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One Of The Most Revolutionary Concepts To Grow Out Of Our Clinical Experience Is The Growing Recognition That Innermost Core Of Man's Nature - The Deepest Layers Of His Personality, The Base Of His 'animal Nature' - Is Basically Socialized, Forward-moving, Rational And Realistic... He Is Realistically Able To Control Himself, And He Is Incorrigibly Socialized In His Desires. There Is No Beast In Man, There Is Only Man In Man.

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One Of The Most Revolutionary Concepts To Grow Out Of Our Clinical Experience Is The Growing Recognition That Innermost Core Of Man's Nature - The Deepest Layers Of His Personality, The Base Of His 'animal Nature' - Is Basically Socialized, Forward-moving, Rational And Realistic... He Is Realistically Able To Control Himself, And He Is Incorrigibly Socialized In His Desires. There Is No Beast In Man, There Is Only Man In Man.

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I Think My Deepest Criticism Of The Educational System . . . Is That It's All Based Upon A Distrust Of The Student. Don't Trust Him To Follow His Own Leads; Guide Him; Tell Him What To Do; Tell Him What He Should Think; Tell Him What He Should Learn. Consequently At The Very Age When He Should Be Developing Adult Characteristics Of Choice And Decision Making, When He Should Be Trusted On Some Of Those Things, Trusted To Make Mistakes And To Learn From Those Mistakes, He Is, Instead, Regimented And Shoved Into A Curriculum, Whether It Fits Him Or Not.

Unless Man Can Make New And Original Adaptations To His Environment As Rapidly As His Science Can Change The Environment, Our Culture Will Perish.

The Organism Has One Basic Tendency And Striving - To Actualize, Maintain, And Enhance The Experiencing Organism

Though Modern Marriage Is A Tremendous Laboratory, Its Members Are Often Without Preparation For The Partnership Function. How Much Agony And Remorse And Failure Could Have Been Avoided If There Had Been At Least Some Rudimentary Learning Before They Entered The Partnership.

The Facts Are Always Friendly, Every Bit Of Evidence One Can Acquire, In Any Area, Leads One That Much Closer To What Is True.

It Is That The Individual Has Within Him Or Herself Vast Resources For Self-understanding, For Altering The Self-concept Basic Attitudes, And His Or Her Self-directed Behavior - And That These Resources Can Be Tapped If Only A Definable Climate Of Facilitative Psychological Attitudes Can Be Provided

Facilitative Attitudes (and Skills) Can Help A Therapist Gain Entry Into The Group Freedom From A Desire To Control The Outcome, And Respect For The Capacity Of The Group, And Skills In Releasing Individual Expression Openness To All Attitudes No Matter How Extreme Or Unrealistic They May Seem Acceptance Of The Problems Experienced By The Group Where They Are Clearly Defined As Issues Allowance Of The Freedom Of Choices In Direction, Either For The Group Or Individuals Particularly In The Near Future

Learning Of All Kinds Goes On Best, Lasts Best, And Tends To Lead Itself On More When It Grows Out Of A Real Focus Of Interest In The Learner.

Experience Is, For Me, The Highest Authority. The Touchstone Of Validity Is My Own Experience. No Other Person's Ideas, And None Of My Own Ideas, Are As Authoritative As My Experience. It Is To Experience That I Must Return Again And Again, To Discover A Closer Approximation To Truth As It Is In The Process Of Becoming Me.

The Action Of The Child Inventing A New Game With His Playmates; Einstein Formulating A Theory Of Relativity; The Housewife Devising A New Sauce For The Meat, A Young Author Writing His First Novel; All Of These Are In Terms Of Definition, Creative, And There Is No Attempt To Set Them In Some Order Of More Or Less Creative.

It's An Awful Risky Thing To Live

Although The Client-centered Approach Had Its Origin Purely Within The Limits Of The Psychological Clinic, It Is Proving To Have Implications, Often Of A Startling Nature, For Very Diverse Fields Of Effort.

There Is Direction But There Is No Destination

In My Early Professional Years I Was Asking The Question: How Can I Treat, Or Cure, Or Change This Person? Now I Would Phrase The Question In This Way: How Can I Provide A Relationship Which This Person May Use For His Own Personal Growth?

Experience Is The Highest Authority.

