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When I Started Out As An Actor, I Thought, Here's What I Have To Say; How Shall I Say It? I Began To Understand That What I Do In The Scene Is Not As Important As What Happens Between Me And The Other Person. And Listening Is What Lets It Happen. It's Almost Always The Other Person Who Causes You To Say What You Say Next. You Don't Have To Figure Out How You'll Say It. You Have To Listen So Simply, So Innocently, That The Other Person Brings About A Change In You That Makes You Say It And Informs The Way You Say It.

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When I Started Out

Alan Alda

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When I Started Out As An Actor, I Thought, Here's What I Have To Say; How Shall I Say It? I Began To Understand That What I Do In The Scene Is Not As Important As What Happens Between Me And The Other Person. And Listening Is What Lets It Happen. It's Almost Always The Other Person Who Causes You To Say What You Say Next. You Don't Have To Figure Out How You'll Say It. You Have To Listen So Simply, So Innocently, That The Other Person Brings About A Change In You That Makes You Say It And Informs The Way You Say It.

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