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You May Be Good, But What Are You Good For? You've Got To Be Good For Something. You've Got To Be About Some Project, Some Task That Requires You To Be Humble And Obedient To The Universal Principles Of Service. You've Got To Live A Life Of Complete And Total Integrity In Order To Give This Kind Of Service. This Integrity Enables You To Love Other People Unconditionally, To Be Courageous And Kind At The Same Time, Because You Have Integratedness Inside Your Own Soul.

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You May Be Good,

Stephen Covey

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You May Be Good, But What Are You Good For? You've Got To Be Good For Something. You've Got To Be About Some Project, Some Task That Requires You To Be Humble And Obedient To The Universal Principles Of Service. You've Got To Live A Life Of Complete And Total Integrity In Order To Give This Kind Of Service. This Integrity Enables You To Love Other People Unconditionally, To Be Courageous And Kind At The Same Time, Because You Have Integratedness Inside Your Own Soul.

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Ineffective People Live Day After Day With Unused Potential.

Always Treat Your Employees Exactly As You Want Them To Treat Your Best Customers. You Can Buy A Person's Hand, But You Can't Buy His Heart; His Heart Is Where His Enthusiasm Is. You Can Buy His Back, But You Can't Buy His Brain. That's Where His Creativity Is. Treat Employees As Volunteers Just As You Treat Customers As Volunteers, Because That's What They Are. They Volunteer The Best Parts - Their Hearts And Minds.

Accountability Breeds Response-ability.

If You Want To Be Trusted, Be Trustworthy.

People Behave More On The Basis Of How They Feel Than How They Think; Unless There Are Good Feelings Between People, It Is Almost Impossible To Reason Intelligently.

The Essence Of The Best Thinking In The Area Of Time Management (practice Planning) Can Be Captured In A Single Phrase: Organize And Execute Around Priorities

Anytime We Think The Problem Is 'out There,' That Thought Is The Problem. We Empower What's Out There To Control Us. The Change Paradigm Is 'outside-in' - What's Out There Has To Change Before We Can Change. The Proactive Approach Is To Change From The 'inside-out': To Be Different, And By Being Different, To Effect Positive Change In What's Out There - I Can Be More Resourceful, I Can Be More Diligent, I Can Be More Creative, I Can Be More Cooperative.

You Can't Be Successful With Other People If You Haven't Paid The Price Of Success With Yourself.

Response-ability Is The Ability To Choose Our Response To Any Circumstance Or Condition.

Principles Are Guidelines For Human Conduct That Are Proven To Have Enduring, Permanent Value.

Writing Distills, Crystallizes, And Clarifies Thought.

Every Time I See High-trust Cultures, I See A Lessening Of Adversarialism.

Trust Is The One Thing That Affects Everything Else You're Doing. It's A Performance Multiplier Which Takes Your Trajectory Upwards, For Every Activity You Engage In, From Strategy To Execution.

Our Ultimate Freedom Is The Right And Power To Decide How Anybody Or Anything Outside Ourselves Will Affect Us.

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity.

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Effective People Do Two Things: They Strive To Do Excellent Work, And They Prioritize.

The Most Important Ingredient We Put Into Any Relationship Is Not What We Say Or What We Do, But What We Are.

It Is One Thing To Make A Mistake, And Quite Another Thing Not To Admit It.

In Our Personal Lives, If We Do Not Develop Our Own Self-awareness And Become Responsible For First Creations, We Empower Other People And Circumstances To Shape Our Lives By Default.

..people Are Working Harder Than Ever, But Because They Lack Clarity And Vision, They Aren’t Getting Very Far. They, In Essence, Are Pushing A Rope...with All Of Their Might.

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Moral Authority Comes From Following Universal And Timeless Principles Like Honesty, Integrity, Treating People With Respect.

Vision Is About More Than Just Getting Things Done, Accomplishing Some Task, Achieving Something; It Is About Discovering And Expanding Our View Of Others, Affirming Them, Believing In Them, And Helping Them Discover And Realize The Potential Within Them-helping Them Find Their Own Voice.

If You Focus On Principles, You Empower Everyone Who Understands Those Principles To Act Without Constant Monitoring, Evaluating, Correcting, Or Controlling.

Perform Anonymous Service. Whenever We Do Good For Others Anonymously, Our Sense Of Intrinsic Worth And Self-respect Increases. ... Selfless Service Has Always Been One Of The Most Powerful Methods Of Influence.

Little Kindness And Courtesies Are So Important. In Relationships, The Little Things Are The Big Things.

Empathic Listening Is So Powerful Because It Gives You Accurate Data To Work With. Instead Of Projecting Your Own Autobiography And Assuming Thoughts, Feelings, Motives And Interpretation, You're Dealing With The Reality Inside Another Person's Head And Heart. You're Listening To Understand. You're Focused On Receiving The Deep Communication Of Another Human Soul.

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People Don't Listen To Understand. They Listen To Reply. The Collective Monologue Is Everyone Talking And No One Listening.

