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When You Hit The Unimaginable, The Only Answer Is Imaginativeness. You Have To Heal With The Person That You're Suffering With. You Have To Write A New Chapter In Your Story. A Relationship Can Be A Sacred Thing, But It's Going To Be Difficult. There Are Going To Be Challenges. You Are Going To Have Pain. But Working It Through And Being Resilient Is As Sacred And Meaningful As Having A "hollywood" Romance.

-Bruce Feiler

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When You Hit The Unimaginable, The Only Answer Is Imaginativeness. You Have To Heal With The Person That You're Suffering With. You Have To Write A New Chapter In Your Story. A Relationship Can Be A Sacred Thing, But It's Going To Be Difficult. There Are Going To Be Challenges. You Are Going To Have Pain. But Working It Through And Being Resilient Is As Sacred And Meaningful As Having A "hollywood" Romance.

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