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If We Do Have Realistic Confidence In Our Mind And Value, If We Feel Secure Within Ourselves, We Tend To Experience The World As Open To Us And To Respond Appropriately To Challenges And Opportunities.

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In The Nature Of Our Existence, We Must Act To Achieve Values. And In Order To Act Appropriately, We Need To Value The Beneficiary Of Our Actions. In Order To Seek Values, We Must Consider Ourselves Worthy Of Enjoying Them. In Order To Fight For Our Happiness, We Must Consider Ourselves Worthy Of Happiness.

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If You Feel Inadequate To Face Challenges, Unworthy Of Love Or Respect, Untitled To Happiness, And Fear Assertive Thought, Wants, Or Needs- If You Lack Basic Self Trust, Self-respect, And Self-confidence- Your Self-esteem Deficiency Will Limit You, No Matter What Other Assets You Possess.

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Feel Deeply To Think Clearly.

The Music That Inspires The Souls Of Lovers Exists Within Themselves And The Private Universe They Occupy. They Share It With Each Other; They Do Not Share It With The Tribe Or With Society. The Courage To Hear That Music And To Honor It Is One Of The Prerequisites Of Romantic Love.

It Is True That People Are Sometimes Hit By Adversities Beyond Their Control. But Those So Affected Are Better Helped When They Are Awakened To The Resources They Do Possess Than When They Are Told They Don't Have Any.

You Can Be Loved By Your Family, Your Mate, And Your Friends Yet Not Love Yourself. You Can Be Admired By Your Associates Yet Regard Yourself As Worthless. You Can Project An Image Of Assurance And Poise That Fools Almost Everyone Yet Secretly Tremble With A Sense Of Inadequacy. You Can Fulfill The Expectations Of Others Yet Fail Your Own. You Can Win Every Honor Yet Feel That You Have Accomplished Nothing. What Shall It Profit A Person To Gain The Esteem Of The Whole World Yet Lose His Or Her Own?

The Real Basic Power Of An Individual Isn't What He Or She Knows; It's The Ability To Think And Learn And Face New Challenges.

To Exist Without Purpose Is To Be At The Mercy Of The Chance Encounter, The Chance Invitation, The Chance Phone Call, The Chance Event- Always Being Controlled By Forces External To Oneself.

The Natural Inclination Of A Child Is To Take Pleasure In The Use Of The Mind No Less Than Of The Body. The Child's Primary Business Is Learning. It Is Also The Primary Entertainment. To Retain That Orientation Into Adulthood, So That Consciousness Is Not A Burden But A Joy, Is The Mark Of The Successfully Developed Human Being.

Your Life Is Important. Fight For It. Honour Your Highest Potentials.

To Accept Struggle As Part Of Life, To Accept All Of It, Even The Darkest Moments Of Anguish; To Be Motivated By Love Rather Than Fear, By Confidence Rather Than Insecurity: These Are The Benchmarks Of High Self-esteem. The Wish To Avoid Fear And Pain Is Not The Motive That Drives The Lives Of Highly Evolved Men And Women; Rather, It Is The Life Force Within Them, Thrusting Toward Its Unique Form Of Expression-the Actualization Of Personal Values.

Romantic Love Can Be Terrifying. We Experience Another Human Being As Enormously Important To Us. So There Is Surrender -not A Surrender To The Other Person So Much As To Our Feeling For The Other Person. What Is The Obstacle? The Possibility Of Loss.

Self-esteem Is Not A Luxury; It Is A Profound Spiritual Need.

Of All The Judgments We Pass In Life, None Is More Important Than The Judgment We Pass On Ourselves.

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Whether Your Focus Is On Preserving And Strengthening Family Ties In A World Of Increasingly Unstable Relationships, Gaining Access To A Decent Job, Growing And Evolving As A Person, Or Guiding A Company Through The Stormy Seas Of A Fiercely Competitive Global Marketplace-whether Your Goals Are Material, Emotional, Or Spiritual-the Price Of Success Is The Same: Thinking, Learning. To Be Asleep At The Wheel-to Rely Only On The Known, Familiar, And Automatized-is To Invite Disaster.

If You Face Life Without Confidence In Your Own Powers, You Succumb Too Easily To Setbacks And Adversity; You Lack The Will To Persevere.

It Is Very Difficult To Accept In Others Emotions You Cannot Accept In Yourself.

Innovators And Creators Are Persons Who Can To A Higher Degree Than Average Accept The Condition Of Aloneness. They Are More Willing To Follow Their Own Vision, Even When It Takes Them Far From The Mainland Of The Human Community. Unexplored Places Do Not Frighten Them- Or Not, At Any Rate, As Much As They Frighten Those Around Them. This Is One Of The Secrets Of Their Power. That Which We Call Genius Has A Great Deal To Do With Courage And Daring, A Great Deal To Do With Nerve.

In A World In Which The Total Of Human Knowledge Is Doubling About Every Ten Years, Our Security Can Rest Only On Our Ability To Learn

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If You Are An Adult, You Are Responsible For Your Life And Well-being. No One Owes You The Fulfillment Of Your Needs Or Wants; No One Is Here On Earth To Serve You. If You Respect The Principle Of Self-ownership, You Understand That No One Else Owns You And That You Do Not Own Anyone Else. Only On This Understanding Can There Be Peace On Earth And Good Will Among Human Beings.

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Sometimes The Subconscious Mind Manifests A Wisdom Several Steps Or Even Years Ahead Of The Conscious Mind, And Has Its Own Way Of Leading Us Toward Our Destiny.

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