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The Time And The Quality Of The Time That Their Parents Devote To Them Indicate To Children The Degree To Which They Are Valued By Their Parents. . . . When Children Know That They Are Valued, When They Truly Feel Valued In The Deepest Parts Of Themselves, Then They Feel Valuable. This Knowledge Is Worth More Than Any Gold.

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The Time And The Quality Of The Time That Their Parents Devote To Them Indicate To Children The Degree To Which They Are Valued By Their Parents. . . . When Children Know That They Are Valued, When They Truly Feel Valued In The Deepest Parts Of Themselves, Then They Feel Valuable. This Knowledge Is Worth More Than Any Gold.

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True Love Is Not A Feeling By Which We Are Overwhelmed. It Is A Committed, Thoughtful Decision.

When I Am With A Group Of Human Beings Committed To Hanging In There Through Both The Agony And The Joy Of Community, I Have A Dim Sense That I Am Participating In A Phenomenon For Which There Is Only One Word...."glory."

When We Cling, Often Forever, To Our Old Patterns Of Thinking And Behaving, We Fall To Negotiate Any Crisis, To Truly Grow Up, And To Experience The Joyful Sense Of Rebirth That Accompanies The Successful Transition Into Greater Maturity.

Jesus Was Lonely And Sorrowful And Scared-an Unbelievably Real Person.

Mental Health Is An Ongoing Process Of Dedication To Reality At All Costs

If Your Goal Is To Avoid Pain And Escape Suffering, I Would Not Advise You To Seek Higher Levels Of Consciousness Or Spiritual Evolution.

With Total Discipline We Can Solve All Problems.

We Cannot Even Let The Other Person Into Our Hearts Or Minds Unless We Empty Ourselves. We Can Truly Listen To Him Or Truly Hear Her Only Out Of Emptiness.

Idealists Are People Who Believe In The Potential Of Human Nature For Transformation. . . . The Most Essential Attribute Of Human Nature Is Its Mutability And Freedom From Instinct . . . It Is Always Within Our Power To Change Our Nature. So It Is Actually The Idealists Who Are On The Mark And The Realists Who Are Off Base.

God Wants Us To Become Himself Or Herself Or Itself. We Are Growing Toward Godhood. God Is The Goal Of Evolution.

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Let Me Simply State That It Is Wrong To Regard Any Other Human Being, A Priori, As An Object, Or An 'it.' This Is So Because Each And Every Human Being - You, Every Friend, Every Stranger, Every Foreigner - Is Precious.

Worship Is Yet Another Paradox Of The Religious Life: It Is Simultaneously The Greatest Duty And The Greatest Pleasure Of Faith. Worship Is The Act Of Truly Loving God. Believe In This Brilliant Being, This Magnificent "higher Power," Who Not Only Created Us But Nurtures Us With Care And Intelligence Beyond Our Imagination, And Obviously We Are Called To Worship Him.

Genuine Love Is Volitional Rather Than Emotional.

Not Only Do Self-love And Love Of Others Go Hand In Hand But Ultimately They Are Indistinguishable.

We Cannot Be A Source For Strength Unless We Nurture Our Own Strength.

Problems Do Not Go Away. They Must Be Worked Through Or Else They Remain, Forever A Barrier To The Growth And Development Of The Spirit.

We Cannot Solve Life's Problems Except By Solving Them.

Delaying Gratification Is A Process Of Scheduling The Pain And Pleasure Of Life In Such A Way As To Enhance The Pleasure By Meeting And Experiencing The Pain First And Getting It Over With. It Is The Only Decent Way To Live.

Procrastination

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In Thinking About Miracles, I Believe That Our Frame Of Reference Has Been Too Dramatic. We Have Been Looking For The Burning Bush, The Parting Of The Sea, The Bellowing Voice From Heaven. Instead We Should Be Looking At The Ordinary Day-to-day Events In Our Lives For Evidence Of The Miraculous, Maintaining At The Same Time A Scientific Orientation.

If You Are Determined Not To Risk Pain, Then You Must Do Without Many Things: Having Children, Getting Married, The Ecstasy Of Sex, The Hope Of Ambition, Friendship-all That Makes Life Alive, Meaningful And Significant.

