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Why Do We Focus So Intensely On Our Problems? What Draws Us To Them? Why Are They So Attractive? They Have The Magnet Power Of Love: Somehow We Desire Our Problems; We Are In Love With Them Much As We Want To Get Rid Of Them . . . Problems Sustain Us -- Maybe That's Why They Don't Go Away. What Would A Life Be Without Them? Completely Tranquilized And Loveless . . . There Is A Secret Love Hiding In Each Problem

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Why Do We Focus

James Hillman

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Why Do We Focus So Intensely On Our Problems? What Draws Us To Them? Why Are They So Attractive? They Have The Magnet Power Of Love: Somehow We Desire Our Problems; We Are In Love With Them Much As We Want To Get Rid Of Them . . . Problems Sustain Us -- Maybe That's Why They Don't Go Away. What Would A Life Be Without Them? Completely Tranquilized And Loveless . . . There Is A Secret Love Hiding In Each Problem

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'mediocre' Tends To Mean 'undistinguished', While Snobs Enjoy Their Distinguishing Hallmarks Of Style - How They Wear Clothes, Use Words, Where They Go And Gather And Gossip. ...whatever The Circumstances The Genius Has Put You Into, The Fact Of Individuality Defends The Soul Against All Class-action Claims. No Soul Is Mediocre, Whatever Your Personal Taste For Conventionality, Whatever Your Personal Record Of Middling Achievements.

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...you Find Your Genius By Looking In The Mirror Of Your Life. Your Visible Image Shows Your Inner Truth, So When You're Estimating Others, What You See Is What You Get. It Therefore Becomes Critically Important To See Generously, Or You Will Get Only What You See; To See Sharply, So That You Discern The Mix Of Traits Rather Than A Generalized Lump; And To See Deeply Into Dark Shadows, Or Else You Will Be Deceived.

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The Comic Spirit Masquerades In All Things We Say And Do. We Are Each A Clown And Do Not Need To Put On A White Face.

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Social Pressure

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Everything That Everyone Is Afraid Of Has Already Happened: The Fragility Of Capitalism, Which We Don't Want To Admit; The Loss Of The Empire Of The United States; And American Exceptionalism. In Fact, American Exceptionalism Is That We Are Exceptionally Backward In About Fifteen Different Categories, From Education To Infrastructure.

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Without Time For Loss You Don't Have Time For Soul.

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Loss Means Losing What Was. We Want To Change But We Don't Want To Lose. Without Time For Loss, We Don't Have Time For Soul.

In The Cosmology That's Behind Psychology, There Is No Reason For Anyone To Be Here Or Do Anything.

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Psychotherapy Makes Every Problem A Subjective, Inner Problem. And That's Not Where The Problems Come From. They Come From The Environment, The Cities, The Economy, The Racism. They Come From Architecture, School Systems, Capitalism, Exploitation. They Come From Many Places That Psychotherapy Does Not Address. Psychotherapy Theory Turns It All On You: You Are The One Who Is Wrong.

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Follow Your Bliss

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It's The Only Way We Can Get Out Of Being So Human-centered: To Remain Attached To Something Other Than Humans.

Too Often In The West We Fail To Realize That Even In Eastern Disciplines The Spiritual Life Is Not Meant As An Escape From The Worldly Life. There Is Karma To Be Fulfilled On Earth, Within The Dharma Of Necessity.

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The Transfiguration Of Matter Occurs Through Wonder.

Transfiguration

Calling Can Refer Not Only To Ways Of Doing - Meaning Work - But Also To Ways Of Being.

I Am Not Caused By My History-my Parents, My Childhood And Development. These Are Mirrors In Which I May Catch Glimpses Of My Image.

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Any Symptom Can Force You To Go Deeper Into Some Area.

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Sooner Or Later Something Seems To Call Us Onto A Particular Path... This Is What I Must Do, This Is What I've Got To Have. This Is Who I Am.

Sooner Or Later

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We Are Driven By The Results Of The Big Bang, Billions Of Years Ago, Which Eventually Produced Life, Which Eventually Produced Human Beings, And So On. But Me? I'm An Accident - A Result - And Therefore A Victim.

Psychology Is Ultimately Mythology, The Study Of The Stories Of The Soul.

