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We Know That Kids Who Grow Up In An Environment Of Warmth And Support Will Thrive And Function In Whatever Environment They Find Themselves. What We Need To Do Is To Do More To Help Poor Kids Have Such An Environment.

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We Know That Kids

Alison Gopnik

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We Know That Kids Who Grow Up In An Environment Of Warmth And Support Will Thrive And Function In Whatever Environment They Find Themselves. What We Need To Do Is To Do More To Help Poor Kids Have Such An Environment.

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