The Mainspring Of Creativity Appears To Be The Same Tendency Which We Discover So Deeply As The Curative Force In Psychotherapy, Man's Tendency To Actualize Himself, To Become His Potentialities. By This I Mean The Organic And Human Life, The Urge To Expand, Extend, Develop, Mature - The Tendency To Express And Activate All The Capacities Of The Organism, Or The Self.

It Is The Client Who Knows What Hurts, What Directions To Go, What Problems Are Crucial, What Experiences Have Been Deeply Buried.

If I Can Listen To What He Can Tell Me, If I Can Understand How It Seems To Him; If I Can See Its Personal Meaning For Him, If I Can Sense The Emotional Flavor Which It Has For Him, Then I Will Be Releasing Potent Forces Of Change In Him.

The Sense Of Community Does Not Arise Out Of Collective Movement, Nor From Conforming To Some Group Direction. Quite The Contrary. Each Individual Tends To Use The Opportunity To Become All That He Or She Can Become. Separateness And Diversity - The Uniqueness Of Being "me" - Are Experienced

I Believe I Know Why It Is Satisfying To Me To Hear Someone. When I Can Really Hear Someone, It Puts Me In Touch With Him; It Enriches My Life. It Is Through Hearing People That I Have Learned All That I Know About Individuals, About Personality, About Interpersonal Relationships.

Openness To All Attitudes No Matter How Extreme Or Unrealistic They May Seem.

There Are As Many "real Worlds" As There Are People!

In A Person Who Is Open To Experience Each Stimulus Is Freely Relayed Through The Nervous System, Without Being Distorted By Any Process Of Defensiveness.

Neurotic Behavior Is Quite Predictable. Healthy Behavior Is Unpredictable.

If The Time Comes When Our Culture Tires Of The Endless Homicidal Feuds, Despairs Of The Use Of Force And War As A Means Of Bringing Peace, Becomes Discontent With The Half-lives That Its Members Are Living - Only Then Will Our Culture Seriously Look For Alternatives.

If I Were To Search For The Central Core Of Difficulty In People As I Have Come To Know Them, It Is That In The Great Majority Of Cases They Despise Themselves, Regarding Themselves As Worthless And Unlovable.

It Is Astonishing How Elements That Seem Insoluble Become Soluble When Someone Listens.

Passing Judgment

The Basic Idea Behind Teaching Is To Teach People What They Need To Know.

Experience Is, For Me, The Highest Authority.

I Prize The Privilege Of Being Alone.

With The Price Of Life These Days, You've Got To Get Everything For Free You Can.

True Empathy Is Always Free Of Any Evaluative Or Diagnostic Quality. This Comes Across To The Recipient With Some Surprise. "if I Am Not Being Judged, Perhaps I Am Not So Evil Or Abnormal As I Have Thought".

Each Person Is An Island Unto Himself, In A Very Real Sense; And He Can Only Build Bridges To Other Islands If He Is First Of All Willing To Be Himself And Permitted To Be Himself.

I Hear The Words, The Thoughts, The Feeling Tones, The Personal Meaning, Even The Meaning That Is Below The Conscious Intent Of The Speaker. Sometimes Too, In A Message Which Superficially Is Not Very Important, I Hear A Deep Human Cry That Lies Buried And Unknown Far Below The Surface Of The Person. So I Have Learned To Ask Myself, Can I Hear The Sounds And Sense The Shape Of This Other Person's Inner World? Can I Resonate To What He Is Saying So Deeply That I Sense The Meanings He Is Afraid Of, Yet Would Like To Communicate, As Well As Those He Knows?

Adults Who Think That Children Must Be Manipulated For Their Own Good Have Developed The Attitude Of A Controlling Parent Who Lacks Faith In Himself, The Child, Or Humanity Or Himself.

I Realize That If I Were Stable, Prudent And Static; I'd Live In Death. Therefore I Accept Confusion, Uncertainty, Fear And Emotional Ups And Downs; Because That's The Price I'm Willing To Pay For A Fluid, Perplexed And Exciting Life.

Powerful Is Our Need To Be Known, Really Known By Ourselves And Others, Even If Only For A Moment.

Allowance Of The Freedom Of Choices In Direction, Either For The Group Or Individuals Particularly In The Near Future.

"freedom, Individualism, Authenticity And Being Yourself So Long As You Don't Hurt Another's Physical Person Or Property: The Creative Process Is The Emergence In Action Of A Novel Relational Product, Growing Out Of The Uniqueness Of The Individual."

People Only Seriously Consider Change When They Feel Accepted For Exactly Who They Are.