I Have Learned Nothing In Twenty Years That Would Suggest That Evil People Can Be Rapidly Influenced By Any Means Other Than Raw Power. They Do Not Respond, At Least In The Short Run, To Either Gentle Kindness Or Any Form Of Spiritual Persuasion With Which I Am Familiar.

We Skim Over The Surface Thoughtlessly. But We Must Acknowledge That Thinking Well Is A Time-consuming Process. We Can't Expect Instant Results. We Have To Slow Down A Bit, And Take The Time To Contemplate, Meditate, And Even Pray. It Is The Only Route To A More Meaningful And Efficient Existence.

Life Is A Series Of Problems. Do We Want To Moan About Them Or Solve Them?

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A Discussion Becomes Destructive When It Begins To Generate More Heat Than Light.

There Can Be No Vulnerability Without Risk; There Can Be No Community Without Vulnerability; There Can Be No Peace, And Ultimately No Life, Without Community.

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But I Already Saw No Great Difference Between The Psyche And Spirituality. To Amass Knowledge Without Becoming Wise Is Not My Idea Of Progress In Therapy.

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Emotional Sickness Is Avoiding Reality At Any Cost. Emotional Health Is Facing Reality At Any Cost.

Do What You Feel Called To Do, But Also Be Prepared To Accept That You Don't Necessarily Know What You're Going To Learn. Be Willing To Be Surprised By Forces Beyond Your Control, And Realize That A Major Learning On The Journey Is The Art Of Surrender.

The Giving Up Of Personality Traits, Well-established Patterns Of Behavior, Ideologies, And Even Whole Life Styles...these Are Major Forms Of Giving Up That Are Required If One Is To Travel Very Far On The Journey Of Life.

While I Generally Find That Great Myths Are Great Precisely Because They Represent And Embody Great Universal Truths, The Myth Of Romantic Love Is A Dreadful Lie. Perhaps It Is A Necessary Lie In That It Ensures The Survival Of The Falling-in-love Experience That Traps Us Into Marriage. But As A Psychiatrist I Weep In My Heart Almost Daily For The Ghastly Confusion And Suffering That This Myth Fosters. Millions Of People Waste Vast Amounts Of Energy Desperately And Futilely Attempting To Make The Reality Of Their Lives Conform To The Unreality Of The Myth.

The Principal Form That The Work Of Love Takes Is Attention. When We Love Another Person We Give Him Or Her Our Attention; We Attend To That Person's Growth.

The More Effort We Make To Appreciate And Perceive Reality, The Larger And More Accurate Our Maps Will Be. But Many Do Not Want To Make This Effort.

An Unconscious, Gentle Process Whereby People Who Want To Be Loving Attempt To Be So By Telling Little White Lies, By Withholding Some Of The Truth About Themselves And Their Feelings In Order To Avoid Conflict. Pseudocommunity Is Conflict-avoiding; True Community Is Conflict-resolving.

America's Greatest Sin Is The Refusal To Delay Gratification.

A Life Of Total Dedication To The Truth Also Means A Life Of Willingness To Be Personally Challenged.

You Cannot Truly Listen To Anyone And Do Anything Else At The Same Time.

The Problem Of Unmet Expectations In Marriage Is Primarily A Problem Of Stereotyping. Each And Every Human Being On This Planet Is A Unique Person. Since Marriage Is Inevitably A Relationship Between Two Unique People, No One Marriage Is Going To Be Exactly Like Any Other. Yet We Tend To Wed With Explicit Visions Of What A “good” Marriage Ought To Be Like. Then We Suffer Enormously From Trying To Force The Relationship To Fit The Stereotype And From The Neurotic Guilt And Anger We Experience When We Fail To Pull It Off.

By Far The Most Important Form Of Attention We Can Give Our Loved Ones Is Listening... True Listening Is Love In Action.

Problems Call Forth Our Courage And Our Wisdom; Indeed, They Create Our Courage And Wisdom.

Road Less Traveled

I Believe It Would Be Considerably Healthier For Us To Dare To Live Without A Reason For Many Things Than With Reasons That Are Simplistic.

The Overall Purpose Of Human Communication Is - Or Should Be - Reconciliation. It Should Ultimately Serve To Lower Or Remove The Walls Of Misunderstanding Which Unduly Separate Us Human Beings, One From Another.

Ultimately Love Is Everything.

One Extends One's Limits Only By Exceeding Them.

