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I Do Feel There Is A Certain Amount Of Distance And Apathy That's Created When You Feel Like There's A Distance Between You And The Other People. So It's Very Easy To... When You Have An App That Sets It Up Where You Very Clearly Swipe Somebody's Face Off Of Your Screen Because You Don't Like The Way They Look, You're Asking People To Not Appeal To Their Best Selves. You're Asking People To Be Brutal.

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Rashida Jones

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I Do Feel There Is A Certain Amount Of Distance And Apathy That's Created When You Feel Like There's A Distance Between You And The Other People. So It's Very Easy To... When You Have An App That Sets It Up Where You Very Clearly Swipe Somebody's Face Off Of Your Screen Because You Don't Like The Way They Look, You're Asking People To Not Appeal To Their Best Selves. You're Asking People To Be Brutal.

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I Tend To Leave The House Without Makeup All The Time. I'm Kind Of Lazy That Way.

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I Want A Baby And I Want A Family, For Sure.

I Pretty Much Borrow My Entire Beauty Regime From My Mom.

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You Can't Be An Openly Gay Movie Star. You Can't Be An Openly Gay Pop Star, Really - Minus Ricky Martin.

I Realize My Need To Be Liked Or My Need For Strangers To Rate Me Well, Even With Their Words And Their Thoughts, I'm Not Alone In That, And The Whole Thing Is Set Up Culturally So We Feel That Way.

Auditioning Is The Worst.

I Think Every Girl Has That A Guy She Has Trouble Letting Go Of.

You Know, I Definitely Have An Inclination To Work In The Public Sector.

Chemotherapy Is Brutal. The Goal Is Pretty Much To Kill Everything In Your Body Without Killing You.

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I Feel Like There Is This Weird Thing Where Celebrity Involvement In Political Campaigns Kind Of Goes Together Like Peanut Butter And Chocolate. Sometimes It's Good, Sometimes It's Bad.

My Parents Are The Coolest Of The Cool On Every Single Level, And It's Because They Have A Deep Appreciation For Every Moment Of Their Lives.

The Justice System Is Flawed, And That Just Because You're Overtly Guilty Doesn't Actually Mean You're Actually Going To Go Away, To Jail.

You Know, I Grew Up On Romantic Comedies, And It's Hard To Find A New Way To Tell That Story.

Fail Fast. Fail Often... The Most Talented People In The World Have Bad Ideas. That's A Good Thing To Learn.

I Really Like The Relaxed Glamour Of The 70s.

I'm Lucky Because I Have So Many Clashing Cultural, Racial Things Going On: Black, Jewish, Irish, Portuguese, Cherokee. I Can Float And Be Part Of Any Community I Want.

I Took A Groundlings Class In My 20s, And I Was Terrible. They Didn't Even Pass Me To The Next Level.

The Minute You Feel Like There's Nothing Left To Learn, Whether It's With Your Career Or Life, You're Done.

Just Because A Situation Is Grim Doesn't Mean You Don't Have Every Right To Smile.

For The Most Part, There's So Much Of Me In My Characters.

In My Twenties I Would Be Skeptical Of A Bad Haircut, But Once You Turn Thirty It's More About Whether He A Nice Person And Does He Open The Door For Me. Once You Turn Thirty-five, It's More About Would He Make A Good Father. And Even If You're Just Liking Somebody And Digging On Someone, I Think You Can't Help But Think In Those Terms.

You Can Love Somebody And It Can Change Your Life But It Doesn't Mean That You're Necessarily Right To Be Together Forever, But That Love Will Change Your Life Forever. And That's Okay.

As Much As My Parents Are Part Of Hollywood, I Have No Recollection Of Them Giving Me Advice About It.

There's Room For Everything In Everybody.

I Was Like, 'oh, My God, Girls Are So Pretty And Soft. No Stubble Burn! What Am I Doing With Guys?' [i] Haven't Dipped Back Since, But I Was Very Appreciative Of The Experience.

Everything Is About Consumerism. If There's Money To Be Made, There Will Be An Audience And People Will Feel Empowered And I Truly Believe That Women Haven't Fully Tapped Into Their Potential As A Market.

I Think I'm A Natural Appreciator Of Comedy. I Was Definitely Not The Girl In Junior High That All The Guys Wanted To Date. They Wanted To Date My Friends - Which Was Great, Because I Had To Be Funny.

I Had A Nickname In Junior High, And I'm Loathe To Say This: 'potato Lady.'

I Think There's Just An Inherent Burden Of Being Alive And Being A Woman. No Man Would Ever Admit That, But I Think Women Know It, Which Is: You Know More Than Men, You Know More Than Most People You're Dealing With Every Day, And You Know That's It Up To You To Make Things Move Forward, And You Get Paid Half As Much, But You Just Do It.

I'm Friends With A Lot Of My Exes, But It Took Time. We Didn't Just Get Into It. I Don't Think You Can Be Friends Until You're Cool With Them Dating Someone Else. That's When You Know.

