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People With A Scarcity Mentality Think There Is Only So Much In The World To Go Around. It's As If They See Life As A Pie. When Another Person Gets A Big Piece, Then They Get Less. Such People Are Always Trying To Get Even, To Pull Others Down To Their Level So They Can Get An Equal Or Even Bigger Piece Of The Pie.

-Stephen Covey

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People With A Scarcity

Stephen Covey

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People With A Scarcity Mentality Think There Is Only So Much In The World To Go Around. It's As If They See Life As A Pie. When Another Person Gets A Big Piece, Then They Get Less. Such People Are Always Trying To Get Even, To Pull Others Down To Their Level So They Can Get An Equal Or Even Bigger Piece Of The Pie.

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To Retain Those Who Are Present, Be Loyal To Those Who Are Absent.

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Inspire (from The Latin Inspirare) Means To Breathe Life Into Another.

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The Fire Inside People Is Like A Match; The Way To Ignite That Flame Is Initially Through Friction, Then Other Matches Are Lit Through Warmth.

The Process Of Building Trust Is An Interesting One, But It Begins With Yourself, With What I Call Self Trust, And With Your Own Credibility, Your Own Trustworthiness. If You Think About It, It's Hard To Establish Trust With Others If You Can't Trust Yourself.

The 'inside-out' Approach To Personal And Interpersonal Effectiveness Means To Start First With Self; Even More Fundamentally, To Start With The Most Inside Part Of Self, With Your Paradigms, Your Character, And Your Motives. The Inside-out Approach Says That Private Victories Precede Public Victories, That Making And Keeping Promises To Ourselves Recedes Making And Keeping Promises To Others. It Says It Is Futile To Put Personality Ahead Of Character, To Try To Improve Relationships With Others Before Improving Ourselves.

When People Have A Real Sense Of Legacy, A Sense Of Mattering, A Sense Of Contribution, It Seems To Tap Into The Deepest Part Of Their Heart And Soul. It Brings Out The Best And Subordinates The Rest.

Only As We Keep An Open Communication With Our Deep Inner Life Will We Have The Wisdom To Make Effective Choices.

Interdependence Is A Choice Only Independent People Can Make

The First Principle Of Ethical Power Is Purpose. By Purpose, I Don't Mean Your Objective Or Intention-something Toward Which You Are Always Striving. Purpose Is Something Bigger. It Is The Picture You Have Of Yourself-the Kind Of Person You Want To Be Or The Kind Of Life You Want To Lead.

I Keep My Phone Number Unlisted And Rely On My Associates To Handle All Voice Mail, E-mail, Faxes.

I Believe That A Life Of Integrity I The Most Fundamental Source Of Personal Worth. I Do Not Agree With The Popular Success Literature That Says That Self-esteem Is Primarily A Matter Of Mind Set, Of Attitude-that You Can Psych Yourself Into Peace Of Mind. Peace Of Mind Comes When Your Life Is In Harmony With True Principles And Values And In No Other Way.

True Greatness Will Be Achieved Through The Abundant Mind That Works Selflessly - With Mutual Respect, For Mutual Benefit.

When You Really Listen To Another Person From Their Point Of View, And Reflect Back To Them That Understanding, It's Like Giving Them Emotional Oxygen.

Principles Are Natural Laws That Are External To Us And That Ultimately Control The Consequences Of Our Actions. Values Are Internal And Subjective And Represent That Which We Feel Strongest About In Guiding Our Behavior.

Frustration Is A Function Of Our Expectations, And Our Expectations Are Often A Reflection Of The Social Mirror Rather Than Our Own Values And Priorities.

People Are Social Beings And Want Interaction And Social Learning Is The Primary Form Of Learning, Just As Word Of Mouth Advertising Is The Highest Form Of Advertising.

Trust Is The Glue That Holds Everything Together. It Creates The Environment In Which All Of The Other Elements Win-win Stewardship Agreements, Self-directing Individuals And Teams, Aligned Structures And Systems, And Accountability Can Flourish.

Want Balance In Your Life? Then Sure, Get Your Own Act Together, But Don't Forget Four Powerful Disciplines Of Execution In Your Team And Organization.

Nothing Is As Fast As The Speed Of Trust.

Most People Are Basically A Victim Of The Circumstances Of Their Life. They Have Things Like 9/11, They Have Terrorism Threats, They Have New War Threats, They Have Economy Problems, And They Think, 'what Can I Do? I'm Basically A Victim.'

A Good Affirmation Has Five Basic Ingredients: It's Personal, It's Positive, It's Present Tense, It's Visual, And It's Emotional.

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