Of A Teenager Who Is High On Drugs. Yet All Too Often In The Academic World, That's Exactly What We Do By Not Focusing On The Character Development Of Young People.

Don't Argue For Other People's Weaknesses. Don't Argue For Your Own. When You Make A Mistake, Admit It, Correct It, And Learn From It / Immediately.

Being Humble Does Not Mean Being Weak, Reticent, Or Self-effacing. It Means Recognizing Principle And Putting It Ahead Of Self. It Means Standing Firmly For Principle, Even In The Fact Of Opposition.

Only 20 Percent Of Employees Working In Large Organizations Surveyed Feel Their Strengths Are In Play Every Day. Thus, Eight Our Of Ten Employees Surveyed Feel Somewhat Miscast In Their Role.

Contrary To What Most People Believe, Trust Is Not Some Soft, Illusive Quality That You Either Have Or You Don't; Rather, Trust Is A Pragmatic, Tangible, Actionable Asset That You Can Create.

It's Not What People Do To Us That Hurts Us. In The Most Fundamental Sense, It Is Our Chosen Response To What They Do To Us That Hurts Us.

All Things Are Created Twice. There Is A Mental (first) Creation, And A Physical (second) Creation. The Physical Creation Follows The Mental, Just As A Building Follows A Blueprint. If You Don't Make A Conscious Effort To Visualize Who You Are And What You Want In Life, Then You Empower Other People And Circumstances To Shape You And Your Life By Default.

As We Create Synergy Among The Roles Of Our Lives, There's More Of Us To Put Into The Time We Have.

There Are Three Constants In Life... Change, Choice And Principles.

Trust Is A Powerful Accelerator To Performance And When Trust Goes Up, Speed Also Goes Up While Cost Comes Down - Producing What We Call A Trust Dividend.

One Of The Best Ways To Educate Our Hearts Is To Look At Our Interaction With Other People, Because Our Relationships With Others Are Fundamentally A Reflection Of Our Relationship With Ourselves.

Listen To Your Conscience Regarding Something That You Simply Know You Should Do, Then Start Small On It - Make A Promise And Keep It. Then Move Forward And Make A Little Larger Promise And Keep It. Eventually You'll Discover That Your Sense Of Honor Will Become Greater Than Your Moods, And That Will Give You A Level Of Confidence And Excitement That You Can Move To Other Areas Where You Feel You Need To Make Improvements Or Give Service.

Whether Or Not We Belong To A Church Or Service Organization Or Have A Job That Provides Meaningful Service Opportunities, Not A Day Goes By That We Can't At Least Serve One Other Human Being By Making Deposits Of Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love

When You Really Listen To Another Person From Their Point Of View, And Reflect Back To Them That Understanding, It's Like Giving Them Emotional Oxygen.

Vital To Quality Of Life Is The Ability To Work Together, Learn From Each Other, And Help Each Other Grow.

Working Together

Management Is Formal Authority Given From Above. Leadership Is Moral Authority Given From Below And All Around.

Frustration Is A Function Of Our Expectations, And Our Expectations Are Often A Reflection Of The Social Mirror Rather Than Our Own Values And Priorities.

As People Enable Themselves To Achieve One Or Two Goals For The Year That Are Most Meaningful, They Will Find Power, Peace Of Mind, And Confidence In Their Abilities Because They Have Achieved What They Set Out To Accomplish. Your Commitment To Achieving What Matters Most Will Become The Foundation For Tremendous Accomplishments And Contributions. You Will Become The Change You Seek To Make.

To Change Ourselves Effectively, We First Had To Change Our Perceptions.

If You Can Hire People Whose Passion Intersects With The Job, They Won't Require Any Supervision At All. They Will Manage Themselves Better Than Anyone Could Ever Manage Them. Their Fire Comes From Within, Not From Without. Their Motivation Is Internal, Not External.

If We Do Not Teach Our Children, Societ Will. And They-and We-will Live With The Results.

Above All, Success In Business Requires Two Things: A Winning Competitive Strategy, And Superb Organizational Execution. Distrust Is The Enemy Of Both. I Submit That While High Trust Won't Necessarily Rescue A Poor Strategy, Low Trust Will Almost Always Derail A Good One.

You Have To Water The Flowers You Want To Grow.

When You Have Too Many Top Priorities, You Effectively Have No Top Priorities.

The Way We See The Problem Is The Problem.

If You Focus On Principles, You Empower Everyone Who Understands Those Principles To Act Without Constant Monitoring, Evaluating, Correcting, Or Controlling.

When A Person Has Access To Both The Intuitive, Creative And Visual Right Brain, And The Analytical, Logical, Verbal Left Brain, Then The Whole Brain Is Working...and This Tool Is Best Suited To The Reality Of What Life Is, Because Life Is Not Just Logical-it Is Also Emotional.

