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Jane Fonda, Who Divided Her Life Into Three Acts, Decided After Her Sixtieth Birthday That She Was Now Facing The Final Act, And Came To The Following Conclusion: "i Thought To Myself, Well If That's The Case And If What I'm Scared Of Isn't Death, But Getting To The End With Regrets, Then I've Got To Figure Out What Would Be The Things That I Would Regret When I Got To The Last Act If I Hadn't Done Them Or Achieved Them By Then. And They Were: Having An Intimate Relationship And Having Made A Difference."

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Jane Fonda, Who Divided Her Life Into Three Acts, Decided After Her Sixtieth Birthday That She Was Now Facing The Final Act, And Came To The Following Conclusion: "i Thought To Myself, Well If That's The Case And If What I'm Scared Of Isn't Death, But Getting To The End With Regrets, Then I've Got To Figure Out What Would Be The Things That I Would Regret When I Got To The Last Act If I Hadn't Done Them Or Achieved Them By Then. And They Were: Having An Intimate Relationship And Having Made A Difference."

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Like Being Alone

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Try To Be Inspired By Something Every Day. Try To Inspire At Least One Person Every Day.

To Be Successful You Have To Enjoy Doing Your Best While At The Same Time Contributing To Something Beyond Yourself.

Doing Your Best

Write Down Each Day What Surprised You And How You Surprised Others. When Something Strikes A Spark Of Interest, Follow It.

The Rules Themselves Are Clear Enough, And Within Everyone’s Reach. But Many Forces, Both Within Ourselves And In The Environment, Stand In The Way. It Is A Little Like Trying To Lose Weight: Everyone Knows What It Takes, Everyone Wants To Do It, Yet It Is Next To Impossible For So Many.

A Business Is Successful To The Extent That It Provides A Product Or Service That Contributes To Happiness In All Of Its Forms.

If An Enterprise Does Not Aspire To Be The Best Of Its Kind, It Will Attract Second-rate Employees, And It Will Be Soon Forgotten.

One Cannot Lead A Life That Is Truly Excellent Without Feeling That One Belongs To Something Greater And More Permanent Than Oneself.

Flow Is Being Completely Involved In An Activity For Its Own Sake. The Ego Falls Away. Time Flies. Every Action, Movement, And Thought Follows Inevitably From The Previous One, Like Playing Jazz.

A Typical Day Is Full Of Anxiety And Boredom. Flow Experiences Provide The Flashes Of Intense Living Against This Dull Background.

We Have All Experienced Times When, Instead Of Being Buffeted By Anonymous Forces, We Do Feel In Control Of Our Actions, Masters Of Our Own Fate. On The Rare Occasions That It Happens, We Feel A Sense Of Exhilaration, A Deep Sense Of Enjoyment That Is Long Cherished And That Becomes A Landmark In Memory For What Life Should Be Like.. Moments Like These Are Not The Passive, Receptive, Relaxing Timesthe Best Moments Usually Occur When A Person’s Body Or Mind Is Stretched To Its Limits In A Voluntary Effort To Accomplish Something Difficult And Worthwhile.

...in The Words Of Max Depree: "management Has A Lot To Do With Answers. But Leadership Is A Function Of Questions. And The First Question For A Leader Always Is: 'who Do We Intend To Be?' Not 'what Are We Going To Do?' But 'who Do We Intend To Be?'"

Entropy Is The Normal State Of Consciousness - A Condition That Is Neither Useful Nor Enjoyable.

Pain And Pleasure Occur In Consciousness And Exist Only There

The Solution Is To Gradually Become Free Of Societal Rewards And Learn How To Substitute For Them Rewards That Are Under One's Own Powers. This Is Not To Say That We Should Abandon Every Goal Endorsed By Society; Rather, It Means That, In Addition To Or Instead Of The Goals Others Use To Bribe Us With, We Develop A Set Of Our Own.

Unless A Person Knows How To Give Order To Her Thoughts, Attention Will Be Attracted To Whatever Is Most Problematic At The Moment.

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