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My Mom Gave Me A Good Piece Of Advice. She Said Never Marry A Man Thinking You Can Change Him, And I Think That Starts From Your First Date When You're In The Seventh Grade Onwards. Women Are Fixers So We Have To Just Not Fix. Don't Fix.

-Jennifer Garner

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My Mom Gave Me

Jennifer Garner

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My Mom Gave Me A Good Piece Of Advice. She Said Never Marry A Man Thinking You Can Change Him, And I Think That Starts From Your First Date When You're In The Seventh Grade Onwards. Women Are Fixers So We Have To Just Not Fix. Don't Fix.

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