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When We Are Not Engaged In Thinking About Some Definite Problem, We Usually Spend About 95 Percent Of Our Time Thinking About Ourselves. Now, If We Stop Thinking About Ourselves For A While And Begin To Think Of The Other Person's Good Points, We Won't Have To Resort To Flattery So Cheap And False That It Can Be Spotted Almost Before It Is Out Of The Mouth.

-Dale Carnegie

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Dale Carnegie

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When We Are Not Engaged In Thinking About Some Definite Problem, We Usually Spend About 95 Percent Of Our Time Thinking About Ourselves. Now, If We Stop Thinking About Ourselves For A While And Begin To Think Of The Other Person's Good Points, We Won't Have To Resort To Flattery So Cheap And False That It Can Be Spotted Almost Before It Is Out Of The Mouth.

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In Fact, Merely Writing The Facts On A Piece Of Paper And Stating Our Problem Clearly Goes A Long Way Toward Helping Us To Reach A Sensible Decision.

People Support A World They Helped Create.

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Good Conversation

Let's Find And Remedy All Our Weaknesses Before Our Enemies Get A Chance To Say A Word. That Is What Charles Darwin Did. ...when Darwin Completed The Manuscript Of His Immortal Book "the Origin Of Species" He Realized That The Publication Of His Revolutionary Concept Of Creation Would Rock The Intellectual And Religious Worlds. So He Became His Own Critic And Spent Another 15 Years Checking His Data, Challenging His Reasoning, And Criticizing His Conclusions.

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Actions Speak Louder Than Words, And A Smile Says, 'i Like You. You Make Me Happy. I Am Glad To See You.' That Is Why Dogs Make Such A Hit. They Are So Glad To See Us That They Almost Jump Out Of Their Skins. So, Naturally, We Are Glad To See Them.

You Make Me Happy

Make The Other Person Feel Important - And Do It Sincerely.

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Let The Other Person Save Face.

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Mental Attitude

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If Some People Are So Hungry For A Feeling Of Importance That They Actually Go Insane To Get It, Imagine What Miracle You And I Can Achieve By Giving People Honest Appreciation This Side Of Insanity.

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The Sure-thing Boat Never Gets Far From Shore.

Will And Determination

Pay Less Attention To What Men Say. Just Watch What They Do.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Close Your Eyes. You Might Try Saying. . . Something Like This: "the Sun Is Shining Overhead. The Sky Is Blue And Sparkling. Nature Is Calm And In Control Of The World-and I, As Nature's Child, Am In Tune With The Universe." Or-better Still-pray!

If You Want To Develop Courage, Do The Thing You Fear And Keep On Doing It Until You Have A Record Of Successful Experiences Behind You. That Is The Quickest And Surest Way Ever Yet Discovered To Conquer Fear. You Can Conquer Almost Any Fear If You Will Only Make Up Your Mind To Do So. For Remember, Fear Doesn't Exist Anywhere Except In The Mind.

The Difference Between A Grave And A Rut Are The Dimensions.

It Is The Way We React To Circumstances That Determines Our Feelings.

Be A Balanced Optimist. Nobody Is Suggesting That You Become An Oblivious Pollyanna, Pretending That Nothing Bad Can Or Ever Will Happen. Doing So Can Lead To Poor Decisions And Invites People To Take Advantage Of You. Instead, Be A Rational Optimist Who Takes The Good With The Bad, In Hopes Of The Good Ultimately Outweighing The Bad, And With The Understanding That Being Pessimistic About Everything Accomplishes Nothing. Prepare For The Worst But Hope For The Best - The Former Makes You Sensible, And The Latter Makes You An Optimist.

Accomplish Nothing

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