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I'm Friends With A Lot Of My Exes, But It Took Time. We Didn't Just Get Into It. I Don't Think You Can Be Friends Until You're Cool With Them Dating Someone Else. That's When You Know.

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I'm Friends With A Lot Of My Exes, But It Took Time. We Didn't Just Get Into It. I Don't Think You Can Be Friends Until You're Cool With Them Dating Someone Else. That's When You Know.

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