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Educators, Long Disturbed By Schoolchildren's Lagging Scores In Math And Reading, Are Realizing There Is A Different And More Alarming Deficiency: Emotional Literacy. And While Laudable Efforts Are Being Made To Raise Academic Standards, This New And Troubling Deficiency Is Not Being Addressed In The Standard School Curriculum. As One Brooklyn Teacher Put It, The Present Emphasis In Schools Suggests That "we Care More About How Well Schoolchildren Can Read And Write Than Whether They'll Be Alive Next Week."

-Daniel Goleman

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Educators, Long Disturbed By Schoolchildren's Lagging Scores In Math And Reading, Are Realizing There Is A Different And More Alarming Deficiency: Emotional Literacy. And While Laudable Efforts Are Being Made To Raise Academic Standards, This New And Troubling Deficiency Is Not Being Addressed In The Standard School Curriculum. As One Brooklyn Teacher Put It, The Present Emphasis In Schools Suggests That "we Care More About How Well Schoolchildren Can Read And Write Than Whether They'll Be Alive Next Week."

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