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Satisfied Needs Do Not Motivate. It's Only The Unsatisfied Need That Motivates. Next To Physical Survival, The Greatest Need Of A Human Being Is Psychological Survival - To Be Understood, To Be Affirmed, To Be Validated, To Be Appreciated.

-Stephen Covey

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Satisfied Needs Do Not

Stephen Covey

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Satisfied Needs Do Not Motivate. It's Only The Unsatisfied Need That Motivates. Next To Physical Survival, The Greatest Need Of A Human Being Is Psychological Survival - To Be Understood, To Be Affirmed, To Be Validated, To Be Appreciated.

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Time Management

Moving Along The Upward Spiral Requires Us To Learn, Commit, And Do On Increasingly Higher Planes. We Deceive Ourselves If We Think That Any One Of These Is Sufficient. To Keep Progressing, We Must Learn, Commit, And Do-learn, Commit, And Do-and Learn, Commit, And Do Again.

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Admission Of Ignorance Is Often The First Step In Our Education.

You Can't Have The Fruits Without The Roots. It's The Principle Of Sequencing: Private Victories Proceed Public Victories. Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

'efficient' Scheduling And Control Of Time Are Often Counterproductive. The Efficiency Focus Creates Expectations That Clash With The Opportunities To Develop Rich Relationships, To Meet Human Needs, And To Enjoy Spontaneous Moments On A Daily Basis.

If You Don't Set Your Goals Based Upon Your Mission Statement, You May Be Climbing The Ladder Of Success Only To Realize, When You Get To The Top, You're On The Wrong Building.

We See The World, Not As It Is, But As We Are -- Or, As We Are Conditioned To See It. When We Open Our Mouths To Describe What We See, We In Effect Describe Ourselves, Our Perceptions, Our Paradigms.

The Power Of Transcendent Vision Is Greater Than The Power Of The Scripting Deep Inside The Human Personality And It Subordinates It [the Scripting], Submerges It, Until The Whole Personality Is Reorganized In The Accomplishment Of That Vision.

Perhaps A Sense Of Possessing Needs To Come To Come Before A Sense Of Genuine Sharing.

Many People Seem To Think That Success In One Area Can Compensate For Failure In Other Areas. But Can It Really?... True Effectiveness Requires Balance.

Private Victories Precede Public Victories.

Keeping Promises

People Who End Up With The Good Jobs Are The Proactive Ones Who Are Solutions To Problems, Not Problems Themselves, Who Seize The Initiative To Do Whatever Is Necessary To Get The Job Done.

The Average Family Spends 30 Hours In Front Of A Television, And They Say They Don't Have The Time To Have A Balanced, Integrated Life.

Efficient Management Without Effective Leadership Is, As One Individual Phrased, It, "like Straightening Deck Chairs On The Titanic".

Perhaps The Most Important Vision Of All Is Develop A Sense Of Self, A Sense Of Your Own Destiny, A Sense Of Unique Mission And Role In Life.

Synergy Is Everywhere In Nature. If You Plant Two Plants Close Together, The Roots Commingle And Improve The Quality Of The Soil So That Both Plants Will Grow Better Than If They Were Separated. If You Put Two Pieces Of Wood Together, They Will Hold Much More Than The Total Weight Held By Each Separately. The Whole Is Greater Than The Sum Of Its Parts. One Plus One Equals Three Or More.

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