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Women Do Not Enter A Profession In Significant Numbers Until It Is Physically Safe. So Until We Care Enough About Men's Safety To Turn The Death Professions Into Safe Professions, We In Effect Discriminate Against Women. But When We Overprotect Women And Only Women It Also Leads To Discrimination Against Women. ...if [an Employer Works] For A Large Company For Which Quotas Prevent Discrimination, They Find Themselves Increasingly Hiring Free-lancers Rather Than Taking On A Woman And Therefore A Possible Sexual Harassment Lawsuit.

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Women Do Not Enter A Profession In Significant Numbers Until It Is Physically Safe. So Until We Care Enough About Men's Safety To Turn The Death Professions Into Safe Professions, We In Effect Discriminate Against Women. But When We Overprotect Women And Only Women It Also Leads To Discrimination Against Women. ...if [an Employer Works] For A Large Company For Which Quotas Prevent Discrimination, They Find Themselves Increasingly Hiring Free-lancers Rather Than Taking On A Woman And Therefore A Possible Sexual Harassment Lawsuit.

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Men Are Not Only Women's Unpaid Bodyguards, They Actually Pay To Be A Woman's Bodyguard.

In Fact, The Socialization Gives Us The Tools To Fill Our Evolutionary Roles. They Are Our Building Blocks.

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Men Are Fair, And They Have Learned Not To Personalize Anger - They Can Disagree With You And Argue To The Bone, But Afterward They Still Consider You A Nice Person With Whom The Underlying Human Relationship Need Not Be Altered.

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Men Will Not Change As Long As Women 'marry Up.' Men Won't Change Until We Have A Perspective On How Powerless Power Makes Us. A Woman Cannot Help A Man Change Until She Has A Perspective On How Powerless Power Makes Men.

He And She Become Selective At Different Points; She Can Be Selective When He Wants His Primary Fantasy - Sex; He Can Be Selective When She Wants Her Primary Fantasy - Commitment.

When I Lose My Larger Sense Of Supporting People To Be Their Best, I Lessen My Contact With The God Inside Me.

I Found That Women Entrepreneurs Earn 50% Less Than Their Male Counterparts.

Ideally There Should Not Be A Men's Movement But A Gender Transition Movement; Only The Power Of The Women's Movement Necessitates The Temporary Corrective Of A Men's Movement. And This Creates A Special Challenge For Men: There Are Few Political Movements Filled With Healthy People, Yet Few Healthy Changes Have Occurred Without Political Movements.

If Women Had To Promise To Provide For A Man For A Lifetime Before He Removed His Veil And Showed Her His Smile, Would We Think Of This As A System Of Female Privilege?

Men's Competitive Team Sports Focus On The Balance Between Individual Achievement And Team Achievement With The Emphasis On Team Achievement.

Until Recently, The Question Was 'why Can't A Woman Be More Like A Man?' It Should Have Been Changed To 'why Can't Both Sexes Be More Like The Best Parts Of Each Other?' Instead, The Pendulum Swung To The 1960s Feminist Lapel Button Adam Was A First Draft. True Enough. So Are We All.

Employers Are Not Prohibited From Practicing Sex Discrimination In Hiring And Promoting Employees.

Women's Greater Social Desirability And Beauty Power Afford Opportunities For Creating Both Measurable And Invisible Income. While The Opportunities Are Available To Almost All Women And Some Men, They Are Available In Abundance To The Genetic Celebrity ... A Woman So Beautiful That Men Do More Than Look And Talk--they Follow Her.

Divorces Led To Bodies Of Men (called Legislatures) Protecting Women Collectively As Other Men (called Husbands) Failed To Protect Women Individually.

Male Bashing Is Everywhere. It Would Be A Mistake To View The Current Situation As Another Skirmish In The War Between The Sexes. Women Have Been Doing The Shooting, And Men Have Been Burying Their Heads In The Sand, Hoping The Bullets Will Miss.

In A Sense, In The Area Of Child Care, Children's Relationships With Parents' Working Has Come Full Circle. We Have Gone From The Mom-and-pop Store (or Mom-and-pop Farm), With Its Integration Of Child Care And Work, To Children-at-home And Dad-at-work; To The Mom-plus-daddy Working At Home, With Its Integration Of Childcare And Work Again. From Mom-and-pop Back To Mom-and-pop.

Men Are Likely To Be Quite Generous, Especially Financially.

Somehow, Women's Romance Novels Are Not Titled He Stopped When I Said "no". They Are, Though, Titled Sweet Savage Love, In Which The Woman Rejects The Hand Of Her Gentler Lover Who Saves Her From The Rapist And Marries The Man Who Repeatedly And Savagely Rapes Her. It Is This "marry The Rapist" Theme That Not Only Turned Sweet Savage Love Into A Best-seller But Also Into One Of Women's Most Enduring Romance Novels.

Without Children, Men Have More Liberty To Earn Less - That Is, They Are Free To Pursue More Fulfilling And Less Lucrative Careers, Like Writing Or Art Or Teaching Social Studies.

The Irony Of Primary Parent Laws Is That On The One Hand Feminists Were Arguing For Women's Equal Rights To Jointly-created Career Assets That Emanated From The Male Financial Womb, But Arguing Against Men's Equal Rights To Jointly-created Children That Emanated From The Woman's Child-bearing Womb.

