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To Judge Someone Before Understanding That Person Is A Form Of Human Rejection And Feeds Upon Itself. It Intensifies Personal Insecurities, Necessitating More Judgment (prejudice) And Less Understanding. The Processes Continue In This Vicious Cycle.

-Stephen Covey

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To Judge Someone Before

Stephen Covey

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To Judge Someone Before Understanding That Person Is A Form Of Human Rejection And Feeds Upon Itself. It Intensifies Personal Insecurities, Necessitating More Judgment (prejudice) And Less Understanding. The Processes Continue In This Vicious Cycle.

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If There Is No Gardener There Is No Garden.

The Enemy Of The "best" Is Often The "good."

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Retire From Your Job But Never From Meaningful Projects. If You Want To Live A Long Life, You Need Eustress, That Is, A Deep Sense Of Meaning And Of Contribution To Worthy Projects And Causes, Particularly, Your Intergenerational Family.

Strategy Is Important, But Trust Is The Hidden Variable. On Paper You Can Have Clarity Around Your Objectives, But In A Low-trust Environment, Your Strategy Won't Be Executed.

To Touch The Soul Of Another Human Being Is To Walk On Holy Ground.

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While Values Drive Behaviors, Principles Govern Consequences.

We Accomplish All That We Do Through Delegation - Either To Time Or To Other People.

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There's Strong Data That, Within Companies, The No. 1 Reason For Ethical Violations Is The Pressure To Meet Expectations, Sometimes Unrealistic Expectations.

Unless People Feel That They Are Accepted And That They Have A Right To Express Their Feelings Without Fear Of Embarrassment Or Ridicule, All They Will Do Is React And Rebel And Struggle For Their Identity.

When The Trust Is High, You Get The Trust Dividend. Investors Invest In Brands People Trust. Consumers Buy More From Companies They Trust, They Spend More With Companies They Trust, They Recommend Companies They Trust, And They Give Companies They Trust The Benefit Of The Doubt When Things Go Wrong.

Live Simply And Appreciate What You Have. Give More. Expect Less.

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