I Would [call Myself A Feminist], Yes, I Believe In The Unadulterated Advancement Of Women. And We Have So Far To Go Still.

I Can Fall Asleep Anywhere.

I Did A Lot Of Theater In School. I Thought Maybe I Wanted To Go To Law School Or Be A Judge Or A Politician. And Then I Just Kind Of Got Smitten By The Process Of Rehearsal And Working With Other Actors And Those Kinds Of Challenges. And Then Comedy.

If You Feel Like You Can't Actually Do The Right Thing And You're Headed Off Into The Field Of Justice, Maybe There's No Point In Going Into It.

Comedy Is Like Music, And The Way To Make The Best Music Is To Have Skilled Musicians In Your Band.

I Love Guys And The Way They Think; They're So Straightforward - And Women Can Learn From That.

I Wish For Myself As An Adult That I Cared Less What People Thought Of Me, Especially People Who Don't Know Me.

I Don't Think That There's Been One Example In History Where Somebody Has Openly Talked About Their Personal Life And It's Done Them Any Good.

Be Friendly To Everybody; Protect Yourself; People Sometimes Want A Piece Of You For No Good Reason; And Always Do Things Out Of Love Not Fear.

My Activities Tend To Revolve Around Crossword Puzzles, Reading And Playing Piano And Games With My Friends.

In Early High School Years, I Was Pretty Chubby, And I Spent A Lot Of Time On My Computer, Before It Was Cool To Have A Computer - Because There Was A Time That Was True. So That's Where I Developed My Personality.

Mom Is The Most Unconditionally Loving Person I Will Ever Know, And She Has Always Supported Me On Every Level.

Men Do Weird Things When They Experience Fear. It's Like A Fight Or Flight Thing.

I Totally Believe In Romance And Love And All That.

My First Love, I'll Never Forget, And It's Such A Big Part Of Who I Am, And In So Many Ways, We Could Never Be Together, But That Doesn't Mean That It's Not Forever. Because It Is Forever.

I Probably Wouldn't Be Acting If I Didn't Grow Up In Hollywood.

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I Don't Really Mess With Instagram Much, But I Get Why People Love It. Because To Me, It's Better To Tell A Story Through A Picture Than 140 Characters.

Smiling Is Definitely One Of The Best Beauty Remedies. If You Have A Good Sense Of Humor And A Good Approach To Life, That's Beautiful.

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I'm Terrified Of Performing Live.

Performing Live

When I See Somebody Sun-drenched In A Shot With Their Espadrilles And A Cup Of Coffee, I'm Like, "your Life Is Amazing. It's So Perfect." I Get Drawn Into That Very Easily So It Totally Worked, Because The Visual Style Sucks You In. It Makes You Want That.

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I Think It's A Relatable Concept - When You Have A Long-term Relationship Or Marriage, And You Want To Try To Be Friends With That Person, Because You Kind Of Grew Up With That Person And They Know You Better Than Anyone, And How It's Just Impossible To Make That Transition Seamlessly.

I Kind Of Understand Now Why People Freak Out When They See Celebrities That They Love, Because That's How I Feel About Every Single Muppet.

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I Would Be An Idiot To Say Comedy Is Easy, But It Does Come Naturally. It Never Feels Forced.

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Streaking Through A Large Crowd Has Always Been A Secret Fantasy Of Mine.

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It's Downright Undignified How Many Blazers I've Bought Over The Years. And Will Continue To Buy. They Immediately Give Shape And Add Authority. With The Perfect Blazer, Anything Is Possible.

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I Do Have Designers That I Love To Wear, Like Philip Lim And Marc Jacobs Whose Stuff I Know Will Look Good On My Body. But Still, I Always Like To Express Myself By Changing Things Up.

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I Remember Being A Kid And Seeing The 'national Inquirer' At The Grocery Store Checkout Line. When Somebody Actually Picked Up A Copy, It Was Mortifying. You Felt Dirty For Them. But Now It's Perfectly Acceptable To Read Something Like That. There's Absolutely No Taboo Surrounding That Kind Of Exploitation.

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My Pet Peeve And My Goal In Life Is To Somehow Get An Adjective For 'integrity' In The Dictionary. 'truthful' Doesn't Really Cover It, Or 'genuine.' It Should Be Like 'integritus.'

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I Don't Like Expectations.

I Have Six Brothers And Sisters. We All Look Totally Different: Blonde Hair, Curly Hair, Green Eyes, Dark Eyes, Dark Skin, Light Skin. It's Just How It Is.

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I Have A Lot Of Girl Friends Who Are Very Adept At Making Friends, And Guys Are Just Not.

You Can't Really Invest In Your Looks As The Only Thing Because It's A Depreciating Asset. It's Like Putting Money Into A Stock That's Going Down.

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I Am Definitively Qualitative About Work.

