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Lose/win People Bury A Lot Of Feelings. And Unexpressed Feelings Come Forth Later In Uglier Ways. Psychosomatic Illnesses Often Are The Reincarnation Of Cumulative Resentment, Deep Disappointment And Disillusionment Repressed By The Lose/win Mentality. Disproportionate Rage Or Anger, Overreaction To Minor Provocation, And Cynicism Are Other Embodiments Of Suppressed Emotion. People Who Are Constantly Repressing, Not Transcending Feelings Toward A Higher Meaning Find That It Affects The Quality Of Their Relationships With Others.

-Stephen Covey

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Lose/win People Bury A Lot Of Feelings. And Unexpressed Feelings Come Forth Later In Uglier Ways. Psychosomatic Illnesses Often Are The Reincarnation Of Cumulative Resentment, Deep Disappointment And Disillusionment Repressed By The Lose/win Mentality. Disproportionate Rage Or Anger, Overreaction To Minor Provocation, And Cynicism Are Other Embodiments Of Suppressed Emotion. People Who Are Constantly Repressing, Not Transcending Feelings Toward A Higher Meaning Find That It Affects The Quality Of Their Relationships With Others.

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What You See Often Depends On What You Are Looking For.

Suppose You Were To Come Upon Someone In The Woods Working Feverishly To Saw Down A Tree. "what Are You Doing?" You Ask. "can't You See?" Comes The Impatient Reply. "i'm Sawing Down This Tree." "you Look Exhausted!" You Exclaim. "how Long Have You Been At It?" "over Five Hours," He Returns, "and I'm Beat! This Is Hard Work." 'well, Why Don't You Take A Break For A Few Minutes And Sharpen That Saw?" You Inquire. "i'm Sure It Would Go A Lot Faster." "i Don't Have Time To Sharpen The Saw," The Man Says Emphatically. "i'm Too Busy Sawing!"

Sacrifice Really Means Giving Up Something Good For Something Better.

Motivation Is A Fire From Within. If Someone Else Tries To Light That Fire Under You, Chances Are It Will Burn Very Briefly.

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Would You Not Agree That Relationships Are Built On Trust? Would You Not Also Agree That Most Individuals Think More In Terms Of "me-my Wants, My Needs, My Rights? What Would Wisdom Dictate - Would It Not Direct Us To Focus On Trust-building Principles And Sacrificing 'me' For 'we'?"

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