Life, At Its Best, Is A Flowing, Changing Process In Which Nothing Is Fixed.

Am I Living In A Way Which Is Deeply Satisfying To Me, And Which Truly Expresses Me?

There Is In Every Organism, At Whatever Level, An Underlying Flow Of Movement Toward Constructive Fulfillment Of Its Inherent Possibilities.

I Was Forced To Stretch My Thinking, To Realize That Sincere And Honest People Could Believe In Very Divergent Religious Doctrines.

It Is Astonishing How Elements That Seem Insoluble Become Soluble When Someone Listens, How Confusions That Seem Irremediable Turn Into Relatively Clear Flowing Streams When One Is Heard.

We Think We Listen, But Very Rarely Do We Listen With Real Understanding, True Empathy. Yet Listening, Of This Very Special Kind, Is One Of The Most Potent Forces For Change That I Know.

I Believe That The Testing Of The Student's Achievements In Order To See If He Meets Some Criterion Held By The Teacher, Is Directly Contrary To The Implications Of Therapy For Significant Learning.

When I Look At The World I'm Pessimistic, But When I Look At People I Am Optimistic.

This Process Of The Good Life Is Not, I Am Convinced, A Life For The Faint-hearted. It Involves The Stretching And Growing Of Becoming More And More Of One's Potentialities. It Involves The Courage To Be. It Means Launching Oneself Fully Into The Stream Of Life.

The Genuinely Significant Creation, Whether An Idea, Or A Work Of Art, Or A Scientific Discovery, Is Most Likely To Be Seen At First As Erroneous, Bad, Or Foolish. Later It May Be Seen As Obvious, Something Self-evident To All. Only Still Later Does It Receive Its Final Evaluation As A Creative Contribution. It Seems Clear No Contemporary Mortal Can Satisfactorily Evaluate A Creative Product At The Time It Is Formed, And This Statement Is Increasingly True The Greater The Novelty Of The Creation.

It Is A Direction Not A Destination.

As No One Else Can Know How We Perceive, We Are The Best Experts On Ourselves.

One Of The Most Revolutionary Concepts To Grow Out Of Our Clinical Experience Is The Growing Recognition That Innermost Core Of Man's Nature - The Deepest Layers Of His Personality, The Base Of His 'animal Nature' - Is Basically Socialized, Forward-moving, Rational And Realistic... He Is Realistically Able To Control Himself, And He Is Incorrigibly Socialized In His Desires. There Is No Beast In Man, There Is Only Man In Man.

An Empathic Way Of Being Can Be Learned From Empathic Persons. Perhaps The Most Important Statement Of All Is That The Ability To Be Accurately Empathic Is Something Which Can Be Developed By Training. Therapists, Parents And Teachers Can Be Helped To Become Empathic. This Is Especially Likely To Occur If Their Teachers And Supervisors Are Themselves Individuals Of Sensitive Understanding. It Is Most Encouraging To Know That This Subtle, Elusive Quality, Of Utmost Importance In Therapy, Is Not Something One Is "born With", But Can Be Learned, And Learned Most Rapidly In An Empathic Climate.

If We Value Independence, If We Are Disturbed By The Growing Conformity Of Knowledge, Of Values, Of Attitudes, Which Our Present System Induces, Then We May Wish To Set Up Conditions Of Learning Which Make For Uniqueness, For Self-direction, And For Self-initiated Learning.

People Are Just As Wonderful As Sunsets If You Let Them Be. When I Look At A Sunset, I Don't Find Myself Saying, "soften The Orange A Bit On The Right Hand Corner." I Don't Try To Control A Sunset. I Watch With Awe As It Unfolds.

What Is Most Personal Is Most Universal

When I Can Relax, And Be Close To The Transcendental Core Of Me, Then I May Behave In Strange And Impulsive Ways In The Relationship, Ways I Cannot Justify Rationally, Which Have Nothing To Do With My Thought Processes. But These Strange Behaviors Turn Out To Be Right In Some Odd Way. At These Moments It Seems That My Inner Spirit Has Reached Out And Touched The Inner Spirit Of The Other. Our Relationship Transcends Itself And Has Become Something Larger.

The Curious Paradox Is That When I Accept Myself Just As I Am, Then I Can Change.