Often The Most Loving Thing We Can Do When A Friend Is In Pain Is To Share The Pain-to Be There Even When We Have Nothing To Offer Except Our Presence And Even When Being There Is Painful To Ourselves.

The Feeling Of Being Valuable Is A Cornerstone Of Self-discipline Because When You Consider Yourself Valuable You Will Take Care Of Yourself- Including Things Like Using Your Time Well. In This Way, Self-discipline Is Self-caring.

It Is Only Because Of Problems That We Grow Mentally And Spiritually.

There Is No Worse Bitterness Than To Reach The End Of Your Life And Realized You Have Not Lived.

Life Is Difficult. This Is A Great Truth, One Of The Greatest Truths. It Is A Great Truth Because Once We Truly See This Truth, We Transcend It.

Road Less Traveled

When We Avoid The Legitimate Suffering That Results From Dealing With Problems, We Also Avoid The Growth That Problems Demand From Us.

Love Is The Free Exercise Of Choice. Two People Love Each Other Only When They Are Quite Capable Of Living Without Each Other But Choose To Live With Each Other.

Spiritually Evolved People, By Virtue Of Their Discipline, Mastery And Love, Are People Of Extraordinary Competence, And In Their Competence They Are Called On To Serve The World, And In Their Love They Answer The Call.

Love Is Too Large, Too Deep Ever To Be Truly Understood Or Measured Or Limited Within The Framework Of Words.

Although The Act Of Nurturing Another's Spiritual Growth Has The Effect Of Nurturing One's Own, A Major Characteristic Of Genuine Love Is That The Distinction Between Oneself And The Other Is Always Maintained And Preserved.

Servant-leadership Is More Than A Concept, It Is A Fact. Any Great Leader, By Which I Also Mean An Ethical Leader Of Any Group, Will See Herself Or Himself As A Servant Of That Group And Will Act Accordingly.

When Any Institution Becomes Large And Compartmentalized, With Departments And Subdepartments, Then The Conscience Of The Institution Will Often Become So Fragmented And Diluted As To Be Virtually Nonexistent, And The Organization Becomes Inherently Evil.

We Cannot Solve A Problem By Saying, "it's Not My Problem." We Cannot Solve A Problem By Hoping That Someone Else Will Solve It For Us. I Can Solve A Problem Only When I Say, "this Is My Problem And It's Up To Me To Solve It."

To Heal Your Body, You Must First Heal Your Spirit.

If We Want To Be Heard We Must Speak In A Language The Listener Can Understand And On A Level At Which The Listener Is Capable Of Operating.

The Major Threats To Our Survival No Longer Stem From Nature Without But From Our Own Human Nature Within. It Is Our Carelessness, Our Hostilities, Our Selfishness And Pride And Willful Ignorance That Endanger The World.

There Is No Act Of Love That Is Not An Act Of Work Or Courage. No Exceptions.

The Symptoms And The Illness Are Not The Same Thing. The Illness Exists Long Before The Symptoms. Rather Than Being The Illness, The Symptoms Are The Beginning Of Its Cure. The Fact That They Are Unwanted Makes Them All The More A Phenomenon Of Grace — A Gift Of God, A Message From The Unconscious.

The Truth Is That Our Finest Moments Are Most Likely To Occur When We Are Feeling Deeply Uncomfortable, Unhappy, Or Unfulfilled. For It Is Only In Such Moments, Propelled By Our Discomfort, That We Are Likely To Step Out Of Our Ruts And Start Searching For Different Ways Or Truer Answers.

Community Is Another Such Phenomenon. Like Electricity, It Is Profoundly Lawful. Yet There Remains Something About It That Is Inherently Mysterious, Miraculous, Unfathomable. Thus There Is No Adequate One-sentence Definition Of Genuine Community. Community Is Something More Than The Sum Of Its Parts, Its Individual Members. What Is This "something More?" Even To Begin To Answer That, We Enter A Realm That Is Not So Much Abstract As Almost Mystical. It Is A Realm Where Words Are Never Fully Suitable And Language Itself Falls Short.

The Key To Community Is The Acceptance, In Fact The Celebration Of Our Individual And Cultural Differences. It Is Also The Key To World Peace

The Life Of Wisdom Must Be A Life Of Contemplation Combined With Action.

I Am Dubious As To How Far We Can Move Toward Global Community-which Is The Only Way To Achieve International Peace-until We Learn The Basic Principles Of Community In Our Own Individual Lives And Personal Spheres Of Influence.

