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Shame Is Something You'll Find A Lot Of - Particularly Catholic - Girls Feel About Their Bodies, About Their Sexuality, About Their Diet, About Anything You Like. Shame Is The Way You Keep Them Down. That's The Way To Crush A Girl.

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Shame Is Something You'll

Rachel Cusk

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Shame Is Something You'll Find A Lot Of - Particularly Catholic - Girls Feel About Their Bodies, About Their Sexuality, About Their Diet, About Anything You Like. Shame Is The Way You Keep Them Down. That's The Way To Crush A Girl.

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