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We Never Get Upset Over What Happens. Never. We Get Upset Because Of Preconceived Ideas As To What We Think Should Happen, What We Want To Happen. When Our Preference Clashes With The Reality, We Get Hurt. Rid Yourself Of All Preconceived Ideas As To What Should Happen. You Are Then At Peace Whatever Happens.

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We Never Get Upset

Vernon Howard

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We Never Get Upset Over What Happens. Never. We Get Upset Because Of Preconceived Ideas As To What We Think Should Happen, What We Want To Happen. When Our Preference Clashes With The Reality, We Get Hurt. Rid Yourself Of All Preconceived Ideas As To What Should Happen. You Are Then At Peace Whatever Happens.

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