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When Trust Is High, The Dividend You Receive Is Like A Performance Multiplier, Elevating And Improving Every Dimension Of Your Organization And Your Life.... In A Company, High Trust Materially Improves Communication, Collaboration, Execution, Innovation, Strategy, Engagement, Partnering, And Relationships With All Stakeholders.

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When Trust Is High,

Stephen Covey

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When Trust Is High, The Dividend You Receive Is Like A Performance Multiplier, Elevating And Improving Every Dimension Of Your Organization And Your Life.... In A Company, High Trust Materially Improves Communication, Collaboration, Execution, Innovation, Strategy, Engagement, Partnering, And Relationships With All Stakeholders.

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Broken Relationship

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Surround Yourself

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Be A Function Of Your Values Rather Than A Function Of The Impulse Or Desire Of Any Given Moment.

Suppose You Were To Come Upon Someone In The Woods Working Feverishly To Saw Down A Tree. "what Are You Doing?" You Ask. "can't You See?" Comes The Impatient Reply. "i'm Sawing Down This Tree." "you Look Exhausted!" You Exclaim. "how Long Have You Been At It?" "over Five Hours," He Returns, "and I'm Beat! This Is Hard Work." 'well, Why Don't You Take A Break For A Few Minutes And Sharpen That Saw?" You Inquire. "i'm Sure It Would Go A Lot Faster." "i Don't Have Time To Sharpen The Saw," The Man Says Emphatically. "i'm Too Busy Sawing!"

It Takes A Great Deal Of Character Strength To Apologize Quickly Out Of One's Heart Rather Than Out Of Pity.

We Must Never Be Too Busy To Take Time To Sharpen The Saw.

I Don't Read Blogs But Occasionally People Tell Me About What They Contain, And I Do Take Questions That Come From Blogs.

Integrity In The Moment Of Choice: Quality Of Life Depends On What Happens In The Space Between Stimulus And Response.

It's Not That We Ignore Our Weaknesses; Rather, We Make Our Weaknesses Irrelevant By Working Effectively With Others So That We Compensate For Our Weaknesses Through Their Strengths And They Compensate For Their Weaknesses Through Our Strengths.

Live Simply And Appreciate What You Have. Give More. Expect Less.

Appreciate What You Have

Principles Are Guidelines For Human Conduct That Are Proven To Have Enduring, Permanent Value.

If We Can't Make And Keep Commitments To Ourselves As Well As To Others, Our Commitments Become Meaningless.

Common Sense Is Not Always Common Practice.

Be A Light, Not A Judge, Be A Model Not A Critic. Little By Little, Your Circle Of Influence Will Explode And You Will Avoid The Emotional Metastasizing Cancers Of Complaining, Criticizing, Competing, Comparing And Cynicism, All Which Reflect Victimization, All Of Which Are The Opposite Of Being Proactive.

Each Of Us Guard A Gate Of Change That Can Only Be Opened From The Inside.

Emotional Appeal

How You Treat The One Reveals How You Regard The Many, Because Everyone Is Ultimately A One.

Interpersonal Skills

The Reflection Of The Current Social Paradigm Tells Us We Are Largely Determined By Conditioning And Conditions.

A Moment Of Choice Is A Moment Of Truth. It's The Testing Point Of Our Character And Competence.

Self-mastery And Self-discipline Are The Foundation Of Good Relationships With Others.

Good Relationship

Management Is Efficiency In Climbing The Ladder Of Success

A Personal Mission Statement Becomes The Dna For Every Other Decision We Make.

Decisions We Make

Start Small, Make A Promise And Keep It. Then, Make Larger Promises And Keep Them. Eventually, Your Honor Will Become Greater Than Your Moods Or Your Circumstances, Which Includes Your Medical Condition And Other People's Stereotypic Observations. Once You Overcome This Comparison Based Mentality, Your Confidence Will Soar.

Whether You're On A Sports Team, In An Office Or A Member Of A Family, If You Can't Trust One Another There's Going To Be Trouble.

If My Sense Of Security Lies In My Reputation Or In The Things I Have, My Life Will Be In A Constant State Of Threat And Jeopardy-a Fear That These Possessions May Be Lost, Stolen, Or Devalued. If I'm In The Presence Of Someone Of Greater Net Worth, Fame, Or Status, I Feel Inferior. If I'm In The Presence Of Someone Of Lesser Net Worth, Fame Or Status, I Feel Superior. My Sense Of Self-worth Constantly Fluctu-ates. I Don't Have Any Sense Of Constancy, Anchorage, Or Persistent Selfhood. I Am Constantly Trying To Protect And Insure My Assets, Properties, Securities, Position, Or Reputation.

To Blame And Accuse Other People, Is To Choose To Empower Them, To Control Us.

When You Have A Challenge And The Response Is Equal To The Challenge, That's Called 'success'. But Once You Have A New Challenge, The Old, Once-successful Response No Longer Works. That's Why It Is Called A 'failure'.

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Keeping Promises

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Be Patient With Yourself. Self-growth Is Tender; It's Holy Ground. There's No Greater Investment.

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If You Say To One Flower, 'grow,' But You Water Another, The First One Won't Grow.

If We Live Out Of Our Memory, We're Tied To The Past And To That Which Is Finite. When We Live Out Of Our Imagination, We're Tied To That Which Is Infinite.

True Effectiveness Is A Function Of Two Things: What Is Produced (the Golden Eggs) And The Producing Asset (the Goose).

In Order To Have Influence, You Have To Be Influenced.

Self Improvement

Employers And Business Leaders Need People Who Can Think For Themselves - Who Can Take Initiative And Be The Solution To Problems.

Distinguish Between The Person And The Behavior Or Performance.

People With A Scarcity Mentality Tend To See Everything In Terms Of Win-lose. There Is Only So Much; And If Someone Else Has It, That Means There Will Be Less For Me. The More Principle-centered We Become, The More We Develop An Abundance Mentality, The More We Are Genuinely Happy For The Successes, Well-being, Achievements, Recognition, And Good Fortune Of Other People. We Believe Their Success Adds To...rather Than Detracts From...our Lives.

In Addition To Self-awareness, Imagination And Conscience, It Is The Fourth Human Endowment - Independent Will - That Really Makes Effective Self-management Possible. It Is The Ability To Make Decisions And Choices And To Act In Accordance With Them. It Is The Ability To Act Rather Than To Be Acted Upon, To Proactively Carry Out The Program We Have Developed Through The Other Three Endowments. Empowerment Comes From Learning How To Use This Great Endowment In The Decisions We Make Every Day.

Self Confidence

Decisions We Make

Listen To Your Conscience Regarding Something That You Simply Know You Should Do, Then Start Small On It - Make A Promise And Keep It. Then Move Forward And Make A Little Larger Promise And Keep It. Eventually You'll Discover That Your Sense Of Honor Will Become Greater Than Your Moods, And That Will Give You A Level Of Confidence And Excitement That You Can Move To Other Areas Where You Feel You Need To Make Improvements Or Give Service.

Effective Communication Is Built On The Cement Of Trust. And Trust Is Based On Trustworthiness, Not Politics.

Trustworthiness

The Character Ethic, Which I Believe To Be The Foundation Of Success, Teaches That There Are Basic Principles Of Effective Living, And That People Can Only Experience True Success And Enduring Happiness As They Learn And Integrate These Principles Into Their Basic Character.

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