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Today Washington Is Our Hollywood, The Senate Our Warner Bros., The White House Our Beverly Hills. People Who Never Read A Line Of A Movie Magazine Deal With The Lives Of Leaders As If They Were Elizabeth Taylor And Richard Burton.

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Today Washington Is Our

Ellen Goodman

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Today Washington Is Our Hollywood, The Senate Our Warner Bros., The White House Our Beverly Hills. People Who Never Read A Line Of A Movie Magazine Deal With The Lives Of Leaders As If They Were Elizabeth Taylor And Richard Burton.

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