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The Best Kind Of Men Have A Certainty In Themselves That Isn't Done In When Countered By A Certainty In Their Women, And They Are Much Adored.

-Merle Shain

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The Best Kind Of Men Have A Certainty In Themselves That Isn't Done In When Countered By A Certainty In Their Women, And They Are Much Adored.

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