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I Am Often Asked Why Men Don't Get As Worked Up As They Might About Women - Particularly Poor Women - Having To Use Their Bodies As Prostitutes. Because Most Men Unconsciously Experience Themselves As Prostitutes Every Day - The Miner, The Firefighter, The Construction Worker, The Logger, The Soldier, The Meatpacker - These Men Are Prostitutes In The Direct Sense: They Sacrifice Their Bodies For Money And For Their Families.

-Warren Farrell

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I Am Often Asked

Warren Farrell

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I Am Often Asked Why Men Don't Get As Worked Up As They Might About Women - Particularly Poor Women - Having To Use Their Bodies As Prostitutes. Because Most Men Unconsciously Experience Themselves As Prostitutes Every Day - The Miner, The Firefighter, The Construction Worker, The Logger, The Soldier, The Meatpacker - These Men Are Prostitutes In The Direct Sense: They Sacrifice Their Bodies For Money And For Their Families.

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Self-help Books For Those Who Believe 'you Can Have It All' Often Advise, 'follow Your Bliss And Money Will Follow.' With The Collapse Of The Stock Markets The Reality Of Trade-offs Is More Like, 'when You Follow Your Bliss, It's Money You'll Miss.'

For Me, The Massiveness Of What I Don't Know Is One Way I Experience God. It Creates In Me A Feeling Of Humility And A Sense Of Gratitude.

When Divorces Meant Marriage No Longer Provided Security For A Lifetime, Women Adjusted By Focusing On Careers As Empowerment. But When The Sacrifice Of A Career Met The Sacrifices In A Career, The Fantasy Of A Career Became The Reality Of Trade-offs. Women Developed Career Ambivalence.

The Only Men Who Aren't In Fear Of Women's Reactions Are Usually Men Who Aren't Born Or Who Are Dead.

If A Woman Isn't Being Hazed, She's Not Being Tested; Therefore, She Is Not Being Trusted.

There Are 80 Jobs In Which Women Earn More Than Men - Positions Like Financial Analyst, Speech-language Pathologist, Radiation Therapist, Library Worker, Biological Technician, Motion Picture Projectionist.

Crime, Especially Crime Involving Money, Reflects The Gap Between The Expectation To Provide And The Ability To Provide... If We Really Want Men To Commit Crime As Infrequently As Women, We Can Start By Not Expecting Men To Provide For Women More Than We Expect Women To Provide For Men.

When Only Men Could Register To Vote, We Required Only Men To Register For The Draft. Today Both Sexes Can Vote, But Only Men Must Register For The Draft.

With Men, We Blame The Victim. We Blame Men Because We Have Camouflaged Men's Victimization By Teaching Men To Also Be The Victimizer. Men's Victimizer Status Camouflages Men's Victim Status.

I Don't Think There's Anything That Is A Greater Area Of Discrimination Against Women Today Than The Fact That Nowhere In The World Is There A Female Role Model In Team Sports That More Than Half Of A General Audience Would Recognize

Asking The Legal System To Resolve Divorce Is Like Asking A Boxing Coach To Be Our Marriage Counselor.

But When Feminists Suggest That God Might Be A She Without Suggesting That The Devil Might Also Be Female, They Must Be Opposed.

In A Sense, In The Area Of Child Care, Children's Relationships With Parents' Working Has Come Full Circle. We Have Gone From The Mom-and-pop Store (or Mom-and-pop Farm), With Its Integration Of Child Care And Work, To Children-at-home And Dad-at-work; To The Mom-plus-daddy Working At Home, With Its Integration Of Childcare And Work Again. From Mom-and-pop Back To Mom-and-pop.

The Irony Of Primary Parent Laws Is That On The One Hand Feminists Were Arguing For Women's Equal Rights To Jointly-created Career Assets That Emanated From The Male Financial Womb, But Arguing Against Men's Equal Rights To Jointly-created Children That Emanated From The Woman's Child-bearing Womb.

It Is Important That A Woman’s “noes” Be Respected And Her “yeses” Be Respected.

Employers Are Not Prohibited From Practicing Sex Discrimination In Hiring And Promoting Employees.

The Rules Of Sexism Do Not Free Men From The Terror Of Violence; They Only Keep Men From Complaining About It.

[with Respect To Child Custody] A Woman Has No Right To A Unilateral Choice That Affects The Rest Of A Man's Life Any More Than A Man Would Have The Right To A Unilateral Choice That Affects The Rest Of A Woman's Life.

Framework, (...) Addiction To Female Beauty And Sex; Deprivation Of The Beautiful Woman And Sex With Her Until The Man Guarantees Economic Security In Return; (.