When They Talk About Family Values, It's In A Repressive Way, As If Our American Tradition Were Only The Puritan Tradition Or The 19th Century Oppressive Tradition. The Christian Tradition.

The Character Truest To Itself Becomes Eccentric Rather Than Immovably Centered, As Emerson Defined The Noble Character Of The Hero. At The Edge, The Certainty Of Borders Gives Way. We Are More Subject To Invasions, Less Able To Mobilize Defenses, Less Sure Of Who We Really Are, Even As We May Be Perceived By Others As A Person Of Character. The Dislocation Of Self From Center To Indefinite Edge Merges Us More With The World, So That We Can Feel Blest By Everything.

I Think The Worst Atmosphere For A Six-year-old Is One In Which There Are No Expectations Whatsoever. That Is, It's Worse For The Child To Grow Up In A Vacuum Where "whatever You Do Is Alright, I'm Sure You'll Succeed." That Is A Statement Of Disinterest. It Says, "i Really Have No Fantasies For You At All."

The Circumstances, Including My Body And My Parents, Whom I May Curse, Are My Soul's Own Choice And I Do Not Understand This Because I Have Forgotten

The Self Divided Is Precisely Where The Self Is Authentically Located. . . We All Have Identity Crises Because A Single Identity Is A Delusion Of The Monotheistic Mind. . . Authenticity Is In The Illusion, Playing It, Seeing Through It From Within As We Play It, Like An Actor Who Sees Through His Mask And Can Only See In This Way.

People Used To Trust Their Doctor. They Went To An Expert. Now People Have New Ideas And Are Thinking For Themselves. That's A Very Important Change In Our Collective Psychology.

Not Just Any Talk Is Conversation; Not Any Talk Raises Consciousness. Good Conversation Has An Edge: It Opens Your Eyes To Something, Quickens Your Ears. And Good Conversation Reverberates: It Keeps On Talking In Your Mind Later In The Day; The Next Day, You Find Yourself Still Conversing With What Was Said. That Reverberation Afterward Is The Very Raising Of Consciousness; Your Mind's Been Moved. You Are At Another Level With Your Reflections.

Each Of Us Needs An Adequate Biography: How Do I Put Together Into A Coherent Image The Pieces Of My Life? How Do I Find The Basic Plot Of My Story?

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We Have To Give Value To Authority. We Have To Give Value To Office, Being In Office, Holding Office.

The Capacity For People To Kid Themselves Is Huge. Living On Illusions Or Delusions, And The Re-establishing Of These Illusions Or Delusions Requires A Big Effort To Keep Them From Being Seen Through. But A Very Old Idea Is At Work Behind Our Current State Of Affairs: Enantiodromia, Or The Greek Notion Of Things Turning Into Their Opposite.

Anytime You’re Gonna Grow, You’re Gonna Lose Something. You’re Losing What You’re Hanging Onto To Keep Safe. You’re Losing Habits That You’re Comfortable With, You’re Losing Familiarity.

I Like To Imagine A Person's Psyche To Be Like A Boardinghouse Full Of Characters. The Ones Who Show Up Regularly And Who Habitually Follow The House Rules May Not Have Met Other Long-term Residents Who Stay Behind Closed Doors, Or Who Only Appear At Night. An Adequate Theory Of Character Must Make Room For Character Actors, For The Stuntmen And Animal Handlers, For All The Figures Who Play Bit Parts And Produce Unexpected Acts. They Often Make The Show Fateful, Or Tragic, Or Farcically Absurd.

Depression Opens The Door To Beauty Of Some Kind.

Suppose That Throughout Your Childhood You Were Good With Numbers. Other Kids Used To Copy Your Homework. You Figured Store Discounts Faster Than Your Parents. People Came To You For Help With Such Things. So You Took Accounting And Eventually Became A Tax Auditor For The Irs. What An Embarrassing Job, Right? You Feel You Should Be Writing Poetry Or Doing Aviation Mechanics Or Whatever. But Then You Realize That Tax Collecting Can Be A Calling Too.

We Need To Work On The World So It Will Not Be So Oppressive.

Just Stop For A Minute And You'll Realize You're Happy Just Being.

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