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Effective People Stay Out Of Quadrants Iii And Iv Because, Urgent Or Not, They Aren't Important. They Also Shrink Quadrant I Down To Size By Spending More Time In Quadrant Ii...quadrant Ii Is The Heart Of Effective Personal Management.

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Effective People Stay Out Of Quadrants Iii And Iv Because, Urgent Or Not, They Aren't Important. They Also Shrink Quadrant I Down To Size By Spending More Time In Quadrant Ii...quadrant Ii Is The Heart Of Effective Personal Management.

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Decisions We Make

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'in Empathic Listening You Listen With Your Ears, But You Also, And More Importantly, Listen With You Eyes And With Your Heart. You Listen For Feeling, For Meaning. You Listen For Behaviour. You Use Your Right Brain As Well As Your Left. You Sense, You Intuit, You Feel.' ... 'you Have To Open Yourself Up To Be Influenced'.

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The Only Person Over Whom You Have Direct And Immediate Control Is Yourself. The Most Important Assets To Develop, Preserve And Enhance, Therefore, Are Your Own Capabilities. And No One Can Do It For You. You Must Cultivate The Habit Of Leadership Effectiveness For Yourself - And Doing So Will Be The Single Best Investment You Will Ever Make.

We Can Never Really Change Someone; People Must Change Themselves.

To Maintain The P/pc Balance, The Balance Between The Golden Egg (production) And The Health And Welfare Of The Goose (production Capability) Is Often A Difficult Judgment Call. But I Suggest It Is The Very Essence Of Effectiveness.

Trust Is Central To An Economy That Works.

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Be Governed By Your Internal Compass, Not By Some Clock On The Wall.

Private Victories Precede Public Victories.

Keeping Promises

Most Of Us Think We Don't Have Enough Time To Exercise. What A Distorted Paradigm! We Don't Have Time Not To. We're Talking About Three To Six Hours A Week - Or A Minimum Of Thirty Minutes A Day, Every Other Day. That Hardly Seems An Inordinate Amount Of Time Considering The Tremendous Benefits In Terms Of The Impact On The Other 162 - 165 Hours Of The Week.

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World Religions

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We Simply Assume That The Way We See Things Is The Way They Really Are Or The Way They Should Be. And Our Attitudes And Behaviors Grow Out Of These Assumptions.

You Have Two Ears And One Mouth. Use Them Accordingly.

Two Ears And One Mouth

The Only Person I Know, Is The Person I Want To Be

Personal Development

You Can't Have The Fruits Without The Roots. It's The Principle Of Sequencing: Private Victories Proceed Public Victories. Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

Doing The Right Things For The Right Reason In The Right Way Is The Key To Quality Of Life!

We Judge Ourselves By Our Intentions. And Others By Their Actions.

Organize And Execute Around Priorities.

Put First Things First

The Only Thing That Endures Over Time Is The 'law Of The Farm.' You Must Prepare The Ground, Plant The Seed, Cultivate, And Water If You Expect To Reap The Harvest.

Interdependence Is A Choice Only Independent People Can Make

There Are Principles That Govern Human Effectiveness - Natural Laws In The Human Dimension That Are Just As Real, Just As Unchanging And Unarguably There As Laws Such As Gravity Are In The Physical Dimension.

Management Works In The System; Leadership Works On The System.

Live, Love, Laugh, Leave A Legacy.

..people Are Working Harder Than Ever, But Because They Lack Clarity And Vision, They Aren’t Getting Very Far. They, In Essence, Are Pushing A Rope...with All Of Their Might.

It's Better To Be Trusted Than To Be Liked.

The Key To Acting With Integrity Is To Simply Stop Playing The Game.

Frustration Is A Function Of Our Expectations, And Our Expectations Are Often A Reflection Of The Social Mirror Rather Than Our Own Values And Priorities.

True Effectiveness Is A Function Of Two Things: What Is Produced (the Golden Eggs) And The Producing Asset (the Goose).

Whether Or Not We Belong To A Church Or Service Organization Or Have A Job That Provides Meaningful Service Opportunities, Not A Day Goes By That We Can't At Least Serve One Other Human Being By Making Deposits Of Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love

Be A Function Of Your Values Rather Than A Function Of The Impulse Or Desire Of Any Given Moment.

Creating A Warm, Caring, Supportive, Encouraging Environment Is Probably The Most Important Thing You Can Do For Your Family.

We Hear A Lot About Identity Theft When Someone Takes Your Wallet And Pretends To Be You And Uses Your Credit Cards. But The More Serious Identity Theft Is To Get Swallowed Up In Other People's Definition Of You.

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