Mostly, Though, College Was Me Trying To Look Cooler Than I Was. There Were Definitely Some Carhartt Jeans And Backward Kangol Caps In My Repertoire.

There's People Who Watch Shows While They're Preparing Their Dinners, And They Don't Want To Focus, And They Don't Want To Be Challenged, And Whatever. And Then There's People Who Want To Really Sit Down And Get Into A Character In A World, And Feel Like They're Expanding, Or They Have Complex Relationships, Or Whatever.

When People Don't Know What You Are, You Get Your Heart Broken Daily.

Smiling Is Definitely One Of The Best Beauty Remedies

I Have A Father Who Came From Nothing And Conquered The World. The Last Thing I'm Going To Do Is Sit Here And Spend His Money And Try To Look Pretty. That's Not Interesting To Me At All.

I Think There Is This Thing Where People Are Impressed - It Gives You A Leg Up In The Sense That People Won't Treat You Like A Run-of-the-mill Actress. They'll Assign "smart" To Your Word Bank, Your Adjective Bank.

People Don't Believe This, But Hollywood Really Is A Meritocracy.

Music Will Always Be A Part Of My Life, But Career-wise, Acting Is Where My Heart Is.

There's A Definite Responsibility That Comes With Being Famous. You Shouldn't Be Able To Just Dress Up And Look Pretty.

It's Really Fun To Write Cuss Words. Just In General.

Everything French Is Amazing, Especially Creme Brulee, But Then Burnt Sugar Works For Me In Any Capacity.

In College, I Had A Lot Of Friends Who Were Writers And Wanted To Be Writers And I Felt Intimidated By It. I Just Didn't Know If I Had Any Gift Or Voice And I Had No Confidence About It.

Lots Of Friends

There Was A Time When I Let Go Of The Reins And Thought, What's Meant To Happen Will Happen. That's Probably One Of My Biggest Faults As A Person, And Something That I've Had To Work Really Hard On: Believing In This Idea That The Universe Will Decide For Me. The Universe Is Not Going To Decide In Your Favor.

I Hate To Be A Broken Record - My Parents Have A Lot To Do With That Too, Because That's How They Live Their Lives.

I Love Fashion, But Maybe I Love It Peripherally.

I Feel Like Until You Show Every Side, You're Not Doing The Gender Justice.

I Have A Deep Respect For Musicians, And I Feel Like I Would Want To Be So Prepared And So Well-educated And Deep In The Process Before I Ever Release Anything.

I Find It Scary To Sing - Scarier Than Acting Actually.

To Me, It's Really Easy To Feel Glamorous And Beautiful With Red Lips. It's Great Because You Don't Have To Do Anything Else. I Don't Have To Do Anything To My Face. I Can Have Cleanly Washed Hair And If I Just Put On Like A Matte Red Lip, It Just Makes Everything Seem Special.

Caring About What People Think Of Me Decreases Everyday.

I Know That In Life There Will Be Sickness, Devastation, Disappointments, Heartache - It's A Given. What's Not A Given Is The Way You Choose To Get Through It All. If You Look Hard Enough, You Can Always Find The Bright Side.

Marriage Feels Like An Industry With Catering And Really Expensive Bands.

I Like To Be In A European City Where I Can Speak My Language.

In 2002 Mom And I Got A Chance To Act Together In A Play Called 'pitching To The Star,' With Her Brother, Robert Lipton. The Three Of Us On The Same Stage - That Was Such A Special Experience For Me.

I've Always Dreamt Of Having Some Sort Of Undercover Job. I Think It's Probably The Coolest Thing In The World, But Ultimately A Very Lonely Life.

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Sure, Being Good At Your Job Is Really Important, But In Acting, So Much Of The Decision's Already Made The Minute You Walk In The Room Because They're Like, 'his Hair's Good Or She's Got The Right Skin Color' Or Whatever. It's So Random, But It's So Physically Oriented.

When A Thing You Love Faces Adversity, You Start To Feel More Protective Of It. Also, You Take An Inventory All The Time. You Ask Yourself, "is This Worth All My Fighting?"

I Have To Say, You Know, I've Seen So Many People Go Through The Cycle And Become Famous And Not Famous Anymore And, You Know, Want - Have Their Priorities Change And Want Different Things.

I Have No Issues With My Identity.

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Music Is Hugely Important To Me.

I'm Not Easily Offended. I Have A Pretty High Tolerance For Raunchiness Or Shock Value, So I'm The Wrong Person To Use As A Gauge.

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Timing Is Everything With Relationships.

Timing Is Everything

I'm Generally A Pretty Friendly Person.

Friendly Person

People Are Not Enjoying Life Because They're Trying To Be Something Or Brand Themselves.

I Love Being Part Of An Ensemble.

I Love Romantic Comedies. I Have A Deep Respect For Them. I Think They're Really Difficult To Write And Write Well.

I Know What It's Like To Have My Heart Broken. It Is Not Adorable.

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