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We Receive Love — From Our Children As Well As Others — Not In Proportion To Our Demands Or Sacrifices Or Needs, But Roughly In Proportion To Our Own Capacity To Love.

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We Receive Love — From Our Children As Well As Others — Not In Proportion To Our Demands Or Sacrifices Or Needs, But Roughly In Proportion To Our Own Capacity To Love.

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Self Actualization

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Good Art Wounds As Well As Delights. It Must, Because Our Defenses Against The Truth Are Wound So Tightly Around Us. But As Art Chips Away At Our Defenses, It Also Opens Us To Healing Potentialities That Transcend Intellectual Games And Ego-preserving Strategies.

Communication Leads To Community That Is, To Understanding, Intimacy, And The Mutual Valuing That Was Previously Lacking. Community Can Be Defined Simply As A Group In Which Free Conversation Can Take Place. Community Is Where I Can Share My Innermost Thoughts, Bring Out The Depths Of My Own Feelings, And Know They Will Be Understood.

Communication Leads To Community, That Is, To Understanding, Intimacy And Mutual Valuing.

Anxiety Is Essential To The Human Condition. The Confrontation With Anxiety Can Relieve Us From Boredom, Sharpen The Sensitivity And Assure The Presence Of Tension That Is Necessary To Preserve Human Existence.

They Pursue Meaninglessness Until They Can Force It To Mean.

Every Act Of Genuine Creativity Means Achieving A Higher Level Of Self-awareness And Personal Freedom.

It Requires Greater Courage To Preserve Inner Freedom, To Move On In One's Inward Journey Into New Realms, Than To Stand Defiantly For Outer Freedom. It Is Often Easier To Play The Martyr, As It Is To Be Rash In Battle.

It Is An Old And Ironic Habit Of Human Beings To Run Faster When We Have Lost Our Way; And We Grasp More Fiercely At Research, Statistics, And Technical Aids In Sex When We Have Lost The Values And Meaning Of Love.

A Myth Is A Way Of Making Sense In A Senseless World. Myths Are Narrative Patterns That Give Significance To Our Existence. Whether The Meaning Of Existence Is Only What We Put Into Life By Our Own Individual Fortitude, As Sartre Would Hold, Or Whether There Is A Meaning We Need To Discover, As Kierkegaard Would State, The Result Is The Same: Myths Are Our Way Of Finding This Meaning And Significance.

Finding The Center Of Strenghth Within Ourselves Is In The Long Run Best Contribution We Can Do To Our Fellow Man

Physical Courage In Whatever Scene ... Seems To Hinge On Whether The Individual Can Feel He Is Fighting For Others As Well As Himself.

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Every Human Being Must Have A Point At Which He Stands Against The Culture, Where He Says, This Is Me And The Damned World Can Go To Hell.

Courage Is Not A Virtue Of Value Among Other Personal Values Like Love Or Fidelity. It Is The Foundation That Underlies And Gives Reality To All Other Virtues And Personal Values. Without Courage Our Love Pales Into Mere Dependency. Without Courage Our Fidelity Becomes Conformism.

Purpose In The Human Being Is A Much More Complex Phenomenon Than What Used To Be Called Will Power.

The Hallmark Of Courage In Our Age Of Conformity Is The Capacity To Stand On One's Own Convictions - Not Obstinately Or Defiantly

Inner Sense Of Worth That Comes With Being In Love Does Not Seem To Depend Essentially On Whether The Love Is Returned Or Not.

Hate Is Not The Opposite Of Love; Apathy Is.

Violence Arises Not Out Of Superfluity Of Power But Out Of Powerlessness.

Terrorism And The Whole Drug Scene Are Vivid Examples Of The Fact That What Persons Abhor Most Of All In Life Is The Possibility That They Will Not Matter.

Creativity Arises Out Of The Tension Between Spontaneity And Limitations, The Latter (like The River Banks) Forcing The Spontaneity Into The Various Forms Which Are Essential To The Work Of Art Or Poem.

Creativity Occurs In An Act Of Encounter And Is To Be Understood With This Encounter As Its Center.

One Central Need In Life Is To Fulfill Its Own Potential.

Those We Call Saints Rebelled Against An Outmoded And Inadequate Form Of God On The Basis Of Their New Insights Into Divinity.

The Authentic Rebel Knows That The Silencing Of All His Adversaries Is The Last Thing On Earth He Wishes: Their Extermination Would Deprive Him And Whoever Else Remains Alive From The Uniqueness, The Originality, And The Capacity For Insight That These Enemies Being Human Also Have And Could Share With Him. If We Wish The Death Of Our Enemies, We Cannot Talk About The Community Of Man. In The Losing Of The Chance For Dialogue With Our Enemies, We Are The Poorer.