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As You Care Less About What People Think Of You, You Will Care More About What Others Think Of Themselves.

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Our Lives Are The Results Of Our Choices. To Blame And Accuse Other People, The Environment, Or Other Extrinsic Factors Is To Choose To Empower Those Things To Control Us.

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In Many Situations Involving Service Recovery - The Problem Itself Became The Catalyst For The Creation Of Even Greater Trust As The Companies Took The Issues Head-on And Worked Through The Difficult Problem In A Way That Restored Confidence.

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Results Matter! They Matter To Your Credibility.

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True Independence Of Character Empowers Us To Act Rather Than Be Acted Upon.

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When It Comes To Developing Character Strength, Inner Security And Unique Personal And Interpersonal Talents And Skills In A Child, No Institution Can Or Ever Will Compare With, Or Effectively Substitute For, The Home's Potential For Positive Influence.

I Teach People How To Treat Me By What I Will Allow.

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Instead, I Have An Abundance Mentality: When People Are Genuinely Happy At The Successes Of Others, The Pie Gets Larger.

Just As The Education Of Nerve And Sinew Is Vital To The Excellent Athlete And Education Of The Mind Is Vital To The Scholar, Education Of The Conscience Is Vital To The Truly Proactive, Highly Effective Person. Training And Educating The Conscience, However, Requires Even Greater Concentration, More Balanced Discipline, More Consistently Honest Living. It Requires Regular Feasting On Inspiring Literature, Thinking Noble Thoughts And, Above All, Living In Harmony With Its Still Small Voice.

Trust Is Clearly A Key Competency. A Competency Or Skill That Can Be Learned, Taught, And Improved And One That Talent Can Be Screened For.

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To Change Ourselves Effectively, We First Had To Change Our Perceptions.

Conscience Connects Us With The Wisdom Of The Ages And The Wisdom Of The Heart.

Every Person In The Organization Must Change Inside Their Hearts And Minds, So That They Themselves Become Principle Centred.

To Blame And Accuse Other People, Is To Choose To Empower Them, To Control Us.

It's Sometimes A Painful Process. It's A Change That Has To Be Motivated By A Higher Purpose, By The Willingness To Subordinate What You Think You Want Now For What You Want Later.

Nothing Tastes As Good As Thin Feels.

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Where You Are Headed Is More Important Than How Fast You Are Going. Rather Than Always Focusing On What's Urgent, Learn To Focus On What Is Really Important.

If You Don't Know Yourself, If You Don't Control Yourself, If You Don't Have Mastery Over Yourself, It's Very Hard To Like Yourself, Except In Some Short-term, Psych-up, Superficial Way.

As Long As You Think The Problem Is Out There, That Very Thought Is The Problem

Positive Thinking

Frustration Is A Function Of Our Expectations, And Our Expectations Are Often A Reflection Of The Social Mirror Rather Than Our Own Values And Priorities.

The Exercise Of True Leadership Is Inversely Proportional To The Exercise Of Power.

The 'inside-out' Approach To Personal And Interpersonal Effectiveness Means To Start First With Self; Even More Fundamentally, To Start With The Most Inside Part Of Self, With Your Paradigms, Your Character, And Your Motives. The Inside-out Approach Says That Private Victories Precede Public Victories, That Making And Keeping Promises To Ourselves Recedes Making And Keeping Promises To Others. It Says It Is Futile To Put Personality Ahead Of Character, To Try To Improve Relationships With Others Before Improving Ourselves.

Always Surround Yourself With People Who Are Even More Talented And Competent Than You.

Surround Yourself

You Think Effectiveness With People And Efficiency With Things.

When Parents See Their Children's Problems As Opportunities To Build The Relationship Instead Of As Negative, Burdensome Irritations, It Totally Changes The Nature Of Parent-child Interaction. Parents Become More Willing, Even Excited, About Deeply Understanding And Helping Their Children. . . . This Paradigm Is Powerful In Business As Well.

We Simply Assume That The Way We See Things Is The Way They Really Are Or The Way They Should Be. And Our Attitudes And Behaviors Grow Out Of These Assumptions.

The More Authentic You Become, The More Genuine In Your Expression, Particularly Regarding Personal Experiences And Even Self-doubts, The More People Can Relate To Your Expression And The Safer It Makes Them Feel To Express Themselves. That Expression, In Turn, Feeds On The Other Person's Spirit, And Genuine Creative Empathy Takes Place, Producing New Insights And Learnings And A Sense Of Excitement And Adventure That Keeps The Process Going.

The Nature Of Life Is To Be A Study Of Contrasts: Joy/sadness, Full/empty. The Main Thing Is To Keep The Main Thing The Main Thing.

Keep Moving Forward

In Addition To Self-awareness, Imagination And Conscience, It Is The Fourth Human Endowment - Independent Will - That Really Makes Effective Self-management Possible. It Is The Ability To Make Decisions And Choices And To Act In Accordance With Them. It Is The Ability To Act Rather Than To Be Acted Upon, To Proactively Carry Out The Program We Have Developed Through The Other Three Endowments. Empowerment Comes From Learning How To Use This Great Endowment In The Decisions We Make Every Day.

