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One Of The Reasons It Has Seemed So Difficult For A Person To Change His Habits, His Personality, Or His Way Of Life, Has Been That Heretofore Nearly All Efforts At Change Have Been Directed To The Circumference Of The Self, So To Speak, Rather Than To The Center.

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Maxwell Maltz

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One Of The Reasons It Has Seemed So Difficult For A Person To Change His Habits, His Personality, Or His Way Of Life, Has Been That Heretofore Nearly All Efforts At Change Have Been Directed To The Circumference Of The Self, So To Speak, Rather Than To The Center.

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