Our View Of Reality Is Like A Map With Which To Negotiate The Terrain Of Life. If The Map Is True And Accurate, We Will Generally Know How To Get There. If The Map Is False And Inaccurate, We Generally Will Be Lost.

The Act Of Loving Is An Act Of Self-evolution Even When The Purpose Of The Act Is Someone Else's Growth.

Genuine Love Is Volitional Rather Than Emotional. The Person Who Truely Loves Does So Because Of A Decision To Love. This Person Has Made A Commitment To Be Loving Whether Or Not The Loving Feeling Is Present. ...conversely, It Is Not Only Possible But Necessary For A Loving Person To Avoid Acting On Feelings Of Love.

The Path Of Spiritual Growth Is A Path Of Lifelong Learning.

The Great Awareness Comes Slowly, Piece By Piece. The Path Of Spiritual Growth Is A Path Of Lifelong Learning. The Experience Of Spiritual Power Is Basically A Joyful One.

As I Grow Through Love, So Grows My Joy, Ever More Present, Ever More Constant.

Discipline, It Has Been Suggested, Is The Means Of Human Spiritual Evolution. What Provides The Motive, The Energy For Discipline? This Force I Believe To Be Love. I Define Love Thus: The Will To Extend One's Self For The Purpose Of Nurturing One's Own Or Another's Spiritual Growth.

Abandon The Urge To Simplify Everything, To Look For Formulas And Easy Answers, And To Begin To Think Multidimensionally, To Glory In The Mystery And Paradoxes Of Life, Not To Be Dismayed By The Multitude Of Causes And Consequences That Are Inherent In Each Experience -- To Appreciate The Fact That Life Is Complex.

Real Love Is A Permanently Self-enlarging Experience.

If We Know Exactly Where We're Going, Exactly How To Get There, And Exactly What We'll See Along The Way, We Won't Learn Anything.

Whenever We Seek To Avoid The Responsibility For Our Own Behavior, We Do So By Attempting To Give That Responsibility To Some Other Individual Or Organization Or Entity. But This Means We Then Give Away Our Power To That Entity.

We Know A Great Deal More About The Causes Of Physical Disease Than We Do About The Causes Of Physical Health.

I Can Remember Years Ago Sitting On My Bed And Suddenly Thinking, "i Am God."

Discipline Is Wisdom And Vice Versa.

I Guess If You Want To Know One Single Thing I'm About, It's That I'm Against Easy Answers.

The Best Decision-makers Are Those Who Are Willing To Suffer The Most Over Their Decisions But Still Retain Their Ability To Be Decisive.

When You Consider Yourself Valuable You Will Take Care Of Yourself In All Ways That Are Necessary.

Consciousness Is The Foundation Of All Thinking; And Thinking Is The Foundation Of All Consciousness.

We Must Be Willing To Fail And To Appreciate The Truth That Often "life Is Not A Problem To Be Solved, But A Mystery To Be Lived.

The Difficulty We Have In Accepting Responsibility For Our Behavior Lies In The Desire To Avoid The Pain Of The Consequences Of That Behavior.

Although I Was Raised In A Profoundly Secular Home, I Had A Belief, An Awareness Of God, From As Far Back As I Can Remember.

I Have A Very Full And Busy Life And Occasionally I Am Asked, Scotty, How Can You Do All That You Do? The Most Telling Reply I Can Give Is: Because I Spend At Least Two Hours A Day Doing Nothing.

Falling In Love Is Not An Extension Of One's Limits Or Boundaries; It Is A Partial And Temporary Collapse Of Them.

If We Seek To Be Loved - If We Expect To Be Loved - This Cannot Be Accomplished; We Will Be Dependent And Grasping Not Genuinely Loving.

All My Life I Used To Wonder What I Would Become When I Grew Up. Then, About Seven Years Ago, I Realized That I Was Never Going To Grow Up--that Growing Is An Ever Ongoing Process.

Everything That Happens In Life Is There To Aid Our Spiritual Growth.

Love Always Requires Courage And Involves Risk.

Community Is And Must Be Inclusive. The Great Enemy Of Community Is Exclusivity. Groups That Exclude Others Because They Are Poor Or Doubters Or Divorced Or Sinners Or Of Some Different Race Or Nationality Are Not Communities; They Are Cliques--actually Defensive Bastions Against Community.

