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I'm Not Here To - As A Parent, I Believe We Are Specifically Here To Help Our Children Mature In The Way That They Can Take On Their Own Lives. I'm Not Here To Live Their Lives For Them. That's Not My Job.

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I'm Not Here To

Jada Pinkett Smith

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I'm Not Here To - As A Parent, I Believe We Are Specifically Here To Help Our Children Mature In The Way That They Can Take On Their Own Lives. I'm Not Here To Live Their Lives For Them. That's Not My Job.

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