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What Would It Be Like If, Right In The Midst Of This Busyness, We Were To Consciously Take Our Hands Off The Controls? What If We Were To Intentionally Stop Our Mental Computations And Our Rushing Around And, For A Minute Or Two, Simply Pause And Notice Our Inner Experience?

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What Would It Be Like If, Right In The Midst Of This Busyness, We Were To Consciously Take Our Hands Off The Controls? What If We Were To Intentionally Stop Our Mental Computations And Our Rushing Around And, For A Minute Or Two, Simply Pause And Notice Our Inner Experience?

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Offer Some Gesture Of Kindness To Yourself. Sometimes It's Just A Message, To Say: "it's Okay. You're Going To Be Okay. We've Been Through This Before." The Intention Is Reassurance, That You Are Not Alone And You Can Do This. It Is The Most Powerful Way To Come Out Of What I Call The "trance Of Unworthiness."

By Regarding Ourselves With Kindness, We Begin To Dissolve The Identity Of An Isolated, Deficient Self. This Creates The Grounds For Including Others In An Unconditionally Loving Heart.

Extend An Act Of Kindness Each Day. No One Has To Know. It Can Be A Smile, Reassuring Words, A Small Favor - Without Expecting Something In Return.

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Observing Desire Without Acting On It Enlarges Our Freedom To Choose How We Live.

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I Mentioned Earlier The Two Wings Of Awareness. The First Step Is Recognizing The Fear Of Getting Close To Others - This Honest Witnessing Of Where It Is In The Body, Where It Is In Your Beliefs.the Other Wing Regards What's Seen With Kindness And Compassion.

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The Next Time You Find Yourself In Some Way Trying Desperately To Land Safely, Your Compassion Might Be What Finally Gives You The Courage You Need To Let Go Of The Controls. In Doing So, You Might Discover That Each Time You Let Go, It Becomes Easier And Easier To Re-enter The Atmosphere Of Your Own Aliveness. Gradually You’ll Come Home To The Flow Of Your Own Living Presence, The Warmth And Space Of Your Awakening Heart.

As I Noticed Feelings And Thoughts Appear And Disappear, It Became Increasingly Clear That They Were Just Coming And Going On Their Own. . . . There Was No Sense Of A Self Owning Them.

If We're Not Open To Losing, We're Not Open To Loving.

Stories About Ourselves And About The World Continually Arise In Our Minds And Shape Our Beliefs About Reality.

We Want To Be In Open, Loving Communion With Each Other And Our Greatest Fear Is Intimacy. That It Won't Work And We'll Be Rejected.

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My Understanding Is That To Love, We Need To Be Able To Totally Surrender To The Living/dying Nature Of This World.

Underneath The Stress Is Fear, And The Biggest Is Our Own Personal Fear Of Failure.

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If I'm Judging The Attachment, Myself, Or Another Person, Then I Create Separation.

This Is For Anyone Reading This Who Wants To Explore It. Recognize The Thought, "afraid Of Loving," Then Gently Put Your Hand On Your Heart To Send A Message Of Kindness.

On This Sacred Path Of Radical Acceptance, Rather Than Striving For Perfection, We Discover How To Love Ourselves Into Wholeness.

Each Time You Meet An Old Emotional Pattern With Presence, Your Awakening To Truth Can Deepen. There’s Less Identification With The Self In The Story And More Ability To Rest In The Awareness That Is Witnessing What’s Happening. You Become More Able To Abide In Compassion, To Remember And Trust Your True Home. Rather Than Cycling Repetitively Through Old Conditioning, You Are Actually Spiraling Toward Freedom.

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Stories Can Be A Jumping-off Point To Access The Emotions And The Sensations In The Body.

When Desire For A Certain Person's Attention Becomes An "i Have To Have" Kind Of Grasping, Then Identity Gets Organized Around Needing That And It Becomes Very Solid And Sticky. That Causes Suffering Because We're Not Inhabiting The Fullness Of Who We Are, We're Fixated And Contracted On Life Being A Certain Way.

The Intimacy That Arises In Listening And Speaking Truth Is Only Possible If We Can Open To The Vulnerability Of Our Own Hearts. Breathing In, Contacting The Life That Is Right Here, Is Our First Step. Once We Have Held Ourselves With Kindness, We Can Touch Others In A Vital And Healing Way.

When We're Awake In Our Bodies And Sense, The World Comes Alive. Wisdom, Creativity, And Love Are Discovered As We Relax And Awaken Through Our Bodies.

In Any Moment, No Matter How Lost We Feel, We Can Take Refuge In Presence And Love. We Need Only Pause, Breathe, And Open To The Experience Of Aliveness Within Us. In That Wakeful Openness, We Come Home To The Peace And Freedom Of Our Natural Awareness.