Nobody Has Said To Men, It Is Ok If You Want To Be A Full-time Dad; Find A Woman Who Will Support You.

Women And Men Look At Their Life, And Women Say, What Do I Need? Do I Need More Money, Or Do I Need More Time? And Women Are Intelligent Enough To Say, I Need More Time. And So, Women Lead Balanced Lives; Men Should Be Learning From Women.

When Birth Control Pills Were Available In Europe But Not In The United States, American Women Created An Uproar About How The Unwillingness To Make The Pill Available Showed A Contempt For The Lives Of Women. When The Food And Drug Administration (fda) Released Birth Control Pills With High Dosages Of Hormones That Were Later Found To Be Unnecessarily High, They Were Attacked For Not Caring About Women Enough To Do The Necessary Tests.

I Am Often Asked Why Men Don't Get As Worked Up As They Might About Women - Particularly Poor Women - Having To Use Their Bodies As Prostitutes. Because Most Men Unconsciously Experience Themselves As Prostitutes Every Day - The Miner, The Firefighter, The Construction Worker, The Logger, The Soldier, The Meatpacker - These Men Are Prostitutes In The Direct Sense: They Sacrifice Their Bodies For Money And For Their Families.

Construction Workers

Sexism Is Discounting The Female Experience Of Powerlessness; The New Sexism Is Discounting The Male Experience Of Powerlessness.

Blacks Are Six Times More Likely Than Whites To Be Victims Of Homicides.

I Started To Get Very Well Recognized In The Early Seventies As The Only Man In The United States Who Had Been Elected Three Times To The Board Of Now In New York City.

Men Are Fair, And They Have Learned Not To Personalize Anger - They Can Disagree With You And Argue To The Bone, But Afterward They Still Consider You A Nice Person With Whom The Underlying Human Relationship Need Not Be Altered.

We Have Entered 'the Era Of The Three-option Woman And The No-option Man.'

Programs Like Wic (women, Infants, And Children) Subsidize The Exclusion Of Dads.

When A Man Is Able To Connect With His Feelings, He Is Able To Care More.

A Family That Knows How To Play Together Has The Tools To Stay Together.

Raising Children Was Not Designed For Single Parents. (which Is Why Divorce Was Such A Taboo Prior To Birth Control).

Women's Vulnerability Confessing Their Desire To See Men As A Success Object Is Matched By Men's Confession Of Compulsiveness Of Sexual Desire For Women.

So We've Moved From An Era When Women's Biology Was Women's Destiny To Today, Which Is An Era In Which Men's Biology Is Men's Destiny.

It Is Ironic That A Movement That Made Its Reputation Championing The Irrelevance Of Biological Differences When Those Differences Were To Most Women's Disadvantage Immediately Returned To Biological Determinism When Those Differences Were To The Most Women's Advantage.

When We Hear Men Are The Greater Victims Of Crime, We Tend To Say, 'well, It's Men Hurting Other Men.' When We Hear That Blacks Are The Greater Victims, We Consider It Racist To Say, 'well, It's Blacks Hurting Blacks.' The Victim Is A Victim No Matter Who The Perpetrator Was.

Why Do We Resist Giving Help To Homeless Men? In Part Because We Don't Understand How Our Pressure On Men To Support Families Often Forces Men To Take Transient Jobs That Are But A Step Away From Homelessness (the Death-of-a-salesman Jobs, The Migrant Worker Jobs...) And In Part Because We Respond Differently To Men Who Fail [than Women Who Fail].

A Man's Primary Fantasy Is Access To A Variety Of Attractive Women Without The Fear Of Rejection.

Sex Role Training Becomes Divorce Training.

One Danger Of A Man Succeeding Is That It Teaches His Wife And Daughter Not To Worry About Success.

A Person Working 45 Hours Per Week Averages 44% More Income Than Someone Working 40 Hours Per Week. That's 44% More Income For 13% More Time.

In One Decade, Women Had Gotten More Protection Against Offensive Jokes In The Workplace Than Men Had Gotten In Centuries Against Being Killed In The Workplace.

The Problem Is That Americans Care More About Saving Whales Than Saving Males.

Unless A Woman Asks Men Out (the First Time) As Often As Men Ask Her Out, Then The Assertion 'he Asked Me Out, Therefore He Pays' Is Just A Double Jeopardy Of The Male Role: He Must Not Only Do The Asking, He Must Pay Extra For Risking Extra Rejection.

Irony: While We Increasingly Hold People More Responsible If They Drink And Drive, We Hold Women Less Responsible If They Drink And Have Sex.

Solutions: Seek An Understanding Of The Other Sex's Best Intent.

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