To Perceive The Internal Frame Of Reference Of Another With Accuracy And With The Emotional Components And Meanings Which Pertain Thereto As If One Were The Person, But Without Ever Losing The "as If" Condition. Thus, It Means To Sense The Hurt Or The Pleasure Of Another As He Senses It And To Perceive The Causes Thereof As He Perceives Them, But Without Ever Losing The Recognition That It Is As If I Were Hurt Or Pleased And So Forth.

The Paradigm Of Western Culture Is That The Essence Of Persons Is Dangerous; Thus, They Must Be Taught, Guided, And Controlled By Those With Superior Authority.

Western Culture

We Can Choose To Use Our Growing Knowledge To Enslave People In Ways Never Dreamed Of Before, Depersonalizing Them, Controlling Them By Means So Carefully Selected That They Will Perhaps Never Be Aware Of Their Loss Of Personhood.

Growing Knowledge

What I Am Is Good Enough If I Would Only Be It Openly.

Don't Be A Damned Ammunition Wagon. Be A Rifle!

Don't Be The Ammunition Wagon, Be The Rifle... Knowledge Exists Primarily For Use.

To Be Original, Or Different, Is Felt To Be "dangerous."

The Purpose Of Adult Education Is To Help Them To Learn, Not To Teach Them All You Know And Thus Stop Them From Learning.

No Other Person's Ideas, And None Of My Own Ideas, Are As Authoritative As My Experience.

You Know That I Don't Believe That Anyone Has Ever Taught Anything To Anyone. I Question That Efficacy Of Teaching. The Only Thing That I Know Is That Anyone Who Wants To Learn Will Learn. And Maybe A Teacher Is A Facilitator, A Person Who Puts Things Down And Shows People How Exciting And Wonderful It Is And Asks Them To Eat.

Empathy Is A Special Way Of Coming To Know Another And Ourself, A Kind Of Attuning And Understanding. When Empathy Is Extended, It Satisfies Our Needs And Wish For Intimacy, It Rescues Us From Our Feelings Of Aloneness.

The Only Reality I Can Possibly Know Is The World As I Perceive It At This Moment. The Only Reality You Can Possibly Know Is The World As You See It At This Moment. And The Only Certainty Is That Those Perceived Realities Are Different. There Are As Many “real Worlds” As There Are People!

So, As You Can Readily See From What I Have Said Thus Far, A Creative, Active, Sensitive, Accurate, Empathic, Nonjudgmental Listening Is For Me Terribly Important In A Relationship. It Is Important For Me To Provide It; It Has Been Extremely Important, Especially At Certain Times In My Life, To Receive It. I Feel That I Have Grown Within Myself When I Have Provided It; I Am Very Sure That I Have Grown And Been Released And Enhanced When I Have Received This Kind Of Listening.

I Have Learned That In Any Significant Or Continuing Relationship, Feelings Which Are Persistent Had Best Be Expressed. If They Are Expressed As Feelings Owned By Me, The Result May Be Temporarily Upsetting But Ultimately Far More Rewarding Than Any Attempt To Deny Or Conceal Them.

When The Other Person Is Hurting, Confused, Troubled, Anxious, Alienated, Terrified; Or When He Or She Is Doubtful Of Self-worth, Uncertain As To Identity, Then Understanding Is Called For. The Gentle And Sensitive Companionship Of An Empathic Stance… Provides Illumination And Healing. In Such Situations Deep Understanding Is, I Believe, The Most Precious Gift One Can Give To Another.

The Good Life Is A Process, Not A State Of Being. It Is A Direction Not A Destination.

A Second Characteristic Of The Process Which For Me Is The Good Life, Is That It Involves An Increasingly Tendency To Live Fully In Each Moment. I Believe It Would Be Evident That For The Person Who Was Fully Open To His New Experience, Completely Without Defensiveness, Each Moment Would Be New.

New Experiences

The Degree To Which I Can Create Relationships, Which Facilitate The Growth Of Others As Separate Persons, Is A Measure Of The Growth I Have Achieved In Myself.

I Am Increasingly An Architect Of Self. I Am Free To Will And Choose. I Can, Through Accepting My Individuality... Become More Of My Uniqueness, More Of My Potentiality.

There Is Another Peculiar Satisfaction In Really Hearing Someone: It Is Like Listening To The Music Of The Spheres, Because Beyond The Immediate Message Of The Person, No Matter What That Might Be, There Is The Universal. Hidden In All Of The Personal Communications Which I Really Hear There Seem To Be Orderly Psychological Laws, Aspects Of The Same Order We Find In The Universe As A Whole. So There Is Both The Satisfaction Of Hearing This Person And Also The Satisfaction Of Feeling One's Self In Touch With What Is Universally True.