Joy Is The Zest That You Get Out Of Using Your Talents, Your Understanding, The Totality Of Your Being, For Great Aims...that's The Kind Of Feeling That Goes With Creativity. That's Why I Say The Courage To Create. Creation Does Not Come Out Of Simply What You're Born With. That Must Be United With Your Courage, Both Of Which Cause Anxiety, But Also Great Joy.

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People Attain Worth And Dignity By The Multitude Of Decisions They Make From Day To Day.

The Danger Always Exists That Our Technology Will Serve As A Buffer Between Us And Nature, A Block Between Us And The Deeper Dimensions Of Our Own Experience.

Professors Will Lecture With More Inspiration If They Occasionally Alternate The Classroom With The Beach: Authors Will Write Better When, As Macaulay Used To Do, They Write For Two Hours, Then Pitch Quoits, And Then Go Back To Their Writing. But Certainly More Than The Mere Mechanical Alternation Is Involved.

Life Comes From Physical Survival; But The Good Life Comes From What We Care About.

Creativity Is The Result Of A Struggle Between Vitality And Form. As Anyone Who Has Tried To Write A Sonnet Or Scan Poetry, Is Aware, The Form Ideally Do Not Take Away From The Creativity But May Add To It.

There Is No Authentic Inner Freedom That Does Not, Sooner Or Later, Also Affect And Change Human History.

Sooner Or Later

What Kierkegaard Said About Love Is Also True Of Creativity: Every Person Must Start At The Beginning.

Whereas Moral Courage Is The Righting Of Wrongs, Creative Courage, In Contrast, Is The Discovering Of New Forms, New Symbols, New Patterns On Which A New Society Can Be Built.

Existential Psychotherapy Is The Movement Which, Although Standing On One Side On The Scientific Analysis Owed Chiefly To The Genius Of Freud , Also Brings Back Into The Picture The Understanding Of Man On The Deeper And Broader Level Man As The Being Who Is Human. It Is Based On The Assumption That It Is Possible To Have A Science Of Man Which Does Not Fragmentize Man And Destroy His Humanity At The Same Moment As It Studies Him. It Unites Science And Ontology .

Artists Do Not Run Away From Non-being, But By Encountering And Wrestling With It, Force It To Produce Being.

Freedom Does Not Come Automatically; It Is Achieved. And It Is Not Gained In A Single Bound; It Must Be Achieved Each Day.

We Must Always Base Our Commitment In The Center Of Our Own Being, Or Else No Commitment Will Be Ultimately Authentic.

There Is An Energy Field Between Humans. And, When We Reach Out In Passion, It Is Met With An Answering Passion And Changes The Relationship Forever.

A Dynamic Struggle Goes On Within A Person Between What He Or She Consciously Thinks On The One Hand And, On The Other, Some Insight, Some Perspective That Is Struggling To Be Born.

Competitive Individualism Militates Against The Experience Of Community, And That Lack Of Community Is A Centrally Important Factor In Contemporaneous Anxiety.

The Amazing Thing About Love Is That It Is The Best Way To Get To Know Ourselves.

All Our Feelings, Like The Artist's Paints And Brush, Are Ways Of Communicating And Sharing Something Meaningful From Us To The World.

Now, I Believe In Life, And I Believe In The Joy Of Human Existence, But These Things Cannot Be Experienced Except As We Also Face The Despair, Also Face The Anxiety That Every Human Being Has To Face If He Lives With Any Creativity At All.

When We Are Dealing With Human Beings, No Truth Has Reality By Itself; It Is Always Dependent Upon The Reality Of The Immediate Relationship.

One Must Have At Least A Readiness To Love The Other Person, Broadly Speaking, If One Is To Be Able To Understand Him.

Creativity Is A Yearning For Immortality

The Rebel Is Committed To Giving A Form And Pattern To The World. It Is A Pattern Born Of The Indomitable Thrust Of The Human Mind, The Mind Which Makes Out Of The Mass Of Meaningless Data In The World An Order And A Form.

Our Thesis Is That Symbols And Myths Are An Expression Of Man's Unique Self-consciousness, His Capacity To Transcend The Immediate Concrete Situation And See His Life In Terms Of 'the Possible,' And That This Capacity Is One Aspect Of His Experiencing Himself As A Being Having A World.

Poets Often Have A Conscious Awareness That They Are Struggling With The Daimonic, And That The Issue Is Their Working Something Through From The Depths Which Push The Self To A New Plane.

Humor Is The Healthy Way Of Feeling "distance" Between One's Self And The Problem, A Way Of Standing Off And Looking At One's Problem With Perspective.

The First Thing Necessary For A Constructive Dealing With Time Is To Learn To Live In The Reality Of The Present Moment. For Psychologically Speaking, This Present Moment Is All We Have.