Sometimes The Easiest Way To Appreciate Ourselves Is By Looking Through The Eyes Of Someone Who Loves Us.

Become A Witness To Your Thoughts.

Through The Sacred Art Of Pausing, We Develop The Capacity To Stop Hiding, To Stop Running Away From Our Experience. We Begin To Trust In Our Natural Intelligence, In Our Naturally Wise Heart, In Our Capacity To Open To Whatever Arises.

I Want To Accept Myself Completely, Just As I Am.

Take Moments To Savor What Is Beautiful And Good.

The Renowned Seventh-century Zen Master Seng-tsan Taught That True Freedom Is Being "without Anxiety About Imperfection.

In The Process Of Deeply Accepting Our Own Inner Experience, Instead Of Being Identified With A Story Of A Limited Self, We Realize The Compassion And Wakefulness That Is Our Essence.

The Muscles Used To Make A Smile Actually Send A Biochemical Message To Our Nervous System That It Is Safe To Relax The Flight Of Freeze Response.

I Speak A Lot About What I Call "the Trance Of Unworthiness" Which Is Really Epidemic In Our Culture, This Sense Of "i'm Not Enough," Or "something's Wrong With Me." Most Of Us Have Some Level Of It Because Our Culture Has All These Standards (handed Down Through Our Families) Of What It Means To Be Okay.

Our Greatest Longing Is To Be Intimate.

Radical Acceptance Is The Willingness To Experience Ourselves And Our Lives As It Is.

I Would Say Both Western Psychology And Eastern Paths Would Recognize That We Get Caught Up In Feeling Like A Separate Self And An Unworthy Self.

Just Remember That Everyone Is Struggling; Everyone Is Living With Fear And Uncertainty And It Doesn't Matter What Their Politics Are.

Unless We're Completely Awake, Have A Degree Of That. We Tense Against Love And Hold On In A Way That Doesn't Let It Flow. When That's Really Strong, The Key Piece To Freeing Our Hearts Is Self-compassion.

Happiness Lies Not In Finding What Is Missing, But In Finding What Is Present.

Paying Attention Is The Most Basic And Profound Expression Of Love.

I Might Find That I Have A Habit Of Being Jealous And Comparing Myself With Other People And Riveting My Attention On How Much Somebody Else Is Accomplishing Or Doing, Or How Much Better They Are At Such And Such. First, I Might Recognize The Story - The Mental Images And Internal Dialogue - And Say, "okay, Comparing Mind." Then, Rather Than Staying Caught In The Content, I'll Bring My Attention Into My Body And Open To The Immediate Feelings That Are There.

In A Basic Way, Acceptance Is Seeing Clearly What's Happening And Holding It With Kindness. This Is A Radical Antidote To The Suffering Of Judging Mind.

The Buddha Never Intended To Make Desire Itself The Problem. When He Said Craving Causes Suffering, He Was Referring Not To Our Natural Inclination As Living Beings To Have Wants And Needs, But To Our Habit Of Clinging To Experience That Must, By Nature, Pass Away.

When We Relax About Imperfection, We No Longer Lose Our Life Moments In The Pursuit Of Being Different And In The Fear Of What Is Wrong.

Being Different

Meditation Is Evolution's Strategy To Bring Out Our Full Potential.

We Can Find True Refuge Within Our Own Hearts And Minds-right Here, Right Now, In The Midst Of Our Moment-to-momen T Lives.

We're So Used To Presenting Ourselves And Getting Approval According To Our Achievements That It's Difficult To Be Authentic And Trust That We'll Be Accepted Just As We Are.

As We Free Ourselves From The Suffering Of 'something Is Wrong With Me, 'we Trust And Express The Fullness Of Who We Are.'

It Is Through Realizing Loving Presence As Our Very Essence, Through Being That Presence, That We Discover True Freedom.

Mindfulness Is A Pause - The Space Between Stimulus And Response: That's Where Choice Lies.

There's Healthy Attachment, Like With A Mother And Child. It's Biologically Part Of Our Survival.

Our Attitude In The Face Of Life's Challenges Determines Our Suffering Or Our Freedom.

Feeling Compassion For Ourselves In No Way Releases Us From Responsibility For Our Actions. Rather, It Releases Us From The Self-hatred That Prevents Us From Responding To Our Life With Clarity And Balance.

Even Going Through The Motions Is A Way Of Establishing A New Relationship With Our Inner Life That Is Caring And Tender, Versus One That Is Judging, Distancing Or Ignoring. This Is The Beginning Of Being Capable Of Intimacy With Others.

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We Wait For Things To Be Different In Order To Feel Okay With Life. As Long As We Keep Attaching Our Happiness To The External Events Of Our Lives, Which Are Ever Changing, We’ll Always Be Left Waiting For It.

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