You Can't Talk Your Way Out Of A Problem You Behaved Your Way Into!

Interpersonal Skills

When You Get A Good Night's Sleep And Wake Up Ready To Produce Throughout The Day.

Do What Is Important, Not What Is Urgent.

As You Begin To Think More In Terms Of Importance, You Begin To See Time Differently.

Time Management

Trust Is The Glue Of Life. It's The Most Essential Ingredient In Effective Communication. It's The Foundational Principle That Holds All Relationships.

As Human Beings, We Are Responsible For Our Own Lives. Our Behavior Is A Function Of Our Decisions, Not Our Conditions. We Can Subordinate Feelings To Values.

Personal Development

Many People Think In Terms Of Either/or: Either You're Nice Or You're Tough. Win-win Requires That You Be Both. It Is A Balancing Act Between Courage And Consideration. To Go For Win-win, You Not Only Have To Be Empathic, But You Also Have To Be Confident. You Not Only Have To Be Considerate And Sensitive, You Also Have To Be Brave. To Do That-to Achieve That Balance Between Courage And Consideration-is The Essence Of Real Maturity And Is Fundamental To Win-win.

We Must Seek To Understand The Intent Of Communication Without Prejudging Or Rejecting The Content... Communication, After All, Is Not So Much A Matter Of Intellect As It Is Of Trust And Acceptance Of Others, Of Their Ideas And Feelings, Acceptance Of The Fact That They're Different, And That From Their Point Of View, They Are Right.

We Don't Invent Our Missions, We Detect Them.

The Fire Inside People Is Like A Match; The Way To Ignite That Flame Is Initially Through Friction, Then Other Matches Are Lit Through Warmth.

Humility Is The Mother Of All Virtues, Courage The Father, Integrity The Child And Wisdom The Grandchild.

I Believe That A Life Of Integrity I The Most Fundamental Source Of Personal Worth. I Do Not Agree With The Popular Success Literature That Says That Self-esteem Is Primarily A Matter Of Mind Set, Of Attitude-that You Can Psych Yourself Into Peace Of Mind. Peace Of Mind Comes When Your Life Is In Harmony With True Principles And Values And In No Other Way.

If You Don't Let A Teacher Know What Level You Are -- By Asking A Question, Or Revealing Your Ignorance -- You Will Not Learn Or Grow

Instead, I Have An Abundance Mentality: When People Are Genuinely Happy At The Successes Of Others, The Pie Gets Larger.

Leaders Are Not Born Or Made - They Are Self Made

Most People Struggle With Life Balance Simply Because They Haven't Paid The Price To Decide What Is Really Important To Them.

People Are Social Beings And Want Interaction And Social Learning Is The Primary Form Of Learning, Just As Word Of Mouth Advertising Is The Highest Form Of Advertising.

Patience Is Emotional Diligence.

If My Sense Of Security Lies In My Reputation Or In The Things I Have, My Life Will Be In A Constant State Of Threat And Jeopardy-a Fear That These Possessions May Be Lost, Stolen, Or Devalued. If I'm In The Presence Of Someone Of Greater Net Worth, Fame, Or Status, I Feel Inferior. If I'm In The Presence Of Someone Of Lesser Net Worth, Fame Or Status, I Feel Superior. My Sense Of Self-worth Constantly Fluctu-ates. I Don't Have Any Sense Of Constancy, Anchorage, Or Persistent Selfhood. I Am Constantly Trying To Protect And Insure My Assets, Properties, Securities, Position, Or Reputation.

Real Excellence Does Not Come Cheaply. A Certain Price Must Be Paid In Terms Of Practice, Patience, And Persistence - Natural Ability Notwithstanding.

Conscience Connects Us With The Wisdom Of The Ages And The Wisdom Of The Heart.

While I Believe In The Power Of Positive Thought, I Do Not Believe That You Or I Can Simply Psyche Ourselves Into Success Or Peace Of Mind.

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Humility Is The Mother Of All Virtues: The Humble In Spirit Progress And Are Blessed Because They Willingly Submit To Higher Powers And Try To Live In Harmony With Natural Laws And Universal Principles. Courage Is The Father Of All Virtues; We Need Great Courage To Lead Our Lives By Correct Principles And To Have Integrity In The Moment Of Choice.

We All Go Through Stages. Concerns About Appearances, Making Good Impressions, Being Popular, Comparing Yourself To Others, Having Unbridled Ambition, Wanting To Make Money, Striving To Be Recognized And Noticed And Trying To Establish Yourself, All Fade As Your Responsibilities And Character Grow.

Trust Is Central To An Economy That Works.

If We Know How To Listen To Our Own Heart, We Can Listen To The Hearts Of Others.

Every Person In The Organization Must Change Inside Their Hearts And Minds, So That They Themselves Become Principle Centred.

The Great Apparent Dichotomy Is That The More We Give, The More We Get.

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