Listen To Your Child Enough And You Will Come To Realize That He Or She Is Quite An Extraordinary Individual. And The More Extraordinary You Realize Your Child To Be The More You Will Be Willing To Listen. And The More You Will Learn.

I Gave Examples From My Clinical Practice Of How Love Was Not Wholly A Thought Or Feeling. I Told Of How That Very Evening There Would Be Some Man Sitting At A Bar In The Local Village, Crying Into His Beer And Sputtering To The Bartender How Much He Loved His Wife And Children While At The Same Time He Was Wasting His Family's Money And Depriving Them Of His Attention. We Recounted How This Man Was Thinking Love And Feeling Love--were They Not Real Tears In His Eyes?--but He Was Not In Truth Behaving With Love.

I Define Love Thus: The Will To Extend One's Self For The Purpose Of Nurturing One's Own Or Another's Spiritual Growth.

The Will To Grow Is, In Essence, The Same Phenomenon As Love. Genuinely Loving People Are, By Definition, Growing People.

Life Is Complex. Each One Of Us Must Make His Own Path Through Life. There Are No Self-help Manuals, No Formulas, No Easy Answers. The Right Road For One Is The Wrong Road For Another...the Journey Of Life Is Not Paved In Blacktop; It Is Not Brightly Lit, And It Has No Road Signs. It Is A Rocky Path Through The Wilderness.

Listening Well Is An Exercise Of Attention And By Necessity Hard Work. It Is Because They Do Not Realize This Or Because They Are Not Willing To Do The Work That Most People Do Not Listen Well.

Children Will, In My Dream, Be Taught That Laziness And Narcissism Are At The Very Root Of Human Evil, And Why This Is So. . . . They Will Come To Know That The Natural Tendency Of The Individual In A Group Is To Forfeit His Or Her Ethical Judgment To The Leader, And That This Tendency Should Be Resisted. And They Will Finally See It As Each Individual's Responsibility To Continually Examine Himself Or Herself For Laziness And Narcissism And Then To Purify Themselves Accordingly.

If You Wish To Discern Either The Presence Or Absence Of Integrity, You Need To Ask Only One Question. What Is Missing? Has Anything Been Left Out?

If We Deny Our Anger, Our Pain, Our Ambition, Or Our Goodness, We Will Suffer.

All Human Interactions Are Opportunities Either To Learn Or To Teach.

Problems Are The Cutting Edge That Distinguishes Between Success And Failure. Problems ... Create Our Courage And Wisdom.

Courage Is Not The Absence Of Fear; It Is The Making Of Action In Spite Of Fear.

I've Had All Kinds Of Experiences With God In Terms Of Revelation Through A Still, Small Voice Or Dreams Or Coincidences.

Teach Us To Number Our Days Aright.

Human Beings Are Poor Examiners, Subject To Superstition, Bias, Prejudice, And A Profound Tendency To See What They Want To See Rather Than What Is Really There.

To Be Free People We Must Assume Total Responsibility For Ourselves, But In Doing So Must Possess The Capacity To Reject Responsibility That Is Not Truly Ours. To Be Organized And Efficient, To Live Wisely, We Must Daily Delay Gratification And Keep An Eye On The Future; Yet To Live Joyously We Must Also Possess The Capacity, When It Is Not Destructive, To Live In The Present And Act Spontaneously. In Other Words, Discipline Itself Must Be Disciplined. The Type Of Discipline Required To Discipline Discipline Is What I Call Balancing.

Sickness Begets Chaos, Which, Through Hard Work And A Touch Of Grace, Leads To Growth And Resurrection.

Nirvana Or Lasting Enlightenment Or True Spiritual Growth Can Be Achieved Only Through Persistent Exercise Of Real Love.

From The Age Of Three On, As Far Back As I Remember, I Just Knew There Was A God Behind Everything.

Self Examination Is The Key To Insight, Which Is The Key To Wisdom

I Make No Distinction Between The Mind And The Spirit, And Therefore No Distinction Between The Process Of Achieving Spiritual Growth And Achieving Mental Growth. They Are One And The Same.

It Is Not Easy For Us To Change. But It Is Possible And It Is Our Glory As Human Beings

The Denial Of Suffering Is, In Fact A Better Definition Of Illness Than Its Acceptance.

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