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The Lusts Of The Flesh Can Be Gratified Anywhere; It Is Not This Sort Of License That Distinguishes New York. It Is Rather, A Lust Of The Total Ego For Recognition, Even For Eminence. More Than Elsewhere, Everybody Here Wants To Be Somebody.

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The Lusts Of The Flesh Can Be Gratified Anywhere; It Is Not This Sort Of License That Distinguishes New York. It Is Rather, A Lust Of The Total Ego For Recognition, Even For Eminence. More Than Elsewhere, Everybody Here Wants To Be Somebody.

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The Acceptance Of Ambiguity Implies More Than The Commonplace Understanding That Some Good Things And Some Bad Things Happen To Us. It Means That We Know That Good And Evil Are Inextricably Intermixed In Human Affairs; That They Contain, And Sometimes Embrace, Their Opposites; That Success May Involve Failure Of A Different Kind, And Failure May Be A Kind Of Triumph.

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Usually, If We Hate, It Is The Shadow Of The Person That We Hate, Rather Than The Substance. We May Hate A Person Because He Reminds Us Of Someone We Feared And Disliked When Younger; Or Because We See In Him Some Gross Caricature Of What We Find Repugnant In Ourself; Or Because He Symbolizes An Attitude That Seems To Threaten Us.

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Ancient Boundaries Are Meaningless, Except For Political Purposes; Old Divisions Of Clan And Tribe Are Sentimental Remnants Of The Pre-atomic Age; Neither Creed Nor Color Nor Place Of Origin Is Relevant To The Realities Of Modern Power To Utterly Seek And Destroy.

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Every Rule In The Book Can Be Broken, Except One - Be Who You Are, And Become All You Were Meant To Be.

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Filth Is Always A Sign Of Weakness - In The Mouth Of The User And In The Mind Of The Writer.

People Who Won't Help Others In Trouble "because They Got Into Trouble Through Their Own Fault" Would Probably Not Throw A Lifeline To A Drowning Person Until They Learned Whether That Person Fell In Through His Or Her Own Fault Or Not.

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The Reason That Truth Is Stranger Than Fiction Is That Fiction Has To Have A Rational Thread Running Through It In Order To Be Believable, Whereas Reality May Be Totally Irrational.

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No One Should Pay Attention To A Man Delivering A Lecture Or A Sermon On His "philosophy Of Life" Until We Know Exactly How He Treats His Wife, His Children, His Neighbors, His Friends, His Subordinates And His Enemies.

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A Loser Says That's The Way It's Always Been Done. A Winner Says There Ought To Be A Better Way.

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