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No One Can Become Fully Aware Of The Very Essence Of Another Human Being Until He Loves Him. By His Love He Is Enabled To See The Essential Traits And Features In The Beloved Person; And Even More, He Sees That Which Is Potential In Him, Which Is Not Yet Actualized. Furthermore, By His Love, The Loving Person Enables The Beloved Person To Actualize These Potentialities. By Making Him Aware Of What He Can Be And What He Should Become, He Makes These Potentialities Come True.

-Viktor E. Frankl

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No One Can Become Fully Aware Of The Very Essence Of Another Human Being Until He Loves Him. By His Love He Is Enabled To See The Essential Traits And Features In The Beloved Person; And Even More, He Sees That Which Is Potential In Him, Which Is Not Yet Actualized. Furthermore, By His Love, The Loving Person Enables The Beloved Person To Actualize These Potentialities. By Making Him Aware Of What He Can Be And What He Should Become, He Makes These Potentialities Come True.

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It Is Always Important To Have Something Yet To Do In Life.

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You Don't Create Your Mission In Life - You Detect It.

Missions In Life

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Happiness Cannot Be Pursued; It Must Ensue.

Stimulus And Response

Mans Search For Meaning

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Search For Meaning

A Life Of Short Duration...could Be So Rich In Joy And Love That It Could Contain More Meaning Than A Life Lasting Eighty Years.

. . . Nothing Could Touch The Strength Of My Love, And The Thoughts Of My Beloved. Had I Known Then That My Wife Was Dead, I Think That I Still Would Have Given Myself, Undisturbed By That Knowledge, To The Contemplation Of That Image, And That My Mental Conversation With Her Would Have Been Just As Vivid And Just As Satisfying. "set Me Like A Seal Upon Thy Heart, Love Is As Strong As Death."

When We Are No Longer Able To Change A Situation - We Are Challenged To Change Ourselves.

Forces Beyond Your Control Can Take Away Everything You Possess Except One Thing, Your Freedom To Choose How You Will Respond To The Situation.

Mans Search For Meaning

Fear May Come True That Which One Is Afraid Of.

Life Is Not Primarily A Quest For Pleasure, As Freud Believed, Or A Quest For Power, As Alfred Adler Taught, But A Quest For Meaning. The Greatest Task For Any Person Is To Find Meaning In His Or Her Own Life.

What You Have Experienced, No Power On Earth Can Take From You.

Mans Search For Meaning

Now, It Is My Contention That The Deneuroticization Of Humanity Requires A Rehumanization Of Psychotherapy.

Sleep [is Like] A Dove Which Has Landed Near One's Hand And Stays There As Long As One Does Not Pay Any Attention To It.

Just As A Small Fire Is Extinguished By The Storm Whereas A Large Fire Is Enhanced By It - Likewise A Weak Faith Is Weakened By Predicament And Catastrophes Whereas A Strong Faith Is Strengthened By Them.

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I Would Say That Our Patients Never Really Despair Because Of Any Suffering In Itself! Instead, Their Despair Stems In Each Instance From A Doubt As To Whether Suffering Is Meaningful. Man Is Ready And Willing To Shoulder Any Suffering As Soon And As Long As He Can See A Meaning In It.

Live As If You Were Living A Second Time, And As Though You Had Acted Wrongly The First Time.

I Am Absolutely Convinced That The Gas Chambers Of Auschwitz, Treblinka, And Maidanek Were Ultimately Prepared Not In Some Ministry Or Other In Berlin, But Rather At The Desks And In The Lecture Halls Of Nihilistic Scientists And Philosophers.

No One Can Take From Us The Ability To Choose Our Attitudes Toward The Circumstances In Which We Find Ourselves. This Is The Last Of Human Freedoms.

Life Ultimately Means Taking The Responsibility To Find The Right Answer To Its Problems And To Fulfill The Tasks Which It Constantly Sets For Each Individual.

Love Is The Only Way To Grasp Another Human Being In The Innermost Core Of His Personality

Sunday Neurosis, That Kind Of Depression Which Afflicts People Who Become Aware Of The Lack Of Content In Their Lives When The Rush Of The Busy Week Is Over And The Void Within Themselves Becomes Manifest.

These Tasks, And Therefore The Meaning Of Life, Differ From Man To Man, And From Moment To Moment. Thus It Is Impossible To Define The Meaning In Life In A General Way.