People Only Change When It Becomes Too Dangerous To Stay The Way They Are.

It Is An Ironic Habit Of Human Beings To Run Faster When We Have Lost Our Way.

Generally, The Shaking Is Consciously Felt In Its Positive Aspects — As The Wonderful New Heaven And Earth Which Love With Its Miracle And Mystery Has Suddenly Produced. Love Is The Answer, We Sing. Our Western Culture Seems To Be Engaged In A Romantic - Albeit Desperate - Conspiracy To Enforce The Illusion That That Is All There Is To Eros.

Falling In Love

It Is Amazing How Many Hints And Guides And Intuitions For Living Come To The Sensitive Person Who Has Ears To Hear What His Body Is Saying.

Sensitive Person

Courage Is Required Not Only In A Person's Occasional Crucial Decision For His Own Freedom, But In The Little Hour-to-hour Decisions Which Place The Bricks In The Structure Of His Building Of Himself Into A Person Who Acts With Freedom And Responsibility.

One Longs For The Presence Of A Leader Like Lincoln, Who Openly Admitted His Doubts And As Openly Preserved His Commitment.

When You Are Completely Absorbed Or Caught Up In Something, You Become Oblivious To Things Around You, Or To The Passage Of Time. It Is This Absorption In What You Are Doing That Frees Your Unconscious And Releases Your Creative Imagination.

Symbols Are Specific Acts Or Figures, While Myths Develop And Elaborate These Symbols Into A Story Which Contains Characters And Several Episodes. The Myth Is Thus More Inclusive. But Both Symbol And Myth Have The Same Function Psychologically; They Are Man's Way Of Expressing The Quintessence Of His Experience - His Way Of Seeing His Life, His Self-image And His Relations To The World Of His Fellow Men And Of Nature - In A Total Figure Which At The Same Moment Carries The Vital Meaning Of This Experience.

Understanding And Love Require A Wisdom That Comes Only With Age.

Joy Is The Effect Which Comes When We Use Our Powers.

Many People Suffer From The Fear Of Finding Oneself Alone, And So They Don't Find Themselves At All.

Ecstasy Is The Accurate Term For The Intensity Of Consciousness That Occurs In The Creative Act.

The Constructive Schizoid Person Stands Against The Spiritual Emptiness Of Encroaching Technology And Does Not Let Himself Be Emptied By It. He Lives And Works With The Machine Without Becoming A Machine. He Finds It Necessary To Remain Detached Enough To Get Meaning From The Experience, But In Doing So, To Protect His Own Inner Life From Impoverishment.

By The Creative Act, We Are Able To Reach Beyond Our Own Death.

Intimacy Requires Courage Because Risk Is Inescapable. We Cannot Know At The Outset How The Relationship Will Affect Us. Like A Chemical Mixture, If One Of Us Is Changed, Both Of Us Will Be. Will We Grow In Self-actualization, Or Will It Destroy Us? The One Thing We Can Be Certain Of Is That If We Let Ourselves Fully Into The Relationship For Good Or Evil, We Will Not Come Out Unaffected.

One Of The Few Blessings Of Living In An Age Of Anxiety Is That We Are Forced To Become Aware Of Ourselves.

It Is Necessary For The Birthing Process To Begin To Move In Its Own Organic Time. It Is Necessary That The Artist Have This Sense Of Timing, That He Or She Respect... Periods Of Receptivity As Part Of The Mystery Of Creativity And Creation.

When I Fall In Love, I Feel More Valuable And I Treat Myself With More Care. We Have All Observed The Hesitant Adolescent, Uncertain Of Himself, Who, When He Or She Falls In Love, Suddenly Walks With A Certain Inner Assuredness And Confidence, A Mien Which Seems To Say, "you Are Looking At Somebody Now." For This Inner Sense Of Worth That Comes With Being In Love Does Not Seem To Depend Essentially On Whether The Love Is Returned Or Not.

Falling In Love

Creativity Is The Process Of Bringing Something New Into Being. Creativity Requires Passion And Commitment. It Brings To Our Awareness What Was Previously Hidden And Points To New Life. The Experience Is One Of Heightened Consciousness: Ecstasy.

The Acorn Becomes An Oak By Means Of Automatic Growth; No Commitment Is Necessary. The Kitten Similarly Becomes A Cat On The Basis Of Instinct. Nature And Being Are Identical In Creatures Like Them. But A Man Or Woman Becomes Fully Human Only By His Or Her Choices And His Or Her Commitment To Them. People Attain Worth And Dignity By The Multitude Of Decisions They Make From Day By Day. These Decisions Require Courage.

This Personal Freedom To Think And Feel And Speak Authentically And To Be Conscious Of So Doing Is The Quality That Distinguishes Us As Human.