Self Confidence

Decisions We Make

We Think We See The World As It Is, When In Fact We See The World As We Are.

If I Try To Use Human Influence Strategies And Tactics Of How To Get Other People To Do What I Want, To Work Better, To Be More Motivated, To Like Me And Each Other-while My Character Is Fundamentally Flawed, Marked By Duplicity And Insincerity-then, In The Long Run, I Cannot Be Successful. My Duplicity Will Breed Distrust, And Everything I Do-even Using So-called Good Human Relations Techniques-will Be Perceived As Manipulative.

Interdependent People Combine Their Own Efforts With The Efforts Of Others To Achieve Their Greatest Success.

If There Is No Gardener There Is No Garden.

Look At The Weaknesses Of Others With Compassion, Not Accusation. It's Not What They're Not Doing Or Should Be Doing That's The Issue. The Issue Is Your Own Chosen Response To The Situation And What You Should Be Doing. If You Start To Think The Problem Is "out There," Stop Yourself. That Thought Is The Problem.

When We Look Through The Lens Of Each Others' Weaknesses, We Make Others' Strengths Irrelevant And Their Weaknesses More Evident.

It's Not What People Do To Us That Hurts Us. In The Most Fundamental Sense, It Is Our Chosen Response To What They Do To Us That Hurts Us.

Be A Light, Not A Judge, Be A Model Not A Critic. Little By Little, Your Circle Of Influence Will Explode And You Will Avoid The Emotional Metastasizing Cancers Of Complaining, Criticizing, Competing, Comparing And Cynicism, All Which Reflect Victimization, All Of Which Are The Opposite Of Being Proactive.

Before A Performance, A Sales Presentation, A Difficult Confrontation, Or The Daily Challenge Of Meeting A Goal, See It Clearly, Vividly, Relentlessly, Over And Over Again. Create An Internal "comfort Zone". Then, When You Get Into The Situation, It Isn't Foreign. It Doesn't Scare You.

Most People Are Basically A Victim Of The Circumstances Of Their Life. They Have Things Like 9/11, They Have Terrorism Threats, They Have New War Threats, They Have Economy Problems, And They Think, 'what Can I Do? I'm Basically A Victim.'

The 8th Habit, Then, Is Not About Adding One More Habit To The 7 - One That Somehow Got Forgotten. It's About Seeing And Harnessing The Power Of A Third Dimension To The 7 Habits That Meets The Central Challenge Of The New Knowledge Worker Age. The 8th Habit Is To Find Your Voice And Inspire Others To Find Theirs.

Trust Is The Glue That Holds Everything Together. It Creates The Environment In Which All Of The Other Elements Win-win Stewardship Agreements, Self-directing Individuals And Teams, Aligned Structures And Systems, And Accountability Can Flourish.

The Challenge Is Not To Manage Time, But To Manage Ourselves.

Time Management

If You Put Good People In Bad Systems You Get Bad Results. You Have To Water The Flowers You Want To Grow.

The Enemy Of The "best" Is Often The "good."

Priorities In Life

Organize And Execute Around Priorities.

Put First Things First

If You're Proactive, You Don't Have To Wait For Circumstances Or Other People To Create Perspective Expanding Experiences. You Can Consciously Create Your Own.

How Different Our Lives Are When We Really Know What Is Deeply Important To Us, And Keeping That Picture In Mind, We Manage Ourselves Each Day To Be And To Do What Really Matters Most.

The More People Train Their Counsciousness, The More Sensitivie They Are To It. It's Like You Had Your Own Voice Coming To You.

When Your Happiness Comes Primarily From The Happiness Of Others, You Know You Have Moved From A 'me' Experience To A 'we' Experience. And The Whole Problem-solving And Opportunity-seizing Process Changes.

Don't Cheat People Of Their Growth. Empower Them To Solve Problems And Generate Ideas. Watch Them Grow!

Real Excellence Does Not Come Cheaply. A Certain Price Must Be Paid In Terms Of Practice, Patience, And Persistence - Natural Ability Notwithstanding.

Courage Isn't Absenct Of Fear, It Is The Awareness That Something Else Is Important

Many People Seem To Think That Success In One Area Can Compensate For Failure In Other Areas. But Can It Really?... True Effectiveness Requires Balance.

Habit 1: Be Proactive Habit 2: Begin With The End In Mind Habit 3: Put First Things First Habit 4: Think Win/win Habit 5: Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood Habit 6: Synergize Habit 7: Sharpen The Saw

Keeping A Personal Journal A Daily In-depth Analysis And Evaluation Of Your Experiences Is A High-leverage Activity That Increases Self-awareness And Enhances All The Endowments And The Synergy Among Them.

We Can Never Really Change Someone; People Must Change Themselves.

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