Meaning Of Life

You Can Take Away My Wife, You Can Take Away My Children, You Can Strip Me Of My Clothes And My Freedom, But There Is One Thing No Person Can Ever Take Away From Me - And That Is My Freedom To Choose How I Will React To What Happens To Me!

Man's Last Freedom Is His Freedom To Choose How He Will React In Any Given Situation

No One Can Take Away My Freedom To Choose How I Will React.

Freedom To Choose

As The Struggle For Survival Has Subsided, The Question Has Emerged: Survival For What? Ever More People Have The Means To Live, But No Meaning To Live For.

Woe To Him Who Saw No More Sense In His Life, No Aim, No Purpose, And Therefore No Point In Carrying On.

In Psychiatry There Is A Certain Condition Known As Delusion Of Reprieve. The Condemned Man, Immediately Before His Execution, Gets The Illusion That He Might Be Reprieved At The Very Last Minute. No One Could Yet Grasp The Fact That Everything Would Be Taken Away. All We Possessed, Literally, Was Our Naked Existence.

As For The Concept Of Collective Guilt, I Personally Think That It Is Totally Unjustified To Hold One Person Responsible For The Behavior Of Another Person Or A Collective Of Persons.

Since Auschwitz We Know What Man Is Capable Of. And Since Hiroshima We Know What Is At Stake.

A Human Being Is Not One Thing Among Others; Things Determine Each Other, But Man Is Ultimately Self-determining. What He Becomes - Within The Limits Of Endowment And Environment- He Has Made Out Of Himself. In The Concentration Camps, For Example, In This Living Laboratory And On This Testing Ground, We Watched And Witnessed Some Of Our Comrades Behave Like Swine While Others Behaved Like Saints. Man Has Both Potentialities Within Himself; Which One Is Actualized Depends On Decisions But Not On Conditions.

Being Tolerant Does Not Mean That I Share Another One's Belief. But It Does Mean That I Acknowledge Another One's Right To Believe, And Obey, His Own Conscience.

No One Can Become Fully Aware Of The Very Essence Of Another Human Being Until He Loves Him. By His Love He Is Enabled To See The Essential Traits And Features In The Beloved Person; And Even More, He Sees That Which Is Potential In Him, Which Is Not Yet Actualized. Furthermore, By His Love, The Loving Person Enables The Beloved Person To Actualize These Potentialities. By Making Him Aware Of What He Can Be And What He Should Become, He Makes These Potentialities Come True.

Our Attitude Towards What Has Happened To Us In Life Is The Important Thing To Recognize. Once Hopeless, My Life Is Now Hope-full, But It Did Not Happen Overnight. The Last Of Human Freedoms, To Choose One's Attitude In Any Given Set Of Circumstances, Is To Choose One's Own Way.

Between Stimulus And Response Is The Freedom To Choose.

Stimulus And Response

I Understood How A Man Who Has Nothing Left In This World Still May Know Bliss, Be It Only For A Brief Moment, In The Contemplation Of His Beloved.

It Is Well Known That Humor, More Than Anything Else In The Human Make-up, Can Afford An Aloofness And An Ability To Rise Above Any Situation, Even If Only For A Few Seconds.

To Suffer Unecessarily Is Masochistic Rather Than Heroic.

Happiness Must Ensue. It Cannot Be Pursued

Everyone Has His Own Specific Vocation Or Mission In Life; Everyone Must Carry Out A Concrete Assignment That Demands Fulfillment. Therein He Cannot Be Replaced, Nor Can His Life Be Repeated, Thus, Everyone's Task Is Unique As His Specific Opportunity To Implement It.

Man Is Capable Of Changing The World For The Better If Possible, And Of Changing Himself For The Better If Necessary.

Search For Meaning

It Is The Pursuit Of Happiness That Thwarts Happiness.

Pursuit Of Happiness

Ultimately, Man Should Not Ask What The Meaning Of His Life Is, But Rather He Must Recognize That It Is He Who Is Asked.

Meaning Of Life

...to Think Of Ourselves As Those Who Were Being Questioned By Life-daily And Hourly. Our Answer Must Consist, Not In Talk And Meditation, But In Right Action And In Right Conduct.

I Recommend That The Statue Of Liberty Be Supplemented By A Statue Of Responsibility On The West Coast.

It Is A Peculiarity Of Man That He Can Only Live By Looking To The Future...and This Is His Salvation In The Most Difficult Moments Of His Existence, Although He Sometimes Has To Force His Mind To The Task.

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