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The More Authentic You Become, The More Genuine In Your Expression, Particularly Regarding Personal Experiences And Even Self-doubts, The More People Can Relate To Your Expression And The Safer It Makes Them Feel To Express Themselves. That Expression, In Turn, Feeds On The Other Person's Spirit, And Genuine Creative Empathy Takes Place, Producing New Insights And Learnings And A Sense Of Excitement And Adventure That Keeps The Process Going.

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The More Authentic You

Stephen Covey

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The More Authentic You Become, The More Genuine In Your Expression, Particularly Regarding Personal Experiences And Even Self-doubts, The More People Can Relate To Your Expression And The Safer It Makes Them Feel To Express Themselves. That Expression, In Turn, Feeds On The Other Person's Spirit, And Genuine Creative Empathy Takes Place, Producing New Insights And Learnings And A Sense Of Excitement And Adventure That Keeps The Process Going.

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You Can't Live Principals You Can't Understand.

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Perform Anonymous Service. Whenever We Do Good For Others Anonymously, Our Sense Of Intrinsic Worth And Self-respect Increases. ... Selfless Service Has Always Been One Of The Most Powerful Methods Of Influence.

Taking Initiative Is A Form Of Self-empowerment.

In The Last Analysis, What We Are Communicates Far More Eloquently Than Anything We Say Or Do.

By Centering Our Lives On Timeless, Unchanging Principles, We Create A Fundamental Paradigm Of Effective Living. It Is The Center That Puts All Other Centers In Perspective.

I'm Convinced That We Can Write And Live Our Own Scripts More Than Most People Will Acknowledge. I Also Know The Price That Must Be Paid. It's A Real Struggle To Do It. It Requires Visualization And Affirmation. It Involves Living A Life Of Integrity, Starting With Making And Keeping Promises, Until The Whole Human Personality The Senses, The Thinking, The Feeling, And The Intuition Are Ultimately Integrated And Harmonized.

When The Trust Account Is High, Communication Is Easy, Instant, And Effective.

All Things Are Created Twice. All Things. Vision Is The First Creation. For A House It's Called The Blueprint. For A Life It's Called A Mission. For A Day It's Called A Goal And A Plan. For A Parent It's Called A Belief In The Unseen Potential Of A Child. For All, It Is The Mental Creation Which Always Precedes The Physical, Or Second, Creation.

We See The World, Not As It Is, But As We Are──or, As We Are Conditioned To See It.

But With The Steady Disintegration Of The Family In Modern Society Over The Last Century, The Role Of The School In Bridging The Gap Has Become Vital!

People And Organizations Don't Grow Much Without Delegation And Completed Staff Work Because They Are Confined To The Capacities Of The Boss And Reflect Both Personal Strengths And Weaknesses

Once We Are Self-aware, We Must Choose Purposes And Principles To Live By; Otherwise The Vacuum Will Be Filled, And We Will Lose Our Self-awareness And Become Like Groveling Animals Who Live Primarily For Survival And Propagation. People Who Exist On That Level Aren't Living; They Are "being Lived".

Win-win Is A Belief In The Third Alternative. It's Not Your Way Or My Way; It's A Better Way, A Higher Way.

Belief Is Another Word For Paradigm. It's A Synonymous. Your Belief Of The Way Things Are. Values Are The Way Things Should Be, It's A Paradigm Of The Way Things Should Be. Beliefs Are The Paradigms Of The Way Things Are.

Trust Is The One Thing That Affects Everything Else You're Doing. It's A Performance Multiplier Which Takes Your Trajectory Upwards, For Every Activity You Engage In, From Strategy To Execution.

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