Growth Occurs When Individuals Confront Problems, Struggle To Master Them, And Through That Struggle Develop New Aspects Of Their Skills, Capacities, Views About Life.

What You Are To Be, You Are Now Becoming.

We Cannot Change, We Cannot Move Away From What We Are, Until We Thoroughly Accept What We Are. Then Change Seems To Come About Almost Unnoticed.

We In The West Seem To Have Made A Fetish Out Of Complete Individual Self-sufficiency, Of Not Needing Help, Of Being Completely Private Except In A Very Few Selected Relationships.

Loneliness Is A Barrier That Prevents One From Uniting With The Inner Self.

The Way Of Being With Another Person Which Is Termed Empathic...means Temporarily Living In Their Life, Moving Abut In It Delicately Without Making Judgment... To Be With Another In This Way Means That For The Time Being You Lay Aside The Views And Values You Hold For Yourself In Order To Enter The Other's World Without Prejudice...a Complex, Demanding, Strong Yet Subtle And Gentle Way Of Being.

Most Of Us Consist Of Two Separated Parts, Trying Desperately To Bring Themselves Together Into An Integrated Soma, Where The Distinctions Between Mind And Body, Feelings And Intellect, Would Be Obliterated.

The State Of Empathy, Or Being Empathic, Is To Perceive The Internal Frame Of Reference Of Another With Accuracy And With The Emotional Components And Meanings Which Pertain Thereto As If One Were The Person.

When A Person Realizes He Has Been Deeply Heard, His Eyes Moisten. I Think In Some Real Sense He Is Weeping For Joy. It Is As Though He Were Saying, "thank God, Somebody Heard Me. Someone Knows What It's Like To Be Me".

I Have Come To Think That One Of The Most Satisfying Experiences I Know — And Also One Of The Most Growth-promoting Experiences For The Other Person — Is Just Fully To Appreciate This Individual In The Same Way That I Appreciate A Sunset.

The Education Situation Which Most Effectively Promotes Significant Learning Is One In Which (1) Threat To The Self Of The Learner Is Reduced To A Minimum And (2) Differential Perception Of The Field Of Experience Is Facilitated

When Someone Really Hears You Without Passing Judgment On You, Without Trying To Take Responsibility For You, Without Trying To Mold You, It Feels Damn Good. . . . When I Have Been Listened To And When I Have Been Heard, I Am Able To Re-perceive My World In A New Way And To Go On. It Is Astonishing How Elements Which Seem Insoluble Become Soluble When Someone Listens. How Confusions Which Seem Irremediable Turn Into Relatively Clear Flowing Streams When One Is Heard.

Man's Inability To Communicate Is A Result Of His Failure To Listen Effectively.

Effective Listening

Over The Years, However, The Research Evidence Keeps Piling Up, And It Points Strongly To The Conclusion That A High Degree Of Empathy In A Relationship Is Possibly The Most Potent And Certainly One Of The Most Potent Factors In Bringing About Change And Learning.

The Very Essence Of The Creative Is Its Novelty, And Hence We Have No Standard By Which To Judge It.

Both The Young And The Old Are Almost Completely Useless In Our Modern Society, And Are Made Keenly Aware Of That Uselessness. They Have No Place. They Are Private, Isolated - And Hopeless.

The Kind Of Caring That The Client-centered Therapist Desires To Achieve Is A Gullible Caring, In Which Clients Are Accepted As They Say They Are, Not With A Lurking Suspicion In The Therapist's Mind That They May, In Fact, Be Otherwise. This Attitude Is Not Stupidity On The Therapist's Part; It Is The Kind Of Attitude That Is Most Likely To Lead To Trust.

The Only Person Who Cannot Be Helped Is That Person Who Blames Others.

Life Is About Being & Becoming.

A Person Cannot Teach Another Person Directly; A Person Can Only Facilitate Another's Learning

The Only Person Who Is Educated Is The One Who Has Learned How To Learn And Change.

The Elements In A Relationship Which Seem Impossible To Share, The Secretly Disturbing, Dissatisfying Elements, Are The Most Rewarding To Share. This Is A Hard, Risky, Frightening Thing To Learn, And It Needs To Be Re-learned Over And Over.

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