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The 8th Habit, Then, Is Not About Adding One More Habit To The 7 - One That Somehow Got Forgotten. It's About Seeing And Harnessing The Power Of A Third Dimension To The 7 Habits That Meets The Central Challenge Of The New Knowledge Worker Age. The 8th Habit Is To Find Your Voice And Inspire Others To Find Theirs.

-Stephen Covey

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The 8th Habit, Then,

Stephen Covey

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The 8th Habit, Then, Is Not About Adding One More Habit To The 7 - One That Somehow Got Forgotten. It's About Seeing And Harnessing The Power Of A Third Dimension To The 7 Habits That Meets The Central Challenge Of The New Knowledge Worker Age. The 8th Habit Is To Find Your Voice And Inspire Others To Find Theirs.

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When Life Does Not Go Our Way Or We Inadvertently Make A Mistake, It Is So Easy To Make Excuses, Place Blame On Others, Or Argue That Circumstances Were Against Us. But We Only Progress In Life To The Extent That We Take Responsibility For Our Actions And Attitudes, And Put Forth The Initiative Necessary To Create Our Own Circumstances.

Internal Victories Precede External Victories.

The Proactive Approach To A Mistake Is To Acknowledge It Instantly, Correct And Learn From It. This Literally Turns A Failure Into A Success.

Too Many Vacations That Last Too Long, Too Many Movies, Too Much Tv, Too Much Video Game Playing - Too Much Undisciplined Leisure Time In Which A Person Continually Takes The Course Of Least Resistance Gradually Wastes A Life. It Ensures That A Person's Capacities Stay Dormant, That Talents Remain Undeveloped, That The Mind And Spirit Become Lethargic And That The Heart Remains Unfulfilled.

Private Victories Precede Public Victories. You Can't Invert That Process Any More Than You Can Harvest A Crop Before You Plant It.

An Empowered Organization Is One In Which Individuals Have The Knowledge, Skill, Desire, And Opportunity To Personally Succeed In A Way That Leads To Collective Organizational Success.

Principles Are The Territory. Values Are Maps.

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Leadership Is A Choice, Not A Position

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Seek To Understand Rather Than Be Understood.

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Remember That Our Reactions Are A Product Of Our Perceptions, And Our Perceptions Are A Result Of What Is At The Center Of Our Life.

Putting First Things First Means Organizing And Executing Around Your Most Important Priorities. It Is Living And Being Driven By The Principles You Value Most, Not By The Agendas And Forces Surrounding You.

It Doesn't Really Matter How Fast You're Going If You're Heading In The Wrong Direction.

Inspirational Life

Employees Are Given The Chance To Help Shape Their Company By Participating In A Company-wide Communications Program Making Suggestions On Waste Reduction, Environmental Improvement, Customer Satisfaction, Quality Improvement, And Safety Issues.

Real Excellence Does Not Come Cheaply. A Certain Price Must Be Paid In Terms Of Practice, Patience, And Persistence - Natural Ability Notwithstanding.

Peace Of Counscious Is Greater Than Peace Of Mind. Peace Of Mind Is More Externally Oriented. Peace Of Consciousness Is When You Know You Have Been Honest In All Your Business Dealings.

Doing More Things Faster Is No Substitute For Doing The Right Things.

Time Management

Building And Repairing Relationships Are Long-term Investments.

All Broken Relationships Can Be Traced Back To Broken Agreements

Broken Relationship

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This Is The Single Most Powerful Investment We Can Ever Make In Life—investment In Ourselves, In The Only Instrument We Have With Which To Deal With Life And To Contribute.

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To Live; To Love; To Learn; And To Leave A Legacy.

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Our Ultimate Freedom Is The Right And Power To Decide How Anybody Or Anything Outside Ourselves Will Affect Us.

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Self Confidence

Trust Is The One Thing That Affects Everything Else You're Doing. It's A Performance Multiplier Which Takes Your Trajectory Upwards, For Every Activity You Engage In, From Strategy To Execution.

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Principles Are The Basis For Developing A Vision And Value System For All.

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Will We Act Upon Life, Or Will We Merely Be Acted Upon?

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Good Relationship

If Our Feelings Control Our Actions, It Is Because We Have Abdicated Our Responsibility And Empowered Them To Do So.