The Individual Human Is Still The Creature Who Can Wonder, Who Can Be Enchanted By A Sonata, Who Can Place Symbols Together To Make Poetry To Gladden Our Heart, Who Can View A Sunrise With A Sense Of Majesty And Awe.

If You Do Not Express Your Own Original Ideas, If You Do Not Listen To Your Own Being, You Will Have Betrayed Yourself.

Courage Is Not The Absence Of Despair; It Is, Rather, The Capacity To Move Ahead In Spite Of Despair.

Courage Is Necessary To Make Being And Becoming Possible.

That Because Of This Interplay Of Conscious And Unconscious Factors In Guilt And The Impossibility Of Legalistic Blame, We Are Forced Into An Attitude Of Acceptance Of The Universal Human Situation And A Recognition Of The Participation Of Every One Of Us In Man's Inhumanity To Man.

There Is Nobody Who Totally Lacks The Courage To Change.

Courage To Change

This Is Hard For Parents To Say Genuinely.

There Is A Curiously Sharp Sense Of Joy - Or Perhaps Better Expressed, A Sense Of Mild Ecstasy - That Comes When You Find The Particular Form Required By Your Creation.

The Function Of The Rebel Is To Shake The Fixated Mores Of The Rigid Order Of Civilization; And This Shaking, Though Painful, Is Necessary If The Society Is To Be Saved From Boredom And Apathy. Obviously I Do Not Refer To Everyone Who Calls Himself A Rebel, But Only To The Authentic Rebel. Civilization Gets Its First Flower From The Rebel.

The Daimonic Is Any Natural Function Which Has The Power To Take Over The Whole Person. Sex And Eros, Anger And Rage, And The Craving For Power Are Examples. The Daimonic Can Be Either Creative Or Destructive And Is Normally Both.

Mass Communication--wonder As It May Be Technologically And Something To Be Appreciated And Valued--presents Us Wit A Serious Daner, The Danger Of Conformism, Due To The Fact That We All View The Same Things At The Same Time In All The Cities Of The Country. (p. 73)

Our Age Is One Of Transition, In Which The Normal Channels For Utilizing The Daimonic Are Denied; And Such Ages Tend To Be Times When The Daimonic Is Expressed In Its Most Destructive Form.

To Say A Person Is A Coward Has No More Meaning Than To Say He Is Lazy: It Simply Tells Us That Some Vital Potentiality Is Unrealized Or Blocked.

It Is Dangerous To Know, But It Is More Dangerous Not To Know.

Creative People... Are Distinguished By The Fact That They Can Live With Anxiety, Even Though A High Price May Be Paid In Terms Of Insecurity, Sensitivity, And Defenselessness For The Gift Of 'divine Madness,' To Borrow The Term Used By The Classical Greeks.

Creativity Is Not Merely The Innocent Spontaneity Of Our Youth And Childhood; It Must Also Be Married To The Passion Of The Adult Human Being, Which Is A Passion To Live Beyond One's Death.

However It May Be Confounded Or Covered Up Or Counterfeited, This Elemental Capacity To Fight Against Injustice Remains The Distinguishing Characteristic Of Human Beings.

Lacking Positive Myths To Guide Him, Many A Sensitive Contemporary Man Finds Only The Model Of The Machine Beckoning Him From Every Side To Make Himself Over Into Its Image.

... What The Artist Or Creative Scientist Feels Is Not Anxiety Or Fear; It Is Joy. I Use The Word In Contrast To Happiness Or Pleasure. The Artist, At The Moment Of Creating, Does Not Experience Gratification Or Satisfaction... Rather, It Is Joy, Joy Defined As The Emotion That Goes With Heightened Consciousness, The Mood That Accompanies The Experience Of Actualizing One's Own Potentialities.

It Is Interesting To Note How Many Of The Great Scientific Discoveries Begin As Myths.

Fortunately, However, We No Longer Have To Argue That Self -love Is Not Only Necessary And Good But That It Also Is A Prerequisite For Loving Others.

People In Your Life

We Cannot Will To Have Insights. We Cannot Will To Have Creativity, But We Can Will To Give Ourselves To The Creative Experience With Intensity Of Dedication And Commitment.

A Person Can Meet Anxiety To The Extent That His Values Are Stronger Than The Threat.

Memory Is Not Just The Imprint Of The Past Time Upon Us; It Is The Keeper Of What Is Meaningful For Our Deepest Hopes And Fears.

The Creative Process Must Be Explored... As The Expression Of The Normal People In The Act Of Actualizing Themselves.

Love Is Generally Confused With Dependence; But In Point Of Fact, You Can Love Only In Proportion To Your Capacity For Independence.

Does Not The Possibility Or The Power To Do Something About The Situation At Hand Confer On One The Responsibility To Do It?

Insight Comes At A Moment Of Transition Between Work And Relaxation.

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