Blacks Are Six Times More Likely Than Whites To Be Victims Of Homicides.

So Long As You Create Laws That Define Women As Victims, As Creatures That Demand Protection, That Need Bodyguards, You Are Going To Perpetuate The Very Worst Of Our Sexist Past.

By Giving Women Training To Sue A Company For A 'hostile Environment' If Someone Tells A Dirty Joke, We Are Training Women To Run To The Government As Substitute Husband (or Father). This Gets Companies To Fear Women, But Not To Respect Women. The Best Preparation We Can Give Women To Succeed In The Workplace Is The Preparation To Overcome Barriers Rather Than To Sue: Successful People Don't Sue, They Succeed.

Let's Face It: Men Do A Lot Of Things In The Workplace That Women Just Don't Do.

The Problem With Every Judgment Of Sexual Behavior Is That It Is Made By People Who Aren't Being Stimulated As They Are Making The Judgment. A Jury That Sees A Woman In A Sterile Courtroom, Asks Her What She Wanted, And Then Assumes That Anything Else She Did Was The Responsibility Of The Man Is Insulting Not Only The Woman But The Power Of Sex.

As Long As Society Tells Men To Be The Salespersons Of Sex, It Is Sexist For Society To Put Only Men In Jail If They Sell Well. We Don't Put Other Salespersons In Jail For Buying Clients Drinks And Successfully Transforming A "no" Into A "maybe" Into A "yes." If The Client Makes A Choice To Drink Too Much And The "yes" Turns Out To Be A Bad Decision, It Is The Client Who Gets Fired, Not The Salesperson.

Feminists Often Discuss Women Having Two Jobs: Work And Children. True. But No One Discusses Those Divorced And Remarried Men Who Have Three Jobs: Work, And Two Sets Of Children To Nurture And Financially Support.

A Family That Knows How To Play Together Has The Tools To Stay Together.

The Male Corporate Model Is Built On A Mans Greater Willingness To Be A Slave Of Sorts - Especially Once He Has To Provide For Children.

We Have Entered 'the Era Of The Three-option Woman And The No-option Man.'

The Weakness Of Men Is The Facade Of Strength; The Strength Of Women Is The Facade Of Weakness.

Sexism Is Discounting The Female Experience Of Powerlessness; The New Sexism Is Discounting The Male Experience Of Powerlessness.

Humans Tend To Start The Process Of Change By Acknowledging Themselves. Thus Blacks Asserted Black Pride And 'black Is Beautiful;' Women Declared 'i Am Woman, I Am Strong'; Men Are Saying 'i Am Man, I Am Okay.' After A Quarter Of A Century Of Male Bashing, That's Not A Bad Start.

I Started To Get Very Well Recognized In The Early Seventies As The Only Man In The United States Who Had Been Elected Three Times To The Board Of Now In New York City.

Our Main Reasons For Fearing Males Having Sex With Males Is That You Really Had To Construct A More Powerful Social Role To Keep Men In Their Place Than You Did To Keep Women In Their Place.

A 2001 Survey Of Business Owners With Mbas Conducted By The Rochester Institute Of Technology Found That Money Was The Primary Motivator For Only 29% Of Women, Versus 76% Of Men. Women Prioritized Flexibility, Fulfillment, Autonomy And Safety.

When Men In Relationships Have More Money, We Say They Have The Power. When Women In Relationships Have More Money, We Say They Are Being Used.

In Brief, When A Man Fails As A Wallet, We Put Him In Prison; When A Woman Fails As A Mother, We Offer Her Social Services. We're Taking A Criminal Approach To Men, A Social Services Approach To Women.

People Who Work 44 Hours Per Week Make 50 Percent More Than People Who Work 34 Hours A Week.

The Deeper Purpose Of A More Positive Attitude Toward Men Is A Better Life For The Children Who Are Parented By The Men Who Are Their Dads And Stepdads; Less Shame For Our Sons Who Will Become Men; And, For Our Daughters, A Deeper Understanding Of Men's Desire To Please That Leaves Them Feeling Their Willingness To Please Is Not Unrequited But Returned - Allowing Our Daughters To Feel Less Lonely And More Loved. If We Earn More And Love Less, We Pay For A Home In Which We Do Not Live.

Men Give The Same Lines To Different Women For The Same Reason Women Wear The Same Perfume For Different Men; We All Try The Things That Work.

I Define Power As Control Over Ones Life. A Balanced Life Is Far Superior To The Male Definition Of Power: Earning Money Someone Else Spends While He Dies Sooner.

Male Makeup Is Men's Titles, Status And Paying For Dates. Makeup Is What Both Sexes Use To Bridge The Gap Between The Power They Have And The Power They'd Like To Have. Both Male And Female Makeup Are Compensations For Feelings Of Powerlessness.

If We Hold The Married Man Accountable For Finances Gone Legally Awry, Then The Married Woman Should Be Held Accountable For Children Who Go Awry.

On A Deeper Level, If Our Sons Are Learning They Are Obscene, Disgusting, And Untrustworthy, Is This The Best Preparation For Fatherhood? And Is It The Best Preparation For Becoming A Mother - To Feel This Way About Her Son?

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