If You Carefully Consider What You Want To Be Said Of You In The Funeral Experience, You Will Find Your Definition Of Success.

But Until A Person Can Say Deeply And Honestly, "i Am What I Am Today Because Of The Choices I Made Yesterday," That Person Cannot Say, "i Choose Otherwise.

You Basically Get What You Reward. If You Want To Achieve The Goals And Reflect The Values In Your Mission Statement, Then You Need To Align The Reward System With These Goals And Values.

Retire From Your Job But Never From Meaningful Projects. If You Want To Live A Long Life, You Need Eustress, That Is, A Deep Sense Of Meaning And Of Contribution To Worthy Projects And Causes, Particularly, Your Intergenerational Family.

Writing Distills, Crystallizes, And Clarifies Thought.

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Trust Is The Glue In Relationships And Organizations

Involve People In The Problem And Work Out The Solution Together.

Studies Have Identified A Significant 'skills Gap' Between What Students Are Currently Being Taught And The Skills Employers Are Seeking In Today's Global Economy. Our Children Must Be Better Prepared Than They Are Now To Meet The Future Challenges Of Our Ever-changing World.

Don't Argue For Other People's Weaknesses. Don't Argue For Your Own. When You Make A Mistake, Admit It, Correct It, And Learn From It / Immediately.

If The Only Vision We Have Of Ourselves Comes From The Social Mirror - From The Current Social Paradigm And From The Opinions, Perceptions, And Paradigms Of The People Around Us - Our View Of Ourselves Is Like The Reflection In A Crazy Mirror Room At The Carnival.

Do What Is Important, Not What Is Urgent.

Improve Relationships With Others By Assuming That They Can Hear Everything You Say About Them

Relationships With Others

Whether Or Not We Belong To A Church Or Service Organization Or Have A Job That Provides Meaningful Service Opportunities, Not A Day Goes By That We Can't At Least Serve One Other Human Being By Making Deposits Of Unconditional Love.

Unconditional Love

Whether We Are Aware Of It Or Not, Whether We Are In Control Of It Or Not, There Is A First Creation To Every Part Of Our Lives. We Are Either The Second Creation Of Our Own Proactive Design, Or We Are The Second Creation Of Other People's Agendas, Of Circumstances, Or Of Past Habits.

The Bottom Line Is, When People Are Crystal Clear About The Most Important Priorities Of The Organization And Team They Work With And Prioritized Their Work Around Those Top Priorities, Not Only Are They Many Times More Productive, They Discover They Have The Time They Need To Have A Whole Life.

I Know It Is Possible Not Only To Restore Trust But To Actually Enhance It. The Difficult Things That We Got Through With The Important People In Our Lives Can Become Fertile Ground For The Growth Of Enduring Trust - Trust That Is Actually Stronger Because It's Been Tested And Proved Through Challenge.

You Can't Live Principals You Can't Understand.

When The Trust Account Is High, Communication Is Easy, Instant, And Effective.

To Set And Work Toward Any Goal Is An Act Of Courage.

Acts Of Courage

The Key To Motivation Is Motive.

You Don't See The World As It Is, You See It According To Who You Are.

Don't Get Buried In The Thick Of Thin Things.

Principle-centered People Are Constantly Educated By Their Experiences.

The Ability To Manage Well Doesn't Make Much Difference If You're Not Even In The Right Jungle.

To Maintain The P/pc Balance, The Balance Between The Golden Egg (production) And The Health And Welfare Of The Goose (production Capability) Is Often A Difficult Judgment Call. But I Suggest It Is The Very Essence Of Effectiveness.

We Are The Creative Force Of Our Life, And Through Our Own Decisions Rather Than Our Conditions, If We Carefully Learn To Do Certain Things, We Can Accomplish Those Goals.

Interdependence Is A Higher Value Than Independence

The Environment You Fashion Out Of Your Thoughts, Your Beliefs, Your Ideals, Your Philosophy Is The Only Climate You Will Ever Live In. The Key Is In Not Spending Time, But In Investing It.

Anyone Can Count The Seeds Of An Apple. Who Can Count The Apples In A Seed?

Being Is Seeing In The Human Dimension.

Brands Need To Reinvent Themselves From Time To Time To Stay Relevant.

The Deepest Hunger Of [a Child's] Human Heart Is To Be Understood, For Understanding Implicitly Affirms, Validates, Recognizes And Appreciates The Intrinsic Worth Of Another.

You Can't Have The Fruits Without The Roots. It's The Principle Of Sequencing: Private Victories Proceed Public Victories. Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

One Thing About Trust Is That Everyone's For It.

It's Not Enough To Have Values Without Vision ; You Want To Be Good, But You Want To Be Good For Something. On The Other Hand, Vision Without Values Can Create A Hitler . An Empowering Mission Statement Deals With Both Character And Competence; What You Want To Be And What You Want To Do In Your Life.

Petty Things Become Unimportant When People Are Impassioned About A Purpose Higher Than Self.

Be Part Of The Solution, Not Part Of The Problem.

What Difference Would A Clear Vision Of My Principles, Values, And Ultimate Objectives Make In The Way I Spend My Time?

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity.

Vital To Quality Of Life Is The Ability To Work Together, Learn From Each Other, And Help Each Other Grow.

Working Together

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Common Sense Is Not Always Common Practice.

There Are Certain Things That Are Fundamental To Human Fulfillment. The Essence Of These Needs Is Captured In The Phrase 'to Live, To Love, To Learn, To Leave A Legacy.' The Need To Leave A Legacy Is Our Spiritual Need To Have A Sense Of Meaning, Purpose, Personal Congruence, And Contribution.

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A Cardinal Principle Of Total Quality Escapes Too Many Managers: You Cannot Continuously Improve Interdependent Systems And Processes Until You Progressively Perfect Interdependent, Interpersonal Relationships.

What Is Important To Another Person Must Be As Important To You As The Other Person Is To You

I Am Convinced That If We As A Society Work Diligently In Every Other Area Of Life And Neglect The Family, It Would Be Analogous To Straightening Deck Chairs On The Titanic.

Perhaps The Greatest Role Of Parenting, More Than Directing And Telling Children What To Do, [is] Helping [children] Connect With Their Own Gifts, Particularly Conscience.

To Judge Someone Before Understanding That Person Is A Form Of Human Rejection And Feeds Upon Itself. It Intensifies Personal Insecurities, Necessitating More Judgment (prejudice) And Less Understanding. The Processes Continue In This Vicious Cycle.

If You Say To One Flower, 'grow,' But You Water Another, The First One Won't Grow.

People Are Social Beings And Want Interaction And Social Learning Is The Primary Form Of Learning, Just As Word Of Mouth Advertising Is The Highest Form Of Advertising.

Each Of Us Tends To Think We See Things As They Are, That We Are Objective. But This Is Not The Case. We See The World, Not As It Is, But As We Are - Or As We Are Conditioned To See It.

The Key To The Many Is Often The One; It Is How You Regard And Talk About The One In That One's Absence Or Presence That Communicates To The Many How You Would Regard And Talk About Them In Their Presence Or Absence.

The More People Train Their Counsciousness, The More Sensitivie They Are To It. It's Like You Had Your Own Voice Coming To You.

Those Who Get The Most Out Of Life And Those Who Give The Most Are Those Who Make The Choice To Act.

If We Spend Most Of Our Time Concerned About Things We Cannot Truly Directly Influence, What We Can Influence Will Be Reduced. If We Spend Our Energies On Those Things Over Which We Can Expect Positive Results, We Will Expand Our Influence.

If We Do Not Teach Our Children, Societ Will. And They-and We-will Live With The Results.

Security Represents Your Sense Of Worth, Your Identity, Your Emotional Anchorage, Your Self-esteem, Your Basic Personal Strength Or Lack Of It.

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity. A Person Must Possess Himself And Have A Deep Sense Of Security In Fundamental Principles And Values In Order To Genuinely Apologize.

It Is In The Ordinary Events Of Every Day That We Develop The Proactive Capacity To Handle The Extraordinary Pressures Of Life. It's How We Make And Keep Commitments, How We Handle A Traffic Jam, How We Respond To An Irate Customer Or A Disobedient Child. It's How We View Our Problems And Where We Focus Our Energies. It's The Language We Use.

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