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Why Prove To A Man He Is Wrong? Is That Going To Make Him Like You? Why Not Let Him Save Face? He Didn't Ask For Your Opinion. He Didn't Want It. Why Argue With Him? You Can't Win An Argument, Because If You Lose, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It. Why? You Will Feel Fine. But What About Him? You Have Made Him Feel Inferior, You Hurt His Pride, Insult His Intelligence, His Judgment, And His Self-respect, And He'll Resent Your Triumph. That Will Make Him Strike Back, But It Will Never Make Him Want To Change His Mind. A Man Convinced Against His Will Is Of The Same Opinion Still.

-Dale Carnegie

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Why Prove To A Man He Is Wrong? Is That Going To Make Him Like You? Why Not Let Him Save Face? He Didn't Ask For Your Opinion. He Didn't Want It. Why Argue With Him? You Can't Win An Argument, Because If You Lose, You Lose It; And If You Win It, You Lose It. Why? You Will Feel Fine. But What About Him? You Have Made Him Feel Inferior, You Hurt His Pride, Insult His Intelligence, His Judgment, And His Self-respect, And He'll Resent Your Triumph. That Will Make Him Strike Back, But It Will Never Make Him Want To Change His Mind. A Man Convinced Against His Will Is Of The Same Opinion Still.

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You And I Are Standing This Very Second At The Meeting Place Of Two Eternities: The Vast Past That Has Endured Forever, And The Future That Is Plunging On To The Last Syllable Of Recorded Time. We Can't Possible Live In Either Of Those Eternities - No, Not Even For A Split Second. But, By Trying To Do So, We Can Wreck Both Our Bodies And Our Minds. So Let's Be Content To Live The Only Time We Can Possible Live: From Now Until Bedtime.

Don't Be Afraid Of Enemies Who Attack You. Be Afraid Of The Friends Who Flatter You.

If You Are Not In The Process Of Becoming The Person You Want To Be, You Are Automatically Engaged In Becoming The Person You Don't Want To Be.

Finding Yourself

When We Have Accepted The Worst, We Have Nothing More To Lose. And That Automatically Means We Have Everything To Gain.

One Of The Most Appalling Comments On Our Present Way Of Life Is That At One Time Half Of All The Beds In Our Hospitals Were Reserved For Patients With Nervous And Mental Troubles, Patients Who Had Collapsed Under The Crushing Burden Of Accumulated Yesterdays And Fearful Tomorrows. Yet A Vast Majority Of Those People Would Be Walking The Streets Today, Leading Happy, Useful Lives — If They Had Only Heeded The Words Of Jesus: “have No Anxiety About The Morrow”; Or The Words Of Sir William Osler: "live In Day-tight Compartments."

Instead Of Condemning People, Let's Try To Understand Them. Let's Try To Figure Out Why They Do What They Do. That's A Lot More Profitable And Intriguing Than Criticism; And It Breeds Sympathy, Tolerance And Kindness.

You Can Dramatize Your Ideas In Business Or In Any Other Aspect Of Your Life. It’s Easy

If We Think Happy Thoughts, We Will Be Happy. If We Think Miserable Thoughts, We Will Be Miserable.

If You Want To Know How To Make People Shun You And Laugh At You Behind Your Back And Even Despise You, Here Is The Recipe: Never Listen To Anyone For Long. Talk Incessantly About Yourself. If You Have An Idea While The Other Person Is Talking, Don't Wait For Him Or Her To Finish: Bust Right In And Interrupt In The Middle Of A Sentence.

...be Grateful For What You Have To Be Thankful For Instead Of Complaining About The Little Things That Annoy You.

Your Smile Is A Messenger Of Your Goodwill.

By Criticizing, We Do Not Make Lasting Changes And Often Incur Resentment.

Try To Fix Firmly In Your Mind What You Would Like To Do; And Then, Without Veering Off Direction, You Will Move Straight To The Goal.

Remember That Other People May Be Totally Wrong. But They Don't Think So. Don't Condemn Them. Any Fool Can Do That. Try To Understand Them. Only Wise, Tolerant, Exceptional